I''m not all that private a person--for most issues, if someone asks, I usually answer (within reason, of course).Date: 4/21/2008 8:32:35 AM
Author:oddoneout
If someone asks you about your baby plans how do you politely tell them it is none of their business?
Thanks
Date: 4/21/2008 7:58:19 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
People are noisy by nature. When dating they bug you about when you will get married. Once married about when you will have a baby. Once you have a baby about when you will have your next one (yes, people are already asking me!) Like Musey I am a very open person so it doesn''t really bother me but I would just be vague about it if you want to keep it private but don''t want to come off rude. Say your still enjoying each other, aren''t ready, haven''t decided etc...
Then I tell them I want to pay off the house first (totally doable for us within the next 5 years), then they tell me, oooh you'll always have debt, don't let that stop you... AHHH! Then I give up and tell 'em I don't want any at all (I do, it's a last resort 'nick off!' line
Date: 4/22/2008 1:01:02 AM
Author: miraclesrule
You could say that you just married one, so????
On the other hand, you could spring straight forward into controversy and say 'Oh, we don't intend to have kids. We don't want to bring a child into this world' <-----My friend says this all the time and means it. Some people are horrified and some people are 'Right on, whatever floats your boat'
Personally I prefer babies over animals, because I know at some point the baby will be potty trained and with a dog...I would picking up their crap forever. It's just not for me.
It is really amazing that people have such...I prefer inquisitiveness over nosey...tendencies, but I think it is out of a need to bond and commune and connect, versus outright intrigue. It is a natural question, but can be touchy if a couple finds out they are infertile together. ::::shrugs:::::
Great topic though.
HA! I like it, shall give that one a crack next time
I don''t know how to highlight in yellow, but if I could, I would be highlighting the " my mother sent them" Buahahahaha, I think I will start planting moles in my daughter''s office.Date: 4/22/2008 9:49:48 AM
Author: Haven
If it''s a relative stranger and you want to be snarky yet within boundaries you could always say ''we haven''t decided yet, but of course you''ll be first on our list to call when we do.''
Maybe that''s not really staying within boundaries, though.
We aren''t even married yet and people ask us all the time because of my FI''s age. While I do think it''s a rude question to ask, we generally respond with ''we haven''t yet decided'' and leave it at that. If they persist, I''ll say something like ''Wow, are you curious! If you''re trying to tell us you''d like to babysit then that might change our plans.'' (I''ve often been tempted to ask if my mother sent them, but I''ve always held that in.)
People are rude, but I like to think that it''s more that they have nothing better to talk about and less that they''re trying to pry.