whenharrymetsally
Shiny_Rock
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- Mar 21, 2007
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Do any of you ladies have any advice for me? Please??
FI's sister has a 3 year old son and who is the only young/toddler in our immediate family. As soon as we announced our engagement, FSIL immediately assumed that he would be our ring bearer. The problem is this. FSIL is um...lets say..'extremely difficult to get along with' and is very manipulative. If she doesn't get her way..she will let you know she is not happy and make nasty remarks. An additional problem. Another issue i'm having is that she openly breastfeeds him anywhere and everywhere we go. Please do not get me wrong. I truly believe breastfeeding is a wonderful natural thing and do not have any issues with it, but most of the time, mothers will perhaps turn to the side or place a little blanket over their shoulder or make some effort not to completely expose themselves in public or even use the 'mother's room' when doing so. Um...my FSIL will "whip out the breast" not caring who sees, where we are or who as at the table. Her son will actually run up to her and lift her shirt! She has done this in front of her father, her brother, her sister's boy friend, at family dinners, christmas (at the dinner table!!) and basically everybody in her family has openly seen her breasts!! (frankly..i'm sick of them) I am having nightmares and know that she will do this at my ceremony!! Can you imagine wedding pictures with my FSIL breastfeeding?? Oh god.. I was hoping that by the age of THREE he would be off breastmilk or even just a nighttime...but um...doesn't look like it will happen anytime soon. I really want to tell them that we are not having ring bearers or flower girls and hope she will get the message, but the family keeps brining it up that he will be our ring bearer? Am I overreacting? HELP!!! Ooh..i forgot to mention...he is not exactly the most well behaved either. He is very spoiled and extremely demanding. He screams at the top of his lungs if he doesn't get what he wants.
Please...if i am overreacting..tell me.....but this is killing me!!!
FI's sister has a 3 year old son and who is the only young/toddler in our immediate family. As soon as we announced our engagement, FSIL immediately assumed that he would be our ring bearer. The problem is this. FSIL is um...lets say..'extremely difficult to get along with' and is very manipulative. If she doesn't get her way..she will let you know she is not happy and make nasty remarks. An additional problem. Another issue i'm having is that she openly breastfeeds him anywhere and everywhere we go. Please do not get me wrong. I truly believe breastfeeding is a wonderful natural thing and do not have any issues with it, but most of the time, mothers will perhaps turn to the side or place a little blanket over their shoulder or make some effort not to completely expose themselves in public or even use the 'mother's room' when doing so. Um...my FSIL will "whip out the breast" not caring who sees, where we are or who as at the table. Her son will actually run up to her and lift her shirt! She has done this in front of her father, her brother, her sister's boy friend, at family dinners, christmas (at the dinner table!!) and basically everybody in her family has openly seen her breasts!! (frankly..i'm sick of them) I am having nightmares and know that she will do this at my ceremony!! Can you imagine wedding pictures with my FSIL breastfeeding?? Oh god.. I was hoping that by the age of THREE he would be off breastmilk or even just a nighttime...but um...doesn't look like it will happen anytime soon. I really want to tell them that we are not having ring bearers or flower girls and hope she will get the message, but the family keeps brining it up that he will be our ring bearer? Am I overreacting? HELP!!! Ooh..i forgot to mention...he is not exactly the most well behaved either. He is very spoiled and extremely demanding. He screams at the top of his lungs if he doesn't get what he wants.
Please...if i am overreacting..tell me.....but this is killing me!!!