Hello All,
After much research and forum lurking I have come up with the foundation of a proposal idea that I like and would appreciate any advice or opinions.
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years and fell in love at the moment we met. I'll save the mushy gushy details and simply say that we have an unconditional, passionate love we've yet to see rivaled in our lives. We have every intention of getting married and having children fairly soon and talk about it regularly. The only thing stopping us is an engagement and wedding of course. Unfortunately for us we find ourselves in career paths that haven't allowed the financial freedom to provide ourselves a legitimate proposal or wedding scenario. Simply put, I haven't been able to save for the ring I know she will love and deserve and neither of us have the funds to put together a wedding at this time.
Normally I would say that if I don't have the financial freedom to provide even an engagement ring... I am not in a position to get married. Now I can't disagree any more. I don't want to let a missing ring keep us from marriage. I'm confident I will make the money in time to provide her the ring she deserves, I don't care what anyone things of me as the deadbeat ringless boyfriend and I know if I make it memorable... she'll smile, and say yes. I simply fear not making it memorable enough to make up for the lack of a ring.
So this is where my head is at:
I can propose to her without a ring and give her the ring in an extravagant way when the time comes. To propose...
I want to find the right time and place and simply profess my undying love for her, my commitment to her and our future family, the passion I have for her and that I just can't wait any longer to make her my wife, get married and take the next step in our life partnership.
I am thinking of buying THIS necklace with the engravement "Will you marry me?" on it as well as 4 birthstones that signify the months we took the next steps in our relationsip(met, first date, officially together and proposal) and using that as what I propose to her with while either on bending knee or not(can't decide what would make more sense.)
I think my heartfelt expression of love will be something out of a movie but is it truly something to be remembered and is that gift not worthy of the moment?
I know nobody here knows her... but I ask of you personally, in her shoes and in our shoes... would a proposal like this be worth it or would you rather wait the years it may take to provide a customary engagement?
Much Appreciation,
Austin
After much research and forum lurking I have come up with the foundation of a proposal idea that I like and would appreciate any advice or opinions.
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years and fell in love at the moment we met. I'll save the mushy gushy details and simply say that we have an unconditional, passionate love we've yet to see rivaled in our lives. We have every intention of getting married and having children fairly soon and talk about it regularly. The only thing stopping us is an engagement and wedding of course. Unfortunately for us we find ourselves in career paths that haven't allowed the financial freedom to provide ourselves a legitimate proposal or wedding scenario. Simply put, I haven't been able to save for the ring I know she will love and deserve and neither of us have the funds to put together a wedding at this time.
Normally I would say that if I don't have the financial freedom to provide even an engagement ring... I am not in a position to get married. Now I can't disagree any more. I don't want to let a missing ring keep us from marriage. I'm confident I will make the money in time to provide her the ring she deserves, I don't care what anyone things of me as the deadbeat ringless boyfriend and I know if I make it memorable... she'll smile, and say yes. I simply fear not making it memorable enough to make up for the lack of a ring.
So this is where my head is at:
I can propose to her without a ring and give her the ring in an extravagant way when the time comes. To propose...
I want to find the right time and place and simply profess my undying love for her, my commitment to her and our future family, the passion I have for her and that I just can't wait any longer to make her my wife, get married and take the next step in our life partnership.
I am thinking of buying THIS necklace with the engravement "Will you marry me?" on it as well as 4 birthstones that signify the months we took the next steps in our relationsip(met, first date, officially together and proposal) and using that as what I propose to her with while either on bending knee or not(can't decide what would make more sense.)
I think my heartfelt expression of love will be something out of a movie but is it truly something to be remembered and is that gift not worthy of the moment?
I know nobody here knows her... but I ask of you personally, in her shoes and in our shoes... would a proposal like this be worth it or would you rather wait the years it may take to provide a customary engagement?
Much Appreciation,
Austin