the_open_sea
Rough_Rock
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- Sep 10, 2007
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Hi everyone!
Okay, I''m new here, but I''ve been lurking for a while and it seems like everyone gives pretty sound advice. I want to know what you all think of my situation.
I am a junior in undergrad, hoping to go to medical school. My SO is currently taking a year off school to do some stuff with the national guard, but he has already graduated and is on his way to law school autumn ''08. I''m 20, he''s 23. Basically, he would start law school my senior year of uni, and his last 2 years of law school I will (hopefully
) be in medical school. After that, he''ll be working while I''ll be in school for another 2 years, then residency, blah blah. On the more personal level, we''ve been dating for about 2 years and have been serious from the start. Lately we''ve been doing some light shopping around for engagement/ wedding rings, just getting an idea of what we like, confirming that we want matching rings, etc.
So.
First of all, should I propose to him? He and I have talked pretty heavily about getting engaged and are totally sure it''s what we want, and he has said several times (b/c I have outright asked him) that he thinks he might prefer it if I proposed. BUT lately he''s said a few things like, "What am I going to do with you? How am I going to know when to propose?" Agh mixed messages! What does this mean?? What does he want?
Second, is the timing right? I really want to get married the summer between my undergrad and medical school. I figure about a year to plan the wedding, and tack on a few mos. to enjoy being engaged w/o having to do anything, and the ideal engagement time would start around Feb/March ''08. But would the time of the wedding be too much of a hassle with his law school? I don''t know anything about law school. At the same time, though, I don''t want to wait until we''re both in our professional careers - I''d be 28 and he''d be 32!! That''s a 10 yr relationship that isn''t going anywhere!
I need so much help, everyone. What do you all think?
Okay, I''m new here, but I''ve been lurking for a while and it seems like everyone gives pretty sound advice. I want to know what you all think of my situation.
I am a junior in undergrad, hoping to go to medical school. My SO is currently taking a year off school to do some stuff with the national guard, but he has already graduated and is on his way to law school autumn ''08. I''m 20, he''s 23. Basically, he would start law school my senior year of uni, and his last 2 years of law school I will (hopefully
So.
First of all, should I propose to him? He and I have talked pretty heavily about getting engaged and are totally sure it''s what we want, and he has said several times (b/c I have outright asked him) that he thinks he might prefer it if I proposed. BUT lately he''s said a few things like, "What am I going to do with you? How am I going to know when to propose?" Agh mixed messages! What does this mean?? What does he want?
Second, is the timing right? I really want to get married the summer between my undergrad and medical school. I figure about a year to plan the wedding, and tack on a few mos. to enjoy being engaged w/o having to do anything, and the ideal engagement time would start around Feb/March ''08. But would the time of the wedding be too much of a hassle with his law school? I don''t know anything about law school. At the same time, though, I don''t want to wait until we''re both in our professional careers - I''d be 28 and he''d be 32!! That''s a 10 yr relationship that isn''t going anywhere!
I need so much help, everyone. What do you all think?