or is my boyfriend a jerk? Would like some honest opinions. Here is goes........... I met Ed almost a year ago. We are both late twenties, out of college, etc.....
When we met, we instantly fell in love. I had previously been in serious long term relationships, but never discussed marriage because I just didn''t see it with these people. Right up front when I met Ed in Oct of last year, we were both like "No marriage for a long time, we are going to try not to rush it." But after about a month (late Nov), our relationship got so amazing that he actually asked me to marry him kind of unofficially (no ring, no telling anyone else). He even said he would marry me right then, but he would rather wait until he had money for a ring. I wasn''t sure, but I knew how much I loved him and put my faith in the fact that he loved me enough to break his own rules to propose to me even unofficially. So I jumped on the bandwagon and said yes, so excited that I actually felt like marrying someone for the first time in my life. We talked about it alot, he even drug me into a jewelry store at the mall one day around Christmas to look at rings. Then after about a month, the talk stopped and I have not heard anything else about marriage until last night, when I asked him what was up.
He said he wasn''t ready to get married, and didn''t see us being engaged until two years from NOW! I told him I wanted to at least be officially engaged, and he said no. We moved in together right around the time we decided to get married unofficially, have already dealt with some major issues and come out great due to high level of communication and love for each other, and share most everything.
I guess I just thought that since we are already committed to each other by living together, I just want to be able to tell everyone else that we are intending to marry. It hurts too, because he was so gung ho at the beginning, and I let my guard down and allowed myself to get caught up in all of it, now I am hurt that he has changed his mind just because we have had some arguments since then. I feel like leaving the relationship, what do you think?
When we met, we instantly fell in love. I had previously been in serious long term relationships, but never discussed marriage because I just didn''t see it with these people. Right up front when I met Ed in Oct of last year, we were both like "No marriage for a long time, we are going to try not to rush it." But after about a month (late Nov), our relationship got so amazing that he actually asked me to marry him kind of unofficially (no ring, no telling anyone else). He even said he would marry me right then, but he would rather wait until he had money for a ring. I wasn''t sure, but I knew how much I loved him and put my faith in the fact that he loved me enough to break his own rules to propose to me even unofficially. So I jumped on the bandwagon and said yes, so excited that I actually felt like marrying someone for the first time in my life. We talked about it alot, he even drug me into a jewelry store at the mall one day around Christmas to look at rings. Then after about a month, the talk stopped and I have not heard anything else about marriage until last night, when I asked him what was up.
He said he wasn''t ready to get married, and didn''t see us being engaged until two years from NOW! I told him I wanted to at least be officially engaged, and he said no. We moved in together right around the time we decided to get married unofficially, have already dealt with some major issues and come out great due to high level of communication and love for each other, and share most everything.
I guess I just thought that since we are already committed to each other by living together, I just want to be able to tell everyone else that we are intending to marry. It hurts too, because he was so gung ho at the beginning, and I let my guard down and allowed myself to get caught up in all of it, now I am hurt that he has changed his mind just because we have had some arguments since then. I feel like leaving the relationship, what do you think?
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