Morgie44
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My husband and I got married a little over a month ago and we haven''t received a gift from my new SILs (husbands sisters) I know that it is rude to EXPECT gifts from anyone for getting married (or any occasion). It''s just that I am more than a little hurt by it. DH is very close to both his sisters, while my relationship with SILs is fairly tepid. Even though I know that they aren''t crazy about me marrying their brother, I still feel like they are intentionally slighting us...
I think what is making it sting so much is that DH''s family often expresses their affection by buying each other things rather than physically or verbally. At Christmas it almost seems like a competition of who can spend more on each other. Also, DH''s older sister had a baby this spring and the other sister gave her the crib and dresser as a gift and we gave her a really nice glider and ottoman for the nursery that we spent a lot of time visiting stores and shopping for and for the older sister''s wedding both DH and younger SIL gave equally expensive gifts (at her wedding shower). We have not even gotten a card or a verbal congratulations/recognition of our marriage. I feel so selfish and stupid for being so upset over a gift, but everytime I think about the situation, I feel like crying!
I think what is making it sting so much is that DH''s family often expresses their affection by buying each other things rather than physically or verbally. At Christmas it almost seems like a competition of who can spend more on each other. Also, DH''s older sister had a baby this spring and the other sister gave her the crib and dresser as a gift and we gave her a really nice glider and ottoman for the nursery that we spent a lot of time visiting stores and shopping for and for the older sister''s wedding both DH and younger SIL gave equally expensive gifts (at her wedding shower). We have not even gotten a card or a verbal congratulations/recognition of our marriage. I feel so selfish and stupid for being so upset over a gift, but everytime I think about the situation, I feel like crying!