ammayernyc
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I know I''m getting ahead of myself since I''m not even engaged, but I know that this is a decision that I (hopefully) will have to make within the year.
What are people''s thoughts on not changing your name after getting married? I don''t like the hyphenation thing, so I know I wouldn''t do that. The problem really is is that my mother had drilled it in to me that I am not to change my name. She said she regretted changing hers and even tried me to get me to change my middle name to her maiden name. (Didn''t happen...).
I never asked my bf about it but found out how he feel about the subject when he found out that a co-worker didn''t change her name and he reacted with disgust. He can be old fashioned that way.
In some ways, I want to change my name. My bf has a nice, normal, easily-spelled last name that no one can mispronounce or mess up. However, my mom''s not alive anymore so I can''t really convince her that it''s okay for me to change my name and that I will always consider myself a feminist and blah, blah, blah...
Thoughts?
What are people''s thoughts on not changing your name after getting married? I don''t like the hyphenation thing, so I know I wouldn''t do that. The problem really is is that my mother had drilled it in to me that I am not to change my name. She said she regretted changing hers and even tried me to get me to change my middle name to her maiden name. (Didn''t happen...).
I never asked my bf about it but found out how he feel about the subject when he found out that a co-worker didn''t change her name and he reacted with disgust. He can be old fashioned that way.
In some ways, I want to change my name. My bf has a nice, normal, easily-spelled last name that no one can mispronounce or mess up. However, my mom''s not alive anymore so I can''t really convince her that it''s okay for me to change my name and that I will always consider myself a feminist and blah, blah, blah...
Thoughts?