Well, I must admit my spirits are down..... My girlfriend and I have been dating for only 4 months. I know I know...not long at all. But I wasn’t planning on asking her until around February or March. It’s something we had both talked about and we both came to the conclusion that 6 or 7 months was long enough for us to date to get engaged. We came to that conclusion because we fell in love almost from the first date and have shared so many stories. We feel so close to each other...its crazy. I have also gotten very close to her family and she to mine. I''m 34 and she is 30. We both want kids (she already has a 10 year old daughter...whom I care for very much) and dont want to wait until we are much older to start having them.
But then...last weekend...out of the blue...she asked me to wait until the end of this year before thinking of engagement. It was the oddest thing.
One thing that may have scared her was an old girlfriend of mine, someone I dated for 3 years and never considered marring, called me several times around Christmas...wanting to see me. I kept my current girlfriend informed of what was going on...I never saw my ex. nor did I want to. I broke up with my ex just over a year ago.
I understand taking time...its not a bad thing. Its just that in my heart I know she is the one...I would marry her tomorrow. I have always been the type of person that believed that when you met the right one...you would know it immediately. I think my spirits are down because I had hoped, and thought, she saw me as I see her. She did just up to last weekend. She has been married before (at age 20..divorced at 22) and she said she doesn’t want to ever get divorced again.
Regardless, I''ll give her all the time she ever needs. I love her very much.
Was it wrong or silly for my feelings to be hurt??
Thanks for any comments.
But then...last weekend...out of the blue...she asked me to wait until the end of this year before thinking of engagement. It was the oddest thing.
One thing that may have scared her was an old girlfriend of mine, someone I dated for 3 years and never considered marring, called me several times around Christmas...wanting to see me. I kept my current girlfriend informed of what was going on...I never saw my ex. nor did I want to. I broke up with my ex just over a year ago.
I understand taking time...its not a bad thing. Its just that in my heart I know she is the one...I would marry her tomorrow. I have always been the type of person that believed that when you met the right one...you would know it immediately. I think my spirits are down because I had hoped, and thought, she saw me as I see her. She did just up to last weekend. She has been married before (at age 20..divorced at 22) and she said she doesn’t want to ever get divorced again.
Regardless, I''ll give her all the time she ever needs. I love her very much.
Was it wrong or silly for my feelings to be hurt??
Thanks for any comments.