What about YOU drives your SO crazy?

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

My DH and family tell me I am the glue (matriarch) that keeps the family together. The thing that drives DH crazy is that I am very mellow most of the time, but ever so often when the stuff hits the fan I call the shots and it is my way or the highway. I love that we all get along and we all make allowences, but sometimes when a hard decision has to be made I will be the one who makes it. I know he would love to be in charge but my family trusts me to be the one in charge. I hate to pull rank but sometimes it has to be done.

 

[Imdanny]

I feed the cat on the floor on not in a bowl.

Hey, it's a concrete floor and my thinking is, "It's soft food. It will be gone soon."

Um, not soon enough for SO not to step in it tonight.

He was not happy!

He roared like a lion. I thought the plastic from the frozen pizza had melted on the toaster oven or something.

He and I were talking about this tonight (vis a vis when my landlord called me up and ordered me to bring the desk chair to the garage in five minutes). We agreed that if he (SO) did that, it would depend on the situation whether I'd take offense.

Needless to say, I didn't take offense to him getting upset and cleaned it up (while saying, "Shh, don't yell, it's ok") and I had to promise not to do it again.

My driving.

Let me count the ways he objects.

Or not.

I don't think we have time.

I don't like to fold the laundry that is casual clothes. I don't care. He wants everything folded.

I spend a lot of time looking at things I can't afford...

Guilty!

 

[PositivelyPeanut]

Hmmm...

Well, he's never said it to me, but I can be really critical.

Oh, and I can come off as bossy. (I've tried to be better about this. I used to say "You need to..." about everything. Like "You need to check into that..." Drove my son and hubby nuts. I'm really careful not to say "You need to" anymore.)

I sometimes defend my position a little too, ummm let's just say, passionately.

I clean after he "cleans" (guess that comes under critical, above).

And totally this:

- I have a slightly obsessive nature and am always all-guns-blazing-can't-think-about-anything-else for my current 'thing' until I complete it/get it.

All in all, I think it's about even. :þ

 

[JewelFreak]

I swear, sometimes he (and ILs) live in a bad Disney movie. I call it their 'happy bubble' complete with rainbows, blue birds and puppy dogs.

Portia, my DH exactly!!!! Drives me crazy. Can't count the number of times I've said, "you prepare for bad things so if they happen, they aren't so bad. It's called Reality, boy." Well, I'm just a horrible party pooper. Being the grown-up isn't easy!

--- Laurie

 

[maplefemme]

He's prepared for ANYTHING, always, he's my Macguyver, a one man tactical team....I'm not, drives him crazy, it's from his career in the Forces.
I forget my sunglasses for outdoor events, leave my cell at home when we hike in the mountains (I know he's rigged to the nines so I don't bother) but that drives him nuts, I "should" have my own.
I pack carry-on only for a month in the jungle, he packs like we aren't returning home and are heading to war.
Needless to say, my purse has been equipt with a knife, mace, seatbelt cutter, glass breaker, there's a full paramedical kit in the trunk, just in case someone needs an emergency tracheotomy

He doesn't get mad, I just get the condescending eyeroll of "how have you survived without me?!"

 

[chemgirl]

I just remembered his biggest complaint (probably because I was just doing it....)

My mom was an elementary school teacher and she still uses her teacher voice when she's annoyed with anyone. She'll do it to my dad and it drives him nuts. Apparently I have the same teacher voice! I'm not a teacher, but I guess I picked it up from her. I don't realize I'm doing it, but apparently I use the teacher voice whenever DH does something that I feel he should know not to do. In this case getting the groceries and then spending an hour and a half in the hardware store so they spoil in the car. He hates the teacher voice so I'm trying to be more aware of it and stop! Its hard though!

 

[TooPatient]

I insist on all DVDs being alphabetized. (we have two book cases full so you have to have a system to find them!) Of course that means I'll quite happily pay extra to buy movies separately instead of in a set.

I leave my shoes all over and then can't find them until I trip on them or he spends 15 minutes looking under all the furniture.

He also claims I snore, roll myself in all the blankets, take his pillow, and do other strange things in my sleep.

