"Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

[amc80]

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Oh ladies, I would not wish this on anyone!!! I have been SO SO NAUSEOUS every day, all day since I last posted. It starts early in the am, and finally starts to get better around 4pm. No vomiting, just constant nausea. I finally broke down today and called myself in some Zofran. What relief!!! I actually felt like a semi-normal person for a few hrs after that. For those that don't have m/s, you're so lucky and I hope it stays that way!!! To think that I would have to go 16 wks with this just kills me....

Just as a warning- take some colace or fiber stuff with the zofran. Your relief will soon be overcome by constipation!! For me, eating a ton of grapes every day seemed to do the trick. And I really hope you have better luck than I did and don't have to wait until 16 weeks to feel better!!

 

[dani13]

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Thanks, amc! I already started the Colace 2 wks ago, as horrible constipation kicked in for me already at that time (I've always had issues with this). It sucks.

 

[Skippy123]

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Thanks, amc! I already started the Colace 2 wks ago, as horrible constipation kicked in for me already at that time (I've always had issues with this). It sucks.

try miralax too! The colace didn't cut it for me but the miralax did. hugs!

 

[Buttons]

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Hi ladies!

missrachelk sorry to hear about the nausea returning.
Can you ring around and see if you can maybe get a massage with a specialist who does pregnancy massage? DH and I are going away for our anniversary the weekend after next and I have a massage booked - they asked which trimester I'd be but they said it was only to know if they'd need to get out the special pregnancy table.
I had incredible bloating going on around weeks 8/9, it was so uncomfortable, but it has completely gone away since. It will get better!

amc80 great news that your morning sickness has eased! So there is hope?!

monkeyprincess I felt like that too around 5/6 weeks. Then the morning sickness hit with a vengeance in week 7 and honestly I have barely left the sofa since... I am sure everything is just fine, and don't worry if you don't have any morning sickness, something like 30% of women actually never get it!

dani I'm sorry you are so sick, you have my sympathies. I'm glad you were able to get the Zofran and that it has given you some relief. Hang in there!

fisher thinking of you and hoping all went well at your scan

AFM I am still so shattered all the time, I am really hoping the second trimester energy thing isn't a myth!!! Still counting down here to my first midwives' appointment on Friday. We'll get a scan too so very excited!

 

[missrachelk]

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Dani - re constipation, for me taking extra magnesium supplements really helps. I also suffered with it before PG so I've been using the mag for a while and since it's also a nutrient many preggos are deficient in I figure it really can't hurt! Like AMC said lots of people also get some relief with fruit, I've heard eating kiwi every day is one 'cure' Mine has tended to come and go, of course on the days I can't 'go' the bellyache makes the nausea that much worse.

My massage place (massage envy) won't see me until 12 weeks waaaaah!! I know I could find another but I've been sulking since Monday night. Had the headache/nechache all day yesterday and thru the night, but do feel a bit better this morning. I'm going to try to get in with a chiropractor later and see if that helps. I know I want to get going with chiro for the pregnancy overall so may as well start now.

Great to hear you're over the hump AMC! There is a light at the end! I know many must feel worse than me but I'm just ready to feel GOOD and not crappy.

Well I'm off to work now, fully prepared to bail out if my headache gets bad again. Luckily I'm already set up to work remotely on my laptop so I can fall back on that if necessary.


Happy Hump Day! Hopefully I'll feel great, go shop for a belly pics dress and be back with a picture later!

 

[Puppmom]

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Fisher, sending you lots of positive vibes for today's scan. I can't wait to hear about it!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

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Hi,

I can't hardly believe I'm posting this. I was going to wait to post it, but I don't know why I was going to wait, really.

I have a blighted ovum. Our pregnancy didn't get past the sac phase. And yet, my chest has grown a cup size, I have been sick, I've needed to take naps after work, I've been peeing my heart out, and I've been certain that our little kiddo was doing just fine.

Yesterday was one of the hardest days in our lives, and I am *so* glad Paul was there with me when it was time for the ultrasound, yet I wish I could have saved him from the pain. At first, it was very exciting. The tech, Tia, has been the same one I've had for a few other scans (during TTC) and it was so wonderful to know that this would be a time of joy, of seeing something in there! She found the sac (elation!), and zoomed in. And my heart sank. She looked around for another baby, maybe there were two and this one didn't make it, but there wasn't another. Paul didn't understand. He kept asking where our baby was. And then my heart broke. Wide open.

