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Ideal_Rock
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I'm just wondering how common it is to have a large disparity in things like education level, income, etc. among different family members.
Both my mom and dad came from families that lived in small towns in rural PA. They got married after my mom finished high school. Neither went to college (actually, my dad dropped out of hs when my grandpa got sick so he could work to support the family, but he has his GED). My mom has 2 siblings. One moved to NC, works in a bank, is morbidly obese, married a man who rebuilds cars so they have classic cars all over their front yard. I stepkid but no kids of her own. The other is also morbidly obese. She got married and moved in with the parents. They have 2 kids, both who did not go to college and still live at home even though they are 27 and 30. The 30 year old got pregnant at 19, her boyfriend became abusive, and she is now a single mother. Neither are married at this point.
But when my mom and dad got married, they moved to an upper class area, and sacrificed a LOT to be able to afford to live in that area so that my brother and I could go to a good school. It made a world of difference. We both went to college (although we had to pay our own way through loans). My brother now lives in NY and works on wallstreet, and married a girl who teaches middle school. I've done some post-grad work, taught high school for a few years, married a guy who just finished medical school (and is also in the Navy) and am currently a SAHM. My mom has since put herself through first a community college and now has a BA.
My dad's siblings did go to college, but 1 lives at home with her mom as a spinster. The other married a man I can really only describe as a red-neck, and harbors racist views. Their kids will probably go to college, but both are still young, and they have grown up in such a racist environment.
I was just thinking about my cousins today. We all came from the same base families, but we seem to be ending up having very different pathways. I have almost nothing in common with my cousins on my mom's side, and my mom no longer has anything in common with her own sisters, so we don't seem much of them.
Dh's family members all have similar SES's, so it just made me wonder how common it is for some siblings to end up on a much different path, and if other families struggle to overcome these differences to stay close.
Both my mom and dad came from families that lived in small towns in rural PA. They got married after my mom finished high school. Neither went to college (actually, my dad dropped out of hs when my grandpa got sick so he could work to support the family, but he has his GED). My mom has 2 siblings. One moved to NC, works in a bank, is morbidly obese, married a man who rebuilds cars so they have classic cars all over their front yard. I stepkid but no kids of her own. The other is also morbidly obese. She got married and moved in with the parents. They have 2 kids, both who did not go to college and still live at home even though they are 27 and 30. The 30 year old got pregnant at 19, her boyfriend became abusive, and she is now a single mother. Neither are married at this point.
But when my mom and dad got married, they moved to an upper class area, and sacrificed a LOT to be able to afford to live in that area so that my brother and I could go to a good school. It made a world of difference. We both went to college (although we had to pay our own way through loans). My brother now lives in NY and works on wallstreet, and married a girl who teaches middle school. I've done some post-grad work, taught high school for a few years, married a guy who just finished medical school (and is also in the Navy) and am currently a SAHM. My mom has since put herself through first a community college and now has a BA.
My dad's siblings did go to college, but 1 lives at home with her mom as a spinster. The other married a man I can really only describe as a red-neck, and harbors racist views. Their kids will probably go to college, but both are still young, and they have grown up in such a racist environment.
I was just thinking about my cousins today. We all came from the same base families, but we seem to be ending up having very different pathways. I have almost nothing in common with my cousins on my mom's side, and my mom no longer has anything in common with her own sisters, so we don't seem much of them.
Dh's family members all have similar SES's, so it just made me wonder how common it is for some siblings to end up on a much different path, and if other families struggle to overcome these differences to stay close.