Ask Dad, Mom, both parents, or neither?

[sparklyandsquare]

I've been browsing this forum and have found it interesting how many men ask for the father's permission/blessing before proposing to their girlfriend. I know it's tradition, but as a woman it's one I would be somewhat offended by if my boyfriend followed (I'm not crazy about the origins of the tradition which was bartering for a dowery). I'm not super-feministy, but guess I would expect that my b.f. and I as would discuss getting engaged first and then share the news with my parents. Am I a weirdo?
Your thoughts...

btw, I should mention I'm closer to my mom than my dad, so if my b.f. did ask anyone, I'd want him to ask both (but I'd prefer neither)