The doctor said there is always a possibility that the baby is growing, wasn't positioned well, etc. Ever the optimist, my husband agreed for us to come back next week for another scan. Otherwise, I will likely have a miscarriage in this week or next. She said after a week, we can talk about D&C, but I refused to even discuss that.

She said the fact that my body has had such a reaction to this pregnancy is a good thing; my body wants to fully care for and protect a baby, and my hormones are strong and doing their job well. So, for that I'm thankful. Extremely thankful.

She also said that a blighted ovum is just something that happens, and is accountable for 50% of loss in early pregnancy. It doesn't mean my body is incapable of carrying a baby, and it doesn't mean that my body is rejecting a baby. It does mean that we have successfully conceived and I'm no longer considered "infertile" (which I never claimed over my body in the first case) and she said the fact that we conceived without any intervention is very good and it's likely that we will conceive again, this time to carry a child to full-term. Thankful. Hopeful. Faithful.

My first thought was that I had done something wrong, that I hadn't been what our child needed me to be. The Dr. said that's a totally normal, although wrong, feeling and that I am not at fault for this; no one is. She said depression often follows loss, and that's normal, too. She said that they advise that we wait a cycle to try again, mostly to allow my body to recover, my emotions to level, and for dating purposes for the next pregnancy.

My husband is forever my rock, and though I wish I could take the pain he's experiencing away from him, I am so thankful he was there with me in that moment. We needed one another, and I'm thankful that God has strengthened our marriage through the wait for this child, and that He will continue to strengthen us through the letting go of this sweet baby. (How in the world am I going to let go, I don't yet know.)

We were talking last night, and though we certainly didn't anticipate this end to the next chapter of our lives, we have thoroughly enjoyed the past month of loving this child. I'm so glad I've documented it well and taken pictures along the way of our joy over this little baby. We'll never forget this child, and I'm not sure if this is weird or not, but I think we'll name the baby. I mean, it's our first kid, why wouldn't we? I suggested Miracle, because the opportunity to be a mother, if even for a short while, has been a prayer and dream of mine for ages, way beyond the four years we've been trying. A lot of people say you become a mother or father the day your child is born, but I've always felt that you become a parent the day a child begins its growth, and I believe that more now than I did prior to becoming pregnant. Paul has been an excellent father to this baby, and calling it anything less than that is unfair.

This isn't the ending I'd planned, and part of me wants to hope beyond hope that God works out a way for this baby to catch up, but part of me has a peace that God's plans are at work for this baby's little sister or brother and I need to just focus on that. One of the hardest things about this is knowing that I've been SO open about our struggles to conceive, and I've been SO excited to share the miracle God gave us in the form of this child. But it *is* a miracle that we did conceive, that we got this amazing month full of promise for what we hope to experience at length soon. Very soon. Romans 8:28 promises us that God works all things for good for those who love Him. And we will walk in faith as we see where God leads us from here.

I know so many of you have been praying for us and rejoicing with us through this, and I thank you. It makes me very happy to know that our baby brought joy to many, and I look forward to the day that I can smile without tears when I think about the amazing month of February 2012.

Gosh, this is all so dramatic. I know people go through losses much further on in pregnancy which is much more dramatic, and I know so many of you here have had losses. I've always had a soft spot in my heart for anyone going through it, and man, I had no idea how it would really feel. I hope that each of you who've been there have a peace today and joy has overcome the sorrow.

 

[MuffDog]

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Fisher...my heart is breaking for you. I'm so, so sorry that you are going through this. I will pray that next week's scan shows something positive.

Thinking of you, Paul and your little Miracle.

 

[Jennifer W]

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I am so saddened to hear of your loss, Fisher, and sorry for it. All three of you, and the baby yet to come are in my prayers.

 

[princesss]

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Oh, Fisher. Your family is in my prayers. You have been a wonderful mother to this child, and you will be a wonderful mother to this child's sibling(s) in the future.

 

[stephbolt]

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Oh Fisher, I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Oh dear, dear Fisher, there are just no words to express how incredibly sad I am for you and your husband right now. I so wish I could just re-log in and read that you had a different outcome. You loved that little baby more than any other mother could in the short time you've had, and one day, you will meet that little one! Your post was so beautiful and gracious, and I continue to be amazed at your strength. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you right now, and I will continue to pray that you will be posting again very soon with joyful news.

 

[robbie3982]

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Oh, Fisher, I'm so sorry . While I'm sure it's of little comfort now, know that it will get easier to bear. Having another child won't erase the pain, but it does change it and make it more bearable.

::hugs::

My heart is aching for you

 

[swimmer]

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Fisher, Just thinking about you and sending love to you and Paul.
I hope you are physically surrounded by people who love you, you know you are virtually.

