rainbowtrout
Ideal_Rock
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Blah....sorry to dump on you guys, but I am trying mightily NOT to dump on the boyfriend since this isn''t his fault...
Being a guy who is obsessed with a) surprising me and b) keeping his deadlines at all costs, he decided in december to give me an offical "year and a half" deadline for finishing the ring and proposing.
OK, cool...I helped him figure out what I liked, we looked at a ton of stuff..and then, to my surprise, he went and dropped way more $$ than I was expecting on a stone and starts hinting that of course he isn''t *actually* going to wait a year and a half but it is very important that he surprise me.
Then he told his parents, who have a history of not liking me, that we were getting married.
So now I''m thinking March, April, he''s probably going to propose (espically since his granparents 60th wedding anniversary in in March and we are going down to Florida to see them...I haven''t breathed a word of this to him but it would be so romantic to me if he did it then esp. since we both come from divored parents)
Then one of his parents suddenly refused to pay the tuition they promised him from last semester (it''s a long story, I''ll leave it at saying one of the parents is a rich a**hole who suddenly decided that my FI didn''t deserve the money bc he canceled a dinner with this parent. He didn''t give him his holiday presents either, and refused to pay another siblings tuition for this semester. All bc of this canceled dinner. Nice guy.)
He saves a lot and is good w/money so he will be fine, but is having to sell off most of his investments and savings to cover this expense. I feel awful for being disappointed, but I still AM. We have this stone sitting in a drawer now, and I have no idea what country I will be in next year and I had hoped to be engaged for our gap year after college so that we would have some "engaged" time after 8 years of dating so that we wouldn''t be jumping right into planning a wedding when I get home from abroad or done with year 1 of grad school...
So now it looks like all bets are off and I may not engaged until next June--and we may spend our 9th year of dating in different countries. He hasn''t said anything and insists he is fine on money for the ring--but being him, he won''t comment on the "year and a half" deadline and whether or not it has changed due to these new circumstances.
I can''t decide if I should hope for March, or just resign myself to the worst and then be surprised if it is sooner...thoughts?
Being a guy who is obsessed with a) surprising me and b) keeping his deadlines at all costs, he decided in december to give me an offical "year and a half" deadline for finishing the ring and proposing.
OK, cool...I helped him figure out what I liked, we looked at a ton of stuff..and then, to my surprise, he went and dropped way more $$ than I was expecting on a stone and starts hinting that of course he isn''t *actually* going to wait a year and a half but it is very important that he surprise me.
Then he told his parents, who have a history of not liking me, that we were getting married.
So now I''m thinking March, April, he''s probably going to propose (espically since his granparents 60th wedding anniversary in in March and we are going down to Florida to see them...I haven''t breathed a word of this to him but it would be so romantic to me if he did it then esp. since we both come from divored parents)
Then one of his parents suddenly refused to pay the tuition they promised him from last semester (it''s a long story, I''ll leave it at saying one of the parents is a rich a**hole who suddenly decided that my FI didn''t deserve the money bc he canceled a dinner with this parent. He didn''t give him his holiday presents either, and refused to pay another siblings tuition for this semester. All bc of this canceled dinner. Nice guy.)
He saves a lot and is good w/money so he will be fine, but is having to sell off most of his investments and savings to cover this expense. I feel awful for being disappointed, but I still AM. We have this stone sitting in a drawer now, and I have no idea what country I will be in next year and I had hoped to be engaged for our gap year after college so that we would have some "engaged" time after 8 years of dating so that we wouldn''t be jumping right into planning a wedding when I get home from abroad or done with year 1 of grad school...
So now it looks like all bets are off and I may not engaged until next June--and we may spend our 9th year of dating in different countries. He hasn''t said anything and insists he is fine on money for the ring--but being him, he won''t comment on the "year and a half" deadline and whether or not it has changed due to these new circumstances.
I can''t decide if I should hope for March, or just resign myself to the worst and then be surprised if it is sooner...thoughts?