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Brilliant_Rock
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what I am wondering is, when should we get married? I am just started to learn the real details of the process of bringing my fiance over to America from Japan after we are married, and I keep thinking that the most logical decision is to do it now. Go ahead and be legally married so that we can really begin the paperwork and start working on getting her a greencard. However, we wont ahve a marriage ceremony until best next summer, and most likely she will just come to america for 2 months next next October (not next months october, but Oct 0 and then we will have the wedding ceremony on Dec 08, that way my family/relatives have time to save up money plane tickets, and we both have time to save up more money. we may still try to do it next summer, as it is Japanese custom for the relatives to bring cash gifts of about $300, which is going to help out tremendously with wedding expenses, but either way, I am not sure when we should legally become married.
I dont want to do it now, as I woudl like to have more time being engaged, and I simply dont want to be married 1 1/2 years before our wedding you know? thats just ridiculous to me. We could do it next Christmas/early January when I am back in Japan (but we might not be able to as she will not be coming to America at christmas but is this september, which would, i imagine make things easier if we do it now), but christmas is what I am leaning toward and begin the paperwork then, if possible...but I still am not really happy with diong it so much sooner than the wedding will be taking place you know? Anyone with experience on this that can give me some advice on what to do and to expect legally?
Of course I will go and talk to counselors, maybe a lawyer and so on, to figure out exactly what to do, but some of you have experience, such as TG so, I figured I would go ahead and post and see what you say.
I dont want to do it now, as I woudl like to have more time being engaged, and I simply dont want to be married 1 1/2 years before our wedding you know? thats just ridiculous to me. We could do it next Christmas/early January when I am back in Japan (but we might not be able to as she will not be coming to America at christmas but is this september, which would, i imagine make things easier if we do it now), but christmas is what I am leaning toward and begin the paperwork then, if possible...but I still am not really happy with diong it so much sooner than the wedding will be taking place you know? Anyone with experience on this that can give me some advice on what to do and to expect legally?
Of course I will go and talk to counselors, maybe a lawyer and so on, to figure out exactly what to do, but some of you have experience, such as TG so, I figured I would go ahead and post and see what you say.