FrekeChild
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For the record, we spent more than 50k of our hard earned money, still set priorites, and loved every minute of what we sill view as a very important day. All the while I don''t believe we lost sight of the big picture. Personally our ability to look at the details and the big picture is what made our planning process fun and quite frankly a breeze. That being said I''m pretty sure naked started this thread for opinions on whether or not each of us felt it was worth it now that we are married. Its pretty hard to answer a question about something you haven''t yet experienced and while the opinion is valid I''m not quite sure it serves any purpose other than to rile people up.
Way to go.
Date: 2/20/2010 4:30:24 AM
Author: yssie
Ahh.. yes, I see your point. It was just something I felt strongly enough about to actually post the opinion.. didn''t think about the intrusion. Oops.
It''s pretty common for people to post everywhere. As you saw, DF was lurking in here, and he lurks in LIW as well, and posts occassionally. Lots of BWW post in LIW, and a nice cross-section of people post here as well. Ironically, this thread clearly was not even started by a newlywedDate: 2/20/2010 4:39:26 AM
Author: monarch64
Date: 2/20/2010 4:30:24 AM
Author: yssie
Ahh.. yes, I see your point. It was just something I felt strongly enough about to actually post the opinion.. didn''t think about the intrusion. Oops.
I hope you don''t misunderstand my intent. I''m not telling you where you should or should not post your opinion at all. What I am saying is that your viewpoint may be more well-received someplace besides the newlywed sub-forum. I think this is a very interesting topic and I would offer my own response but since I''m no longer classified as a newlywed (and I''m actually a recent divorcee, to be honest), I don''t think even my general thoughts on the matter would be taken seriously. Perhaps a Hangout or Family thread asking a similar question in which anyone could answer would be a better place for people like you and me to voice their thoughts on the topic?
(Sorry for the thread-jack, Newlies.)
Yes, it is common for people to post everywhere. DF, in particular, likes to sniff out drama.Date: 2/20/2010 11:57:18 AM
Author: trillionaire
It's pretty common for people to post everywhere. As you saw, DF was lurking in here, and he lurks in LIW as well, and posts occassionally. Lots of BWW post in LIW, and a nice cross-section of people post here as well. Ironically, this thread clearly was not even started by a newlywedI certainly understand your self imposed boundaries, Monarch, but I don't think Yssie should feel bad or unwelcome in any forum. As it were, I took her to be of like concern with the OP, so it's seemed perfectly fitting to say, 'yes, I worry about this too, and I am trying not to get caught up in things that I don't deem important so that I don't regret it later.' That might be a helpful perspective for the bride-to-be... that the size/cost matters less then prioritizing the things that matters most to you. I heard that echoed by others on the thread as well, just said differently.
Date: 2/20/2010 11:57:18 AM
Author: trillionaire
Date: 2/20/2010 4:39:26 AM
Author: monarch64
Date: 2/20/2010 4:30:24 AM
Author: yssie
Ahh.. yes, I see your point. It was just something I felt strongly enough about to actually post the opinion.. didn''t think about the intrusion. Oops.
I hope you don''t misunderstand my intent. I''m not telling you where you should or should not post your opinion at all. What I am saying is that your viewpoint may be more well-received someplace besides the newlywed sub-forum. I think this is a very interesting topic and I would offer my own response but since I''m no longer classified as a newlywed (and I''m actually a recent divorcee, to be honest), I don''t think even my general thoughts on the matter would be taken seriously. Perhaps a Hangout or Family thread asking a similar question in which anyone could answer would be a better place for people like you and me to voice their thoughts on the topic?
(Sorry for the thread-jack, Newlies.)
It''s pretty common for people to post everywhere. As you saw, DF was lurking in here, and he lurks in LIW as well, and posts occassionally. Lots of BWW post in LIW, and a nice cross-section of people post here as well. Ironically, this thread clearly was not even started by a newlywedI certainly understand your self imposed boundaries, Monarch, but I don''t think Yssie should feel bad or unwelcome in any forum. As it were, I took her to be of like concern with the OP, so it''s seemed perfectly fitting to say, ''yes, I worry about this too, and I am trying not to get caught up in things that I don''t deem important so that I don''t regret it later.'' That might be a helpful perspective for the bride-to-be... that the size/cost matters less then prioritizing the things that matters most to you. I heard that echoed by others on the thread as well, just said differently.
Date: 2/14/2010 9:48:17 AM
Author: NakedFinger
Date: 2/13/2010 12:27:18 PM
Author: ZoeBartlett
Honestly if we had paid for everything ourselves, we would have saved quite a bit of money and probably had a smaller wedding. I loved the location of our wedding, so I wouldn''t change that. My husband and I paid for quite a bit of our wedding but my parents paid the majority of the expenses. His parents chipped in some too. I can''t remember what the total cost was after everything was added up, but I do know that we saved where we could. I wouldn''t say that our wedding was ridiculously expensive, but it''s a lot to thrown down for one day. On the other hand, hopefully you only get married once, and you want it to be a special day.
I can say that I definitely wouldn''t spend anywhere close to $50k on a wedding, but I know in some parts of the country, that might be considered average. This is just my opinion, but I would rather spend, say, half that amount and use the rest for something else or put it in savings.
Yeah. Unfortunately, $50k is a modest amount in NJ/NYC. I dont know if realistically I could do it for less, which is why I am using that as my estimate. Doesn''t help that I am surrounded by 6-figure weddings so thats what I compare everything to. Booo
BTW Zoe you are hilarious. lol. You''re not rambling and make perfect sense. My FI is actually the same as you and your DH. He is very shy, and doesnt NOT like being the center of attention. I know he would rather it be low key for that reason.
Date: 2/22/2010 10:00:24 AM
Author: elrohwen
LilyKat, I hated wedding planning with a passion - but I thought my wedding was totally worth it. Haha. I wish I had an experience like yours!
I knew what you were getting at, I just wanted to throw out the other sideDate: 2/22/2010 12:29:39 PM
Author: LilyKat
Date: 2/22/2010 10:00:24 AM
Author: elrohwen
LilyKat, I hated wedding planning with a passion - but I thought my wedding was totally worth it. Haha. I wish I had an experience like yours!
Haha, good point. I suppose what I really meant was, people who enjoy and value weddings and the things associated with them (both before and after the day - the anticipation and the memories), rather than the ''planning'' per se.