junegirl2010
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 28, 2010
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Hi all! I am a newlywed of about a month. I was engaged for about two years prior to the wedding.
My hubby proposed to me with an engagement ring that came with a wrap around wedding band he chose all on his own. The only problem, it is yellow gold (and lots of it) and I am not a fan of yellow gold at all. I am a dark olive complection and have never liked the look of yellow gold on me, I feel it blends right into my skin. In fact I always said I didn''t care what ring he chose, as long as it wasn''t yellow...but I realized I never said it to him. I suppose I just assumed he would see that I only wore silver.
Anyway, I love my hubby to death and would never dream of hurting his feelings. So in the last two years I''ve tried wearing other gold jewelry to match in hopes of it growing on me, but it hasn''t and I haven''t been able to get past it. I am looking to have my two rings sautered together now and ran across info on rhodium plating. I was on cloud nine, finally a way to change the color of my ring without getting a new setting and hurting my hubby''s feelings! That was, until I mentioned it to my mother. She yelled at me to the point I could almost cry. She said I was horrible for thinking of doing it and I should cherish the ring exactly as he gave it to me. My opinion is though, that I am the one who is wearing this ring forever & I think I should have a right for it to look the way I would like. I want to "love" my ring not just "deal" with it. I realize the rhodium will have to be redone, possibly often but since it is reversible it''s a risk I''m willing to take.
I was hoping to sit down and talk it over with hubby tonight but now after the talk with my mother, I''m having second thoughts as she thinks I will really hurt him. Any opinions would really help me. I just want to know I''m not being absurd for thinking about asking him if he minds if I plate my ring.
And if others think it is hurtful too, cause I suppose I would rather live with it than hurt him. Also any experiences with rhodium plating would be great too. Thanks in advance!
My hubby proposed to me with an engagement ring that came with a wrap around wedding band he chose all on his own. The only problem, it is yellow gold (and lots of it) and I am not a fan of yellow gold at all. I am a dark olive complection and have never liked the look of yellow gold on me, I feel it blends right into my skin. In fact I always said I didn''t care what ring he chose, as long as it wasn''t yellow...but I realized I never said it to him. I suppose I just assumed he would see that I only wore silver.
Anyway, I love my hubby to death and would never dream of hurting his feelings. So in the last two years I''ve tried wearing other gold jewelry to match in hopes of it growing on me, but it hasn''t and I haven''t been able to get past it. I am looking to have my two rings sautered together now and ran across info on rhodium plating. I was on cloud nine, finally a way to change the color of my ring without getting a new setting and hurting my hubby''s feelings! That was, until I mentioned it to my mother. She yelled at me to the point I could almost cry. She said I was horrible for thinking of doing it and I should cherish the ring exactly as he gave it to me. My opinion is though, that I am the one who is wearing this ring forever & I think I should have a right for it to look the way I would like. I want to "love" my ring not just "deal" with it. I realize the rhodium will have to be redone, possibly often but since it is reversible it''s a risk I''m willing to take.
I was hoping to sit down and talk it over with hubby tonight but now after the talk with my mother, I''m having second thoughts as she thinks I will really hurt him. Any opinions would really help me. I just want to know I''m not being absurd for thinking about asking him if he minds if I plate my ring.
And if others think it is hurtful too, cause I suppose I would rather live with it than hurt him. Also any experiences with rhodium plating would be great too. Thanks in advance!