JewelFreak
Ideal_Rock
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I thought about this all night! Came up with the same solution Addy suggests. Unless your family is superhuman, I see trouble with this lovely & kind offer. On the lines of, "Here we are struggling to pay our mortgage & do things right, and they GIVE her a house???" Not necessarily fair thinking, but sure is natural. Plus the grandparents' own possible emotional attachment & feelings about any changes you make.
Can you tell them you believe in paying your own way -- "part of us wants to have our own house that no one helped us with or gave us. It's a pride thing." -- well put -- maybe say just that. Ask if you can pay them as the mortgage holders. (For safety's sake you'd have to draw up a document laying out terms clearly.) Figure out what you can afford -- perhaps what you pay now in rent.
My sister's father-in-law bought their mortgage & they paid him instead of a bank -- small amounts geared to their small income. In his will he forgave the rest of the mortgage, so the house was theirs free & clear when he died. It worked out great -- and no resentment from their other kid.
--- Laurie
Can you tell them you believe in paying your own way -- "part of us wants to have our own house that no one helped us with or gave us. It's a pride thing." -- well put -- maybe say just that. Ask if you can pay them as the mortgage holders. (For safety's sake you'd have to draw up a document laying out terms clearly.) Figure out what you can afford -- perhaps what you pay now in rent.
My sister's father-in-law bought their mortgage & they paid him instead of a bank -- small amounts geared to their small income. In his will he forgave the rest of the mortgage, so the house was theirs free & clear when he died. It worked out great -- and no resentment from their other kid.
--- Laurie