I bet all the LIWs can agree on this one

[MBKRH]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/...mgur_n_4404518.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000003

Booo to "engagement season"! I'm gonna go crawl under a rock until March.

 

[Julysnight]

Lol

 

[glitzandglamour]

I feel her pain. That's ridiculous. lol

 

[MBKRH]

I feel her pain. That's ridiculous. lol

Right? I agree 100%

 

[Nicolo]

Blurgh. Pass the egg nog.

 

[pandabee]

Kind of in response to that photo, I saw this article posted. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/valerie-alexander/lets-ban-weddings-and-baby-showers_b_4428778.html I know some of you will generally disagree with the "banning" of weddings, but I think the general sentiment is thought provoking. The longer I've been waiting (and the more I've been semi planning our elopement next year), the more I agree that as a society, we do seem to put a lot of emphasis on just getting engaged and the wedding vs. what happens after. Of course I admit that because of my intended wedding plans I tend to agree that weddings/baby showers are becoming a little ostentatious and I don't intend on spending nearly the amount of money on my celebration as most brides do.

Obviously not to say the author's viewpoint is the *only* way we should do things, but it does make you stop and think a little.

 

[16ocean]

Oh, wow! Good article.
I like the perspective . . .of what a wedding is about vs a "production"

 

[SouthernSunset]

I can see the sentiment behind the article. And somewhat agree.

But I'm also all for people doing what fulfills them and for some people that's a big party. However I feel people should be somewhat responsible too. If you are buying or have bought a house, have student loans and a car note you probably shouldn't take out a loan for a huge wedding.

Personally however, I always thought weddings were a semi scam. the industry knows that most people have NO idea how much things should cost since most people who plan a big gathering have never been married before and so they set whatever prices they want. I watched a news report about how a woman researched the price for her wedding dress and found that after cost for materials and labor, It was a 400% markup in what she paid for a simple *discounted* wedding gown.

And I also personally don't like the idea of paying 80 bucks a head for dinner, put em up in hotels and buy them presents for a bunch off family who I barely know and who could care less if I was happily married, or not.

Not to be a Debbie downer on weddings!! Or baby showers! Momentous occasions should always be recognized and celebrated, just with people who truly are invested in your life and not friends/family who are apathetic or who you use as gift farms. Now gender reveal parties, can't wrap my head quite around that.

 

[Rhea]

It's easy to sell an engagement, wedding, and having a child. You only want the best and you want great memories so buy this, do this, have this. After all, this is a once in a lifetime event and if you get it wrong you won't get a do-over. Except a lot probably do.

It's less easy to sell the marriage. There are no once in a lifetime tools for the countless arguments over the dishes, the joys of greeting each other after a long day at work, or the hours spent searching for cushion covers you both agree on. Capitalism, baby. We don't focus on what happens afterward because it doesn't sell. It'd be great if it were more publicized but who would pay for it? Marigold brand gloves for cleaning and Dawn washing up liquid? The writer of the Huffington Post article has fantastic points but we live in an incredibly commercialised world and I don't see that changing any time soon.

 

[rochelle]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/...mgur_n_4404518.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000003

Booo to "engagement season"! I'm gonna go crawl under a rock until March.

haha love it