 

[VRBeauty]

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Hugs, Fisher.

I'm glad for all the good things you learned from this... and glad to know you're in such caring medical hands.

 

[vintagelover229]

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Fisher:
I haven't posted yet in this thread or many others since we just found out ourselves but I have followed your story and was rejoicing with you and was so happy when I read that you were expecting.

I just want to say that your strength (even though I'm sure it doesn't feel that way) and your faith and your love just pour though your posts. God doesn't always give us understanding (which I'm sure you know) but to just have trust and to have faith and that though our darkest hours He will draw us closer to Him and after watching the movie Courageous (if you haven't seen it yet I highly recommend it) the minister said something that hit close to home. He said that it's hard to trust and rely on God for strength during dark times but those who are able to do so experience God's peace on a level that many people never experience.

My heart goes out to you my sister in Christ. I pray that the Lord places His loving arms around you and carries you and your husband though this difficult time. Your beautiful Miracle is with their Heavenly Father and I know that the Lord will bless you though this difficult time. I pray that the Lord gives you peace and that you draw closer to Him and that you and your husband can grow even closer together during this difficult process.

You and your husband are in my prayers. HUGS to you and I pray peace and blessings over you and your house.

 

[bee*]

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I'm so sorry to hear what's happened Fisher. Sending prayers to you and Paul.

 

[Laila619]

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Fisher, I'm so so sorry. It just doesn't seem fair.

Hugs to you and Paul. I will be thinking of you three. It doesn't seem weird at all to name your baby. Not one bit. This baby will always be in your heart, and I know you will be a wonderful mom to your future children.

 

[Missy0483]

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Fisher - So very sorry to read this. I hope the best for you and you'll be able to get through this sad time.

 

[sunkist]

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Fisher!! I'm so sorry. Huge hugs! I have a feeling that little special baby of yours is still waiting up in heaven waiting to come down and be in your arms and to be a part of your family. You will meet him/her soon! Thinking of you and Paul.

 

[Clairitek]

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Fisher, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.

 

[amc80]

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Wow, Fisher, so sorry this has happened. Praying for a(nother) miracle.

 

[drk]

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Fisher - I'm so sorry that things have turned out this way, and so impressed with your faith despite this setback. Huge hugs! I wondered if things had gone badly when we didn't hear from you for a while.
I totally understand why you don't want to have a D&C. I wouldn't either. If things don't resolve on their own, I think it's possible to try to get the miscarriage going medically (I think with methotrexate) rather than surgically. It doesn't always work, but might be another option to consider if it gets that far.
Personally, I wouldn't wait a month to TTC. Often people seem to be more fertile immediately after a miscarriage (maybe because of the high progesterone levels during the pregnancy), and you're so aware of your body by now, that you'll notice signs of ovulation anyhow. With early ultrasounds for dating, that is absolutely not a concern.
If it helps, I found the pain of the miscarriage did fade over time, though I still feel sad about our losses. I know you and your DH are so supportive of one another and will be surrounded by lots of love as you get through this and start to heal.

 

[PetitiePoire]

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I'm so sorry Fisher. I think my mind doesn't want to wrap my head around it all. I like the idea of naming the baby and am so glad you have momentos from this pregnancy. they will be something you can physically see when you think of your little one. I wish you and your family the best andi have no doubt you and your husband have been great parents thus far!

Your strength, love, and faith is truly inspiring.

 

[mayerling]

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Fisher, I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers.

 

[JGator]

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Fisher, my heart sank when I read your post. I know you will make the best mommy some day. You have an angel in heaven watching over you now. I know that you will be parents again to your forever baby. Hugs to you and Paul.

 

[sunnyd]

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I'm so sorry to hear this Fisher. Thoughts outgoing to the three of you.

 

[Puppmom]

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Oh, Fisher. I was so optimistic. I didn’t realize it until having a loss myself that just because the loss is *early* doesn’t make it hurt any less. DH and I were preventing and became pregnant unexpectedly last summer. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage somewhere around 7 weeks. It really kicked my butt to put it lightly. I had so much difficulty processing what happened. It still hurts but, at some point, acceptance just came to me. From that point on, the weight has been much less.

I hope that you and Paul are able to find peace and comfort in each other. You’ll be in my thoughts.

 

[Buttons]

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Oh no Fisher I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and Paul and to baby Miracle. You will all be in my prayers.

 

[dani13]

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Oh Fisher, I am so so sorry. My heart is breaking for you & Paul. You will be in my thoughts & prayers. Big hugs.