EmDressage
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- Apr 6, 2010
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Hi, was lurking around and came across the older thread of Birth control & your libido (sex drive)... FYI (hope the link works,.....).
Anyway, wanted to post to it, but I guess it''s ''expired''? Not sure, but couldnt. So, if it''s OK, do you mind if I just put this out there? TMI warning here,.......but it''s something that has been ''bothering'' me, more or less that I am covering up and not thinking about now.
So, my TMI is that I am diagnosed with a serious fear of doctors (human doctors) and am a ''needle-phob'', if you will. That being said, (at 20 yrs old), I do not go to the doctor if I can help it. As in, no regular doc. or etc. I have a good friend who is a dr. and he was able to do my inoculations for college several years ago (after giving me a large amount of drugs (clinical strength adivan,etc.) to ''calm'' my mind, so to speak to be able to let me sit without climbing the walls more or less to inject my arm a few times! ) Anyway, (sorry I''m saying that a lot, it makes me nervous just to ''type'' this out! ) long story short, tried to go to ''see'' a gyno last year, but failed, walking out after having several serious panic attacks all the way there and in waiting room and office, and breaking down in the office several times, etc. and with FI holding onto me the entire time-if it was not for him, I would not have gone-. I went in b/c the periods were getting painful (and I was not taking meds (pain-relievers, not clinical strength, just off the shelf stuff) for them, I am now, but not happy,.....) and FI and I NEVER want kids. As in, we have NEVER (seriously here) wanted them, either of us, and NEVER do. Our lives just don''t want them, we don''t want them, our dreams and life goals/ambitions do not want them, etc. We are just the type of people who are not ever going to have them or deal with them. We cannot and do not like to deal with children in general, and the families and our friends know this and support us in our decision (after a lot of "Oh, you will one day, they have realized that we will not. We will never. " ) So, asking about me getting a hysterectomy or partial so I can not have the periods or side-affects, etc. and know I will never have kids.
It is just something that affects, has affected, my life. I get panic attacks thinking about, etc. the periods, etc. Not to mention, having kids. So, getting a hysterectomy would be a huge physical and MENTAL relief for me, for us. However, the gyno we saw completely dismissed the idea and said I have not other option but the BCP, which is bullsh*t by the way. Anyway, just wanting to see what others think of this. I am 20, turning 21 next month, and am mature (both of us are) beyond my years. I moved out at a young age and am working to become an equine veterinarian. Anything that is not permanent is not an option, like IUC or BC. I do not want to f*ck with my hormones, but I want a permenant fix. I just keep myself from panicking about thinking or typing this by, well, not thinking about it, so please excuse any odd explanations or weird sentance structure, my posts are normally not odd. This is just a phobia for me, and I want to get some other opinions from yall, as you are mostly ladies here (sorry guys!) and I feel like it is somewhat ''safe'' to discuss something like this over an internet connection, versus say, a friend down the road who will bring it up every time we talk-if that makes any freakin'' sense at all! AH!
It also affects FI and I''s sex drive, to an extent, not so much anymore b/c I do not think about it, but I am afraid to ''finish'' anything (ahem, if you get my meaning) b/c I am afraid for that lack of control I would have in such a ''phobic'' place. I feel that with a hysterectomy (my thinking, take it out, I will not have to deal with it or the phobia of what it could do, anymore,......) I could relax more with my FI and be more comfortable. I have a serious ''control freak'' attitude towards some things, and that being one of them, it bothers me.
Anyway, just your thoughts would be great, you are all such a good group of people!
Thanks,
-Em
Anyway, wanted to post to it, but I guess it''s ''expired''? Not sure, but couldnt. So, if it''s OK, do you mind if I just put this out there? TMI warning here,.......but it''s something that has been ''bothering'' me, more or less that I am covering up and not thinking about now.
So, my TMI is that I am diagnosed with a serious fear of doctors (human doctors) and am a ''needle-phob'', if you will. That being said, (at 20 yrs old), I do not go to the doctor if I can help it. As in, no regular doc. or etc. I have a good friend who is a dr. and he was able to do my inoculations for college several years ago (after giving me a large amount of drugs (clinical strength adivan,etc.) to ''calm'' my mind, so to speak to be able to let me sit without climbing the walls more or less to inject my arm a few times! ) Anyway, (sorry I''m saying that a lot, it makes me nervous just to ''type'' this out! ) long story short, tried to go to ''see'' a gyno last year, but failed, walking out after having several serious panic attacks all the way there and in waiting room and office, and breaking down in the office several times, etc. and with FI holding onto me the entire time-if it was not for him, I would not have gone-. I went in b/c the periods were getting painful (and I was not taking meds (pain-relievers, not clinical strength, just off the shelf stuff) for them, I am now, but not happy,.....) and FI and I NEVER want kids. As in, we have NEVER (seriously here) wanted them, either of us, and NEVER do. Our lives just don''t want them, we don''t want them, our dreams and life goals/ambitions do not want them, etc. We are just the type of people who are not ever going to have them or deal with them. We cannot and do not like to deal with children in general, and the families and our friends know this and support us in our decision (after a lot of "Oh, you will one day, they have realized that we will not. We will never. " ) So, asking about me getting a hysterectomy or partial so I can not have the periods or side-affects, etc. and know I will never have kids.
It is just something that affects, has affected, my life. I get panic attacks thinking about, etc. the periods, etc. Not to mention, having kids. So, getting a hysterectomy would be a huge physical and MENTAL relief for me, for us. However, the gyno we saw completely dismissed the idea and said I have not other option but the BCP, which is bullsh*t by the way. Anyway, just wanting to see what others think of this. I am 20, turning 21 next month, and am mature (both of us are) beyond my years. I moved out at a young age and am working to become an equine veterinarian. Anything that is not permanent is not an option, like IUC or BC. I do not want to f*ck with my hormones, but I want a permenant fix. I just keep myself from panicking about thinking or typing this by, well, not thinking about it, so please excuse any odd explanations or weird sentance structure, my posts are normally not odd. This is just a phobia for me, and I want to get some other opinions from yall, as you are mostly ladies here (sorry guys!) and I feel like it is somewhat ''safe'' to discuss something like this over an internet connection, versus say, a friend down the road who will bring it up every time we talk-if that makes any freakin'' sense at all! AH!
It also affects FI and I''s sex drive, to an extent, not so much anymore b/c I do not think about it, but I am afraid to ''finish'' anything (ahem, if you get my meaning) b/c I am afraid for that lack of control I would have in such a ''phobic'' place. I feel that with a hysterectomy (my thinking, take it out, I will not have to deal with it or the phobia of what it could do, anymore,......) I could relax more with my FI and be more comfortable. I have a serious ''control freak'' attitude towards some things, and that being one of them, it bothers me.
Anyway, just your thoughts would be great, you are all such a good group of people!
Thanks,
-Em