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missy|1405969284|3717737 said:Yes, I agree with Chrono. There is no "best" age. It is what the best age is for each couple which depends on the stability of their finances, relationship, health and future goals.
amc80|1405977101|3717841 said:Assuming all else being equal (in terms of money, housing, etc.), I think late 20s is the best time. DS was born when we were both 32. Baby #2 will be born when we are 34. I'm already so much more tired this round than I was before. I remember how much energy I had in my 20s and it would be nice to have some of that right now.
monarch64 said:There's a saying about when's the best time to prune trees/shrubbery: "When your motivation is high and your tools are sharp."
I think it totally applies.
makemepretty|1406001393|3718064 said:20's. That way you get to spend most of your life with them.
msop04|1405970485|3717753 said:missy|1405969284|3717737 said:Yes, I agree with Chrono. There is no "best" age. It is what the best age is for each couple which depends on the stability of their finances, relationship, health and future goals.
+1
amc80|1405977101|3717841 said:Assuming all else being equal (in terms of money, housing, etc.), I think late 20s is the best time. DS was born when we were both 32. Baby #2 will be born when we are 34. I'm already so much more tired this round than I was before. I remember how much energy I had in my 20s and it would be nice to have some of that right now.
iLander|1406059817|3718453 said:There's never a "good" time.
There just isn't.
I waited for a "good" time to have our second one, and ten years passed. So I stopped waiting and just did it.
I don't understand the penchant for having a bunch at once though. I'm glad mine were spread apart, in the end. I'm not strong enough to handle two small kids at once. Too hard for me.
missy|1406060349|3718459 said:iLander|1406059817|3718453 said:There's never a "good" time.
There just isn't.
I waited for a "good" time to have our second one, and ten years passed. So I stopped waiting and just did it.
I don't understand the penchant for having a bunch at once though. I'm glad mine were spread apart, in the end. I'm not strong enough to handle two small kids at once. Too hard for me.
I think an advantage of having 2 children who are close in age is that they might become best/close friends or at least playmates being close to each other in chronological years. And then there's the getting it over advantage and dealing with similar issues at similar times though not having kids myself I cannot speak to this.
My sister and I are 2 years apart and I like that we grew up not as just siblings but as friends and we are still close now. I have friends who have sisters and brothers who are many years apart and they are just not as close. Of course this is a generalization and even if they are far apart in years and not able to be playmates and such growing up there is no reason they cannot become closer as adults. Just giving my perspective on why some couples might want to have children close together chronologically. Personally, I think 2-3 years is good spacing.