Treasure43
Brilliant_Rock
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So today FI comes home and tells me that his mother told him that his sister calls her up after times we''re together and says she feels like I don''t like her. Apparently his aunt has mentioned this also. Now, FSIL and I didn''t get off to the best start. She''s very dramatic and high maintaince and sometimes she comes across not very nice. My MOH actually commented on this as well. There''s also he fact that my FI''s mother basically told me when I was planning the wedding that if I didn''t put FSIL in the wedding, it would cause a lot of hurt feelings and she probably wouldn''t come to the wedding. I decided to put her in the wedding, despite the fact that I barely knew her and just didn''t feel comfortable around her (I still don''t). Then there was the whole issue where she got upset when I ended up picking out my BM dresses and she wasn''t there (just 2 of my 4 BM were there and it happened without me really planning on actually picking a dress). So things have been a little weird between us but I just try to be nice to her. At our engagement party she said hi to me and then didn''t say one word to me or the bridal party the rest of the night.
Anyway, FI is understandably frustrated and wants us to talk about it with her. Now obviously I can''t tell her I''m a bit resentful that I felt pushed into putting her in the wedding so I''ve told him I''ll tell her we got off on the wrong foot (which is true) and try to get more comfortable around her. I really want to like her, but she''s hard to approach and I find myself not knowing what to say to her. Basically, I''m just not comfortable around her and the fact that she''s in the wedding party is ony highlighting that uncomfortableness. I guess I just wanted to vent and see if anyone had an thoughts on dealing with a FSIL you might not have the best relationship with. I have such a hard time pretending like I''m not frustrated about some of the things that happened in the past and were never dealt with, but it seems silly to bring up these things now since nothing can be done about it.
Anyway, FI is understandably frustrated and wants us to talk about it with her. Now obviously I can''t tell her I''m a bit resentful that I felt pushed into putting her in the wedding so I''ve told him I''ll tell her we got off on the wrong foot (which is true) and try to get more comfortable around her. I really want to like her, but she''s hard to approach and I find myself not knowing what to say to her. Basically, I''m just not comfortable around her and the fact that she''s in the wedding party is ony highlighting that uncomfortableness. I guess I just wanted to vent and see if anyone had an thoughts on dealing with a FSIL you might not have the best relationship with. I have such a hard time pretending like I''m not frustrated about some of the things that happened in the past and were never dealt with, but it seems silly to bring up these things now since nothing can be done about it.