fisherofmengirly
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Do any of you keep in touch with your exes? How does that work out with your husband?
I ask because from time to time, I wonder how my ex (who I was also engaged to for an ever brief moment in time before I got my head straight. Seriously, less than 3 weeks) is doing, or I wonder about common friends we had that I no longer have any contact with. And he had a serious heart attack within several months of our break up, so I think a part of me thinks I should have been there, and if I had, maybe it wouldn''t have happened. Ridiculous, I know.
Anyway, by that time I had already met my fabulous Paul.
But I do still think about the ex, not in a longing way at all, but in a "I wonder what ever happened to..." kind of a way.
Last year, Paul also got to wondering about his ex (from many years prior to our meeting) and googled her online. He found out that she died only two days before we met in 2005. Isn''t that crazy odd? Anyway, it hit him in a really strong way, even after having no contact with her in years and years and years.
I think that mostly I wonder about the health of my ex, due to the serious health issues he had, and then added to that, the heart attack that he had after our break up. By the way, I only know about the heart attack because his mother (who hated me) called to tell me it had happened and to ask what I was planning to do about it. Yeah, didn''t make sense to me, either.
Anyway, I have no idea why it came to mind again tonight, other than maybe because I was just talking to a good friend of mine who came across an ex of hers in an entirely different state than where they lived while dating over the past weekend. Isn''t life funny that way?
She (my friend) was talking about how funny it is that life brings people in and out of our lives and that at the time, she was so sure that her ex was "the one," and at one time I had convinced myself that my ex was "the one," too, but wow, I never knew what I had in store before meeting Paul.
I guess it would be nice to know he''s not dead. But I won''t, haven''t, made any attempts to contact him since we broke up nearly 4 years ago. He was kind of stalkery on me there for a while and would call and drive by my house and things like that. Saw me with Paul one time and called and told me I was cheating on him, and didn''t I know that he was my husband (again, engaged for less than a month). It was crazy. I think he''s gotten past that phase and I''m happy about that.
Anyway, I just was wondering if any of you keep in contact with any of your exes, and how your spouses respond to that. And what about your husbands keeping in touch with exes? Inquiring minds want to know.
I ask because from time to time, I wonder how my ex (who I was also engaged to for an ever brief moment in time before I got my head straight. Seriously, less than 3 weeks) is doing, or I wonder about common friends we had that I no longer have any contact with. And he had a serious heart attack within several months of our break up, so I think a part of me thinks I should have been there, and if I had, maybe it wouldn''t have happened. Ridiculous, I know.
Anyway, by that time I had already met my fabulous Paul.
But I do still think about the ex, not in a longing way at all, but in a "I wonder what ever happened to..." kind of a way.
Last year, Paul also got to wondering about his ex (from many years prior to our meeting) and googled her online. He found out that she died only two days before we met in 2005. Isn''t that crazy odd? Anyway, it hit him in a really strong way, even after having no contact with her in years and years and years.
I think that mostly I wonder about the health of my ex, due to the serious health issues he had, and then added to that, the heart attack that he had after our break up. By the way, I only know about the heart attack because his mother (who hated me) called to tell me it had happened and to ask what I was planning to do about it. Yeah, didn''t make sense to me, either.
Anyway, I have no idea why it came to mind again tonight, other than maybe because I was just talking to a good friend of mine who came across an ex of hers in an entirely different state than where they lived while dating over the past weekend. Isn''t life funny that way?
She (my friend) was talking about how funny it is that life brings people in and out of our lives and that at the time, she was so sure that her ex was "the one," and at one time I had convinced myself that my ex was "the one," too, but wow, I never knew what I had in store before meeting Paul.
I guess it would be nice to know he''s not dead. But I won''t, haven''t, made any attempts to contact him since we broke up nearly 4 years ago. He was kind of stalkery on me there for a while and would call and drive by my house and things like that. Saw me with Paul one time and called and told me I was cheating on him, and didn''t I know that he was my husband (again, engaged for less than a month). It was crazy. I think he''s gotten past that phase and I''m happy about that.
Anyway, I just was wondering if any of you keep in contact with any of your exes, and how your spouses respond to that. And what about your husbands keeping in touch with exes? Inquiring minds want to know.