LtlFirecracker
Ideal_Rock
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and had guests that knew that, and went off your registry to get you that stuff anyways?
This is more of a vent I guess. I know a registry is a request, and that people can buy what they want, but I guess my feelings are kind of hurt, and it is probably for no reason at all.
I just want to know if this is normal. Only three people have bought me wedding presents, and all have gone off my registry even though they knew about it. All of them are on my FI''s side. My FI''s mother has kind of been dropping me hints that there was something wrong with my registry. A few months ago, she called FI and asked him if I was going to register for silver and china and he told her I had my mother''s and we had no need for more.
Here is the backstory: My mother passed away 6 years ago, and before she died she got china as a gift that my stepfather kept. She was so excited about giving me her old classic white Mikasa and was starting to pack it up before she passed. So my Stepdad spent lots of money shipping it to me along with the fine silverware I grew up with. Those are the only nice things I received from my mother, and I don''t really care to replace it.
So on Friday FI''s mother e-mails me stating that 2 relatives went to a high end department store in Houston and that the gifts are on the way. I e-mailed her and stated I was looking forward to the gifts, but asked her if there was something wrong with the registry. She told me people were upset that I did not register for fine china and silverware and asked me to call her. I wrote her the following.
"I will. I inherited a bunch of the tradational stuff from my mother and have a complete set of fine china and fine silverwhere. Guess that is what happens when you get married later."
Since then she has been writing how great the stuff I registered for is both as an e-mail and on my wedding website, and she has called my FI (he has not called her back). My FI thinks either she was not listening to him when he was trying to talk to her a few months, or she just didn''t put it together that my mother is dead and this is her stuff, and now feels bad for not communicating that to the relatives and going along with a plan to make me reconsider what I registered for.
BTW: I registered for pretty much all the other household goods. Pots and pans, everyday dishes, everyday silverware ect. I consider my registry pretty traditional, just a reflection of what we need. I can''t believe I have offended so many people.
This is more of a vent I guess. I know a registry is a request, and that people can buy what they want, but I guess my feelings are kind of hurt, and it is probably for no reason at all.
I just want to know if this is normal. Only three people have bought me wedding presents, and all have gone off my registry even though they knew about it. All of them are on my FI''s side. My FI''s mother has kind of been dropping me hints that there was something wrong with my registry. A few months ago, she called FI and asked him if I was going to register for silver and china and he told her I had my mother''s and we had no need for more.
Here is the backstory: My mother passed away 6 years ago, and before she died she got china as a gift that my stepfather kept. She was so excited about giving me her old classic white Mikasa and was starting to pack it up before she passed. So my Stepdad spent lots of money shipping it to me along with the fine silverware I grew up with. Those are the only nice things I received from my mother, and I don''t really care to replace it.
So on Friday FI''s mother e-mails me stating that 2 relatives went to a high end department store in Houston and that the gifts are on the way. I e-mailed her and stated I was looking forward to the gifts, but asked her if there was something wrong with the registry. She told me people were upset that I did not register for fine china and silverware and asked me to call her. I wrote her the following.
"I will. I inherited a bunch of the tradational stuff from my mother and have a complete set of fine china and fine silverwhere. Guess that is what happens when you get married later."
Since then she has been writing how great the stuff I registered for is both as an e-mail and on my wedding website, and she has called my FI (he has not called her back). My FI thinks either she was not listening to him when he was trying to talk to her a few months, or she just didn''t put it together that my mother is dead and this is her stuff, and now feels bad for not communicating that to the relatives and going along with a plan to make me reconsider what I registered for.
BTW: I registered for pretty much all the other household goods. Pots and pans, everyday dishes, everyday silverware ect. I consider my registry pretty traditional, just a reflection of what we need. I can''t believe I have offended so many people.