labbielove
Brilliant_Rock
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I have had this issue once in a while, and now that the big day is getting closer (4months) it''s come up THREE times in the past few days. And I just have to learn to let it go......but it still hurts/bothers me. I will have to get over it.
The dreaded "Are we invited" question.
1) I was asked directly by a coworker, and I said diplomatically that FI and I had an agreement that no coworkers were being invited, we were having a small-ish wedding, I have a big family, etc.etc.etc.... They were fine with it, one guy seemed relieved actually,but I''m still appalled at the pointed question- I don''t discuss the wedding at work and have gone out of the way when asked about it that we''re keeping it small-ish, etc.
2) I was at lunch with some former coworkers (who I see once every several months) who said "Our save the dates must have gotten lost in the mail", and one to the other "did you receive yours?",,,,,,awkward silence. Again, I do not bring up the wedding to these people, and the one person from my former work place I''m inviting has been my friend for 12 years, before we even worked there.
they must have seen the save the date on her file cabinet or something. I sent it to her home address, not work.
3) Today was the best- one of my best friends who works with another acquaintance (we all used to work together) was asked by the acquaintance in an accusatory tone "so, who are M''s bridesmaids?" and when told they were my sisters asked "how many are there"..... and then stomped off, ticked. So now, people aren''t getting mad because they''re not invited, they are ticked because I''m not having them as bridesmaids?? When we speak MAYBE once every few months?? I guess I do take it personally because we really struggled to find a fair way to limit our guest list. We want an intimate meaningful affair, and I guess I''m shocked at people''s anger. I mean, what do I have to do- send out a card "sorry you''re not invited??" Holy cripes, as FI puts it "our wedding is not the Ark, and people not invited won''t be left behind to perish from the earth."
Sorry to vent and ramble, thanks for listening.
The dreaded "Are we invited" question.
1) I was asked directly by a coworker, and I said diplomatically that FI and I had an agreement that no coworkers were being invited, we were having a small-ish wedding, I have a big family, etc.etc.etc.... They were fine with it, one guy seemed relieved actually,but I''m still appalled at the pointed question- I don''t discuss the wedding at work and have gone out of the way when asked about it that we''re keeping it small-ish, etc.
2) I was at lunch with some former coworkers (who I see once every several months) who said "Our save the dates must have gotten lost in the mail", and one to the other "did you receive yours?",,,,,,awkward silence. Again, I do not bring up the wedding to these people, and the one person from my former work place I''m inviting has been my friend for 12 years, before we even worked there.
they must have seen the save the date on her file cabinet or something. I sent it to her home address, not work.
3) Today was the best- one of my best friends who works with another acquaintance (we all used to work together) was asked by the acquaintance in an accusatory tone "so, who are M''s bridesmaids?" and when told they were my sisters asked "how many are there"..... and then stomped off, ticked. So now, people aren''t getting mad because they''re not invited, they are ticked because I''m not having them as bridesmaids?? When we speak MAYBE once every few months?? I guess I do take it personally because we really struggled to find a fair way to limit our guest list. We want an intimate meaningful affair, and I guess I''m shocked at people''s anger. I mean, what do I have to do- send out a card "sorry you''re not invited??" Holy cripes, as FI puts it "our wedding is not the Ark, and people not invited won''t be left behind to perish from the earth."
Sorry to vent and ramble, thanks for listening.