Gypsy
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So I have my fortieth birthday off on the horizon (next year, turning 39 this year) and I was reflecting today how much I am enjoying my 30's.
I enjoyed my 20's too. Don't get me wrong. But my thirties have been much more rewarding personally. I'm so much more comfortable in my own skin. And so much less concerned about what other people are doing. And I just feel like I am better person.
I've just learned so many things I wasn't mature enough to understand when I was younger.
One of the things I've learned is the value of connection. I talk to people all day long. But there are a select few that I really connect with. Sometimes that connection is immediate, and sometimes it takes time to form. And sometimes I WANT there to be a connection, but there just isn't.
I think when I was younger, I was so worried about people liking me, I never really stopped to consider if I liked THEM. If they were people that enriched my life, rather than just cluttering it up.
In my thirties I've really found some amazing friends. I've learned what *I* need out of friendships. And am learning all the time about how to be a better friend myself. A better spouse. A better employee. But also... what qualities to look for in my friends, in my employers and coworkers. And how to show the people in my life that I appreciate them.
So... if you read through that stream of consciousness, I applaud you. And I'm hoping you'll share with me why YOU are happy with where you are in your life (age wise) and what lessons you've learned.
I enjoyed my 20's too. Don't get me wrong. But my thirties have been much more rewarding personally. I'm so much more comfortable in my own skin. And so much less concerned about what other people are doing. And I just feel like I am better person.
I've just learned so many things I wasn't mature enough to understand when I was younger.
One of the things I've learned is the value of connection. I talk to people all day long. But there are a select few that I really connect with. Sometimes that connection is immediate, and sometimes it takes time to form. And sometimes I WANT there to be a connection, but there just isn't.
I think when I was younger, I was so worried about people liking me, I never really stopped to consider if I liked THEM. If they were people that enriched my life, rather than just cluttering it up.
In my thirties I've really found some amazing friends. I've learned what *I* need out of friendships. And am learning all the time about how to be a better friend myself. A better spouse. A better employee. But also... what qualities to look for in my friends, in my employers and coworkers. And how to show the people in my life that I appreciate them.
So... if you read through that stream of consciousness, I applaud you. And I'm hoping you'll share with me why YOU are happy with where you are in your life (age wise) and what lessons you've learned.