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I talked with the venu we'd and got my questions (so far) answered. (I had a thread a couple of pages back with details). Turns out that the 20% service is the gratuity.
Budget wise, it will be a bit of a stretch but since they include pretty much everything in the price we should be able to manage it (without going into debt).
FI is concerned that it may be too far to ask guests to go and we won't have anyone show up. Before we sign contracts, he wants to find out from guests if this is something that will work for them. (as my wedding nightmare a couple of days ago suggests, I have the same worries).
For almost all of our guests, it would be a 2 hour drive. The venu has 30 (by next summer will be 75) rooms that are absolutely amazing and we can get a discount (10-15%) for all of our guests. We'd also put money into an account with them so that we'd be paying an additional part of the rooms (I'd like to keep rooms to $100 -- preferably less) so it wouldn't be as much of a burden and anyone who wanted could stay overnight and have brunch the next day before driving home. (they'd also be able to hike, do wine tastings, or go to the spa -- whatever they want)
So I've got 2 questions:
1: Would you attend a wedding 2 hours away? If so, would you stay the night (given the $100 room) or just drive home after?
2: How do I approach guests with this question? The number who would be willing to stay determines how much of a discount there is (if we take all 30 rooms, the discount will be much larger) and a rough estimate will play a big part in how we negotiate the contract.
FI suggested e-mail (allows people to decline gracefully) or even an "unofficial e-vite -- formal invitation to follow" but I'm not sure I like either of those ideas. I was thinking I could call the people I think are most likely to stay over and get an estimate that way (fi is concerned that people my feel obligated to say yes but back out later)
Budget wise, it will be a bit of a stretch but since they include pretty much everything in the price we should be able to manage it (without going into debt).
FI is concerned that it may be too far to ask guests to go and we won't have anyone show up. Before we sign contracts, he wants to find out from guests if this is something that will work for them. (as my wedding nightmare a couple of days ago suggests, I have the same worries).
For almost all of our guests, it would be a 2 hour drive. The venu has 30 (by next summer will be 75) rooms that are absolutely amazing and we can get a discount (10-15%) for all of our guests. We'd also put money into an account with them so that we'd be paying an additional part of the rooms (I'd like to keep rooms to $100 -- preferably less) so it wouldn't be as much of a burden and anyone who wanted could stay overnight and have brunch the next day before driving home. (they'd also be able to hike, do wine tastings, or go to the spa -- whatever they want)
So I've got 2 questions:
1: Would you attend a wedding 2 hours away? If so, would you stay the night (given the $100 room) or just drive home after?
2: How do I approach guests with this question? The number who would be willing to stay determines how much of a discount there is (if we take all 30 rooms, the discount will be much larger) and a rough estimate will play a big part in how we negotiate the contract.
FI suggested e-mail (allows people to decline gracefully) or even an "unofficial e-vite -- formal invitation to follow" but I'm not sure I like either of those ideas. I was thinking I could call the people I think are most likely to stay over and get an estimate that way (fi is concerned that people my feel obligated to say yes but back out later)