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Brilliant_Rock
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My husband and I are trying to decide where we want to settle. Currently I live about 10 hours away from my parents and extended family, and I''d like to be closer, especially as we consider starting a family at some point.
The top two contenders are:
New Bedford, MA - about 30 min away from my parents. Somewhat high crime and poverty rate, but the suburbs are quite nice. Good schools (in the suburbs). Close to family beach cottage.
Portland, ME - about 3 hours away from my parents. Lower crime rate, lower cost of living, close to family ski condo. Probably can get a higher salary here. The city I''ve wanted to live in since I was little. We could actually live in the city, rather than the suburbs.
If I were choosing for just me and my husband, I''d definitely pick Portland, but thinking about having a baby at some point, I''d really want my parents to be around. I think it would alleviate some working mom guilt if my mom could watch the potential baby a few days a week (she''s already offered) and it would make having a "date night" with my husband a lot easier.
Has anyone else made a similar choice? How important is it to be close to extended family? Anyone have any thoughts or feelings about New Bedford area or Portland?
The top two contenders are:
New Bedford, MA - about 30 min away from my parents. Somewhat high crime and poverty rate, but the suburbs are quite nice. Good schools (in the suburbs). Close to family beach cottage.
Portland, ME - about 3 hours away from my parents. Lower crime rate, lower cost of living, close to family ski condo. Probably can get a higher salary here. The city I''ve wanted to live in since I was little. We could actually live in the city, rather than the suburbs.
If I were choosing for just me and my husband, I''d definitely pick Portland, but thinking about having a baby at some point, I''d really want my parents to be around. I think it would alleviate some working mom guilt if my mom could watch the potential baby a few days a week (she''s already offered) and it would make having a "date night" with my husband a lot easier.
Has anyone else made a similar choice? How important is it to be close to extended family? Anyone have any thoughts or feelings about New Bedford area or Portland?