My very wonderful Boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. Marriage has never been overly important to either of us and we've only recently discussed the idea of marriage and an engagement ring hunt. Now my issue, I apologize if I'm divulging too much information. I'm not looking to brag, but feel it's important to the overall issue, and with the anonymity that the internet offers, hopefully its only a minor faux pas in this instance.
My boyfriend is non-traditional and understandably, overwhelmed at the thought of ring shopping, as shopping in general scares him. He asked me to go find a ring that I would love, which in turn (in theory) would provide better results for both of us!
Now, in 6 years, he has never bought me a single piece of jewellery, I'm not typical in the way that I like/expect to receive jewelery regularly. BUT I do want my engagement ring to be beautiful, timeless and a family heriloom. In all likelihood, this will be the only piece of jewelery I'll receive from him ever (minus the wedding band..). I should also mention that I have a size 3.5 finger so it's not as simple as just walking into a store and picking something. I found a suitable ring for 8100.00 and he is APPALLED by the price.. Sure, this is a lot of money BUT; (and here's where I may over divulge)
-Were NOT having a wedding, eloping and a small gathering of only family (meaning almost no expense)
-We have a combined income of 200,000+ a year
-He buys himself a new toy (ie 10,000 dirtbike, sled, etc. every year)
-We are both responsible financially, live well within our means and our mortgage is well below what we can afford.
-I've never once received Jewelery, and don't expect to again. As a one time deal, I sort of hoped to get exactly what I want.
-I've had to do all the work, research, diamond hunting and I'll be coordinating the purchase and shipping. Hes not really involved except the funding. Sort of takes any amount of romance out of it.
Now, this is starting to cause a bit of a rift and some animosity between us. I feel like I should be worth as least as much as one of the dirt-bikes he buys EVERY YEAR! And I'm certainly not asking him to fore-go a toy for a ring (because buying both would be FINE). He claims he just doesn't understand the whole "engagement ring thing" and finds that spending that amount of money on something I wear on my finger ridiculous.
Please tell me if I'm acting like a spoiled brat in this situation. My feelings are hurt and I don't want a ring that he doesn't want to get me. I'm surrounded by friends who's husbands would strive to get them their dream ring, even if it meant saving a bit longer or forgoing something like, oh I don't know, a new sled, that year. Maybe I'm jaded by that mindset.
All honest opinions (brutal if required!) are welcome!
My boyfriend is non-traditional and understandably, overwhelmed at the thought of ring shopping, as shopping in general scares him. He asked me to go find a ring that I would love, which in turn (in theory) would provide better results for both of us!
Now, in 6 years, he has never bought me a single piece of jewellery, I'm not typical in the way that I like/expect to receive jewelery regularly. BUT I do want my engagement ring to be beautiful, timeless and a family heriloom. In all likelihood, this will be the only piece of jewelery I'll receive from him ever (minus the wedding band..). I should also mention that I have a size 3.5 finger so it's not as simple as just walking into a store and picking something. I found a suitable ring for 8100.00 and he is APPALLED by the price.. Sure, this is a lot of money BUT; (and here's where I may over divulge)
-Were NOT having a wedding, eloping and a small gathering of only family (meaning almost no expense)
-We have a combined income of 200,000+ a year
-He buys himself a new toy (ie 10,000 dirtbike, sled, etc. every year)
-We are both responsible financially, live well within our means and our mortgage is well below what we can afford.
-I've never once received Jewelery, and don't expect to again. As a one time deal, I sort of hoped to get exactly what I want.
-I've had to do all the work, research, diamond hunting and I'll be coordinating the purchase and shipping. Hes not really involved except the funding. Sort of takes any amount of romance out of it.
Now, this is starting to cause a bit of a rift and some animosity between us. I feel like I should be worth as least as much as one of the dirt-bikes he buys EVERY YEAR! And I'm certainly not asking him to fore-go a toy for a ring (because buying both would be FINE). He claims he just doesn't understand the whole "engagement ring thing" and finds that spending that amount of money on something I wear on my finger ridiculous.
Please tell me if I'm acting like a spoiled brat in this situation. My feelings are hurt and I don't want a ring that he doesn't want to get me. I'm surrounded by friends who's husbands would strive to get them their dream ring, even if it meant saving a bit longer or forgoing something like, oh I don't know, a new sled, that year. Maybe I'm jaded by that mindset.
All honest opinions (brutal if required!) are welcome!