I'll eat breakfast in the car and let the bowl sit in the backseet all day until we get home. That breakfast is regulary full of garlic, onions, or some other highly scented food.

I worry too much.

 

[oneam]

I feed the cat on the floor on not in a bowl.

Hey, it's a concrete floor and my thinking is, "It's soft food. It will be gone soon."

Um, not soon enough for SO not to step in it tonight.

Ok, I was already like before I got to the "soft" part. He may have a point about this one

 

[jaysonsmom]

-I'm a multiple- sneezer, I usually sneeze 7+ times in a row, and especially loudly in the mornings
-I say yes to everything, and over-commit myself (and the whole family) on weekends
-I'm always happy, and bubbly. Dh hates that I'm always trying to pull him out of having a silent and moody day

 

[Asu]

I'm messy,really messy;
I'm moody,and he hates it with passion (so do I )
I'm clumsy,always dropping something,breaking something else,or hurting myself.I'm not allowed to use big chopping knives anymore,because he think I'm going to chop one of my fingers off (and he has a point ).I was able to almost break my big toes,dropping a full bottle of vodka out of the fridge and directly on my toes he was in bed sleeping,but boy,he heard me cry like I was being killed and screaming for him...when he came to the kitchen,he didn't know if he had to get worried or burst into laughter
I'm a procrastinator,and he's not;
I'm always late;
I often don't get his jokes,and I get offended because I think he's serious...but that's not my fault,most of the times his jokes just aren't funny

 

[ladypirate]

- I can't make decisions when I'm hungry, and I get REALLY cranky. So when I'm hungry, he'll ask where I want to eat, and I simply cannot answer him, and progressively get more and more angry from being more and more hungry, to the point where we actually FIGHT about dinner. I, apparently, must be fed on a strict schedule.

I could have written that! We have fought over whether to have fish and chips with vinegar or sauce.

I do the exact same thing! It drives K nuts.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

never mind...................

 

[Imdanny]

I'm too much of a Capitalist for his Socialist sensibilities (see the bit above about him being French)

This is a great thread!

SO and I share the same politics.

Is there anyone else here who doesn't share the same politics as their SO?

I can't imagine!

 

[Imdanny]

I feed the cat on the floor on not in a bowl.

Hey, it's a concrete floor and my thinking is, "It's soft food. It will be gone soon."

Um, not soon enough for SO not to step in it tonight.

Ok, I was already like before I got to the "soft" part. He may have a point about this one

LOL!

I stopped doing that after last night.

 

[Hera]

1. I'm a relaxed driver. I don't care if people cut me off, go too slow or any other things that make some drivers angry. I will get where I'm going eventually and in a good mood.

2. I'm more messy than he is.

3. He considers "late" to be 15 mins before and I prefer to be on time or a couple of mins late to anything. This is "late" and "really late" to him.

4. I'm not stern enough with the animals and apparently they have overrun the house. In my opinion, why get all worked up if the cat is being naughty. Cats are cute, naughty animals, Not much I can do about that!

5. That's all I can think of. I must be so perfect

 

[minousbijoux]

These are all too funny!

I had SO many alleged bothersome habits and faults for the 17 years of my marriage. But you know, they miraculously disappeared when we parted ways. Now I have no bad habits whatsoever!!

 

[bee*]

DH hates that:
I'm a little bit messy. I don't see the need to live in a "perfect, everything has it's place" home.
I always have to be early whereas he's always late.
I worry too much about things.
I like the alarm to go off about 30 mins before I have to get up so that I can snooze.
that I don't like the BIg Lebowski movie.

 

[iLander]

I'm blunt. I say it, it comes out exactly as it occurred in my head.

I'll say to DD "Your room is a mess, are you going to clean it?"

DH says " DD, I think you'd feel more organized if your room was a little cleaner . . . "

It's partly how I was raised (by someone who only spoke broken English and adjectives and cozy words just weren't there) and partly because I'm an Aquarius. We're blunt. So shoot me.

I've gotten better over the years, but it's still a struggle.

 

[iLander]

These are all too funny!

I had SO many alleged bothersome habits and faults for the 17 years of my marriage. But you know, they miraculously disappeared when we parted ways. Now I have no bad habits whatsoever!!

