Post by perry » August 14th, 2005, 4:19 pm
Thought I would update everyone on the situation with "D."

The "slug" is gone from her apartment.  He will have to return sometime to pick up his last stuff (not all of it fit in his car); but "D" is now realizing how much he affected here life now that she has had almost an entire week with him gone (and enjoying every minute of it).  She has also indicated that she has to stop picking up helpless puppies of people.

In the end she sought help with the situation.  Good thing, too, as I was beginning to really worry as I belived it was an emotional abuse situation and she was getting trapped.

Quite honestly, there were an issue within the last month that has frayed our relationship to the point that it affected my standing offer to marry her.  I personally think that the reason she finally sought help was because she was on the verge of loosing me.

The best way to sum up the situation is:  Things happened and either we will patch things up and emerge stonger; or now was the time to find out.  Either way - it was to both of our benifits.

All can be rebuilt, but will take time.  There is still an offer leading to marriage out there, but now it will require an engagement period where before I would have just done it (and we had talked of eloping).

In the meantime "D" is continuing with her support person to stabilize her beliefs better.  That is more than I expected.  Great.

So I am still on the list, but don''t see a mariage for a while, althoug possibly an engagment yet this year.  A lot is up to "D" on this.

Thought you all would like to know.

Perry