LOL!!

 

[missy]

The one thing that drives my dh crazy about me (well not crazy per se but a quality he would prefer I tone down) is that he thinks I worry too much. I don't disagree and I have been working on this and some days are easier than others. Seems there is always something to worry about! I know it is unhealthy for me and I truly am working on not worrying (as much). A little worry is a healthy thing.

Another thing that used to bother my dh is that I used to interrupt him because he is a slow talker. I am aware of this and have really been so much better about this and can finally say I have broken that bad habit! Yay!! And it only took a little over 11 years LOL.

The last thing I can think of that drives my dh crazy is that I often talk to him from a different room and he cannot really understand me when I do this and it frustrates him (understandably so). My problem is that when I want to say something I don't always feel like walking across the house. But because it annoys him I am making a concerted effort to actually go to where he is when I have something to say.

 

[Snow_Miser]

Oh, goodness, this will be a loooooong list...

1.) I, too, am one of those people that hits the snooze button 5 times in the morning, and SO is a very light sleeper.

2.) Ocassionally I forget/choose not to change the toilet paper roll

3.) I am 100% a democrat, and SO is more moderate

4.) I like to talk while he is watching football

5.) Sometimes when SO is droning on about something, I will interrupt him and start talking about something completely different

6.) I have a tendency to snap and be really rude when I get upset/angry

7.) I don't like rough housing and often get really angry when we do and he plays too rough/I get hurt

8.) I chew too loudly, open the bedroom door too loudly, put dishes away too loudly, lol. SO claims to have very acute hearing...

I know there's more, much more, but this is all I can think of right now.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

The 2 biggest things.

I leave drawers partially open

I leave the closet light on

 

[Clio]

I'm a bossy, know-it-all control freak. It's true - I am! I also hate making phone calls and dealing with people like the plumber, lawn guy, etc. My husband does all of that for me, and in return I edit his emails and work reports. In that situation, being a bossy, know-it-all control freak has a few benefits.

 

[Autumnovember]

Oh lets see:

I'm "pouty" too often (I disagree).
I am disorganized
I lose everything and anything as a result of my disorganization
He tells me I need to grow thicker skin and stop caring about the small stuff
I can be controlling (but he says even though he hates it sometimes, there are moments where he loves it depending on the situation).
He hates that I can't sleep with the TV on
He hates that I'm a light sleeper and if he makes the tiniest noise I wake up and become a monster
He wishes that I liked football more (I blame him because if I was taught a bit about the sport, I would like it)
He says that sometimes I can be a loose cannon. Pretty much if I'm mad enough (it takes a lot to get me there), I'm one of those people that could really, really let you have it..
He doesn't like the anxiety I get if I'm even 1 minute late. I truly cannot handle being late to anything and I feel like I'm about to blow up/have a heart attack when I see that we're running late.
In the morning, I sneeze.... A LOT

 

[Porridge]

I am also a victim of hunger induced crankiness. SO quickly learned that I need to be fed on a strict schedule. Now he carries snacks upon his person pretty much all the time and Porridge is happy

I HAVE to be on time, on the rare occasion that I am late (because of him) I get very anxious. I don't think I've ever seen him anxious! He doesn't understand it.

There is no waking me up once I've fallen asleep, and I fall asleep almost instantly. I also conk out on planes, often before takeoff. So if he can't sleep and wants to chat, or there is outside noise keeping him awake, or he is bored during a flight, I am no good to him!

I hate shopping. HATE it. If I need clothes I will moan and complain until he drags me around and picks stuff out for me. Then I complain about having to try it on. It's a long, frustrating process. Same goes for packing.

I have to clean the dishes right after dinner, it bothers me to leave them sitting there. Same for most chores really. He likes to relax after eating and always wants to leave them til later. It annoys him that I have to buzz around before I can relax.


I am obsessed with looking at jewels and drag him into jewelry shops aaaaaall the time. He says he finds this cute and likes that I get excited about the sparklies, but I don't know, how much can a guy take really?!? I suspect that even if this one doesn't annoy him now, it might start to someday!