WOW - I have been told how $$$ to pay for my plate, including due date for payment!

[lesco]

Hey, you see something new everyday. This might be the beginning of a new trend!

I was just invited via phone to a relative''s wedding. She and I are close. After I accepted, she told me oh well, it is $150 something per person plus tax and service fee and we are requesting the funds before the wedding date. Please call FI with your credit card if it is easier. If not, cash is OK...

That''s it, I''m eloping... I guess I left you guys speechless!!!

 

[neatfreak]

I really hope you are kidding...

 

[lesco]

No, I am not NF I swear. I went into a state of shock followed by "OK, I will call your FI with arrangements".

 

[emeraldlover1]

No freaking way! That is honestly the most terrible thing I have every heard. How did you respond?

 

[ChargerGrrl]

seriously? where in the world is this happening? I hope it''s an isolated incident (or misunderstanding)

 

[lesco]

EM1 - see post above. I''m still a tad shocked and with a serious case of nervous laughter! OMFG

 

[sugary]

I am guessing that she will have a very small wedding indeed and no presents.

 

[April20]

That is seriously out of control. Words fail me.

 

[CNOS128]

make sure you get a receipt from her fiance!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

WHAT!!!!!!????? No way! Totally unbelievable....that is absolutely NOT a trend, and just plain bad manners...I would skip the wedding, forget that...

 

[blackpolkadot]

I think my heart stopped for a minute when I read that.. wow.. just wow.

 

[lesco]

Well, it gets better... I just got a call from her mother, who is all excited about the "celebration" and asked me if I could help with photography.

I live in NYC so it is rather customary that people give money at weddings. Please keep that in mind so the following statement willl make sense. Out of all the stupid stuff I had to hear, the highlight was that I was told that paying for our meals before hand it''s quite the same thing as bringing an envelope with money to the wedding. Priceless.

Holy smokes, I can''t blame my friend''s mother. She condones everything her daughter does.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 12/15/2008 6:50:57 PM
Author: lesco
Well, it gets better... I just got a call from her mother, who is all excited about the ''celebration'' and asked me if I could help with photography.


I live in NYC so it is rather customary that people give money at weddings. Please keep that in mind so the following statement willl make sense. Out of all the stupid stuff I had to hear, the highlight was that I was told that paying for our meals before hand it''s quite the same thing as bringing an envelope with money to the wedding. Priceless.


Holy smokes, I can''t blame my friend''s mother. She condones everything her daughter does.

Jeez...since you are close with this girl can you ask her WHAT THE HECK SHE IS THINKING???

 

[swimmer]

my word!
Ummm, just wondering, but does she want you to "help" by chipping in for the photog or taking pictures?
insanity. pure and simple insanity!

 

[lesco]

Date: 12/15/2008 6:53:32 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 12/15/2008 6:50:57 PM
Author: lesco
Well, it gets better... I just got a call from her mother, who is all excited about the ''celebration'' and asked me if I could help with photography.


I live in NYC so it is rather customary that people give money at weddings. Please keep that in mind so the following statement willl make sense. Out of all the stupid stuff I had to hear, the highlight was that I was told that paying for our meals before hand it''s quite the same thing as bringing an envelope with money to the wedding. Priceless.


Holy smokes, I can''t blame my friend''s mother. She condones everything her daughter does.

Jeez...since you are close with this girl can you ask her WHAT THE HECK SHE IS THINKING???

I really can''t. That would start a whole lot of beef within our families. It has happened before! She is one of those who cannot do wrong! I usually end up being the biatch ... LOL...

 

[lesco]

Date: 12/15/2008 6:59:55 PM
Author: swimmer
my word!
Ummm, just wondering, but does she want you to ''help'' by chipping in for the photog or taking pictures?
insanity. pure and simple insanity!

Just taking pics swimmer. FI bought a brand new SRL camera, which he was showing off like the little boy he is.

I think that''s what she was thinking when she asked me. Luckily, he is on a business trip and cannot attend!

 

[E B]

Tacky to the EXTREME.

 

[emeraldlover1]

lol..I think I was typing when you posted. I think I would have said something snarky so good you have some self control. I probably would have said something like...well, this must be some expensive beer your serving...since when do keg parties cost $150....

 

[Blackpaw]

One acronym : WTF??????????????????????

 

[lesco]

Date: 12/15/2008 7:24:04 PM
Author: emeraldlover1
lol..I think I was typing when you posted. I think I would have said something snarky so good you have some self control. I probably would have said something like...well, this must be some expensive beer your serving...since when do keg parties cost $150....

LOL... Self control my rear... she caught me off guard!!! You are too funny!
and here I am worrying about finding a venue...

I knew you guys did not hear this one before!!!! I should post pics of the event just for laughs!!!!

 

[emeraldlover1]

So, just to be clear...They are not expecting gifts, right?

 

[lesco]

Chargger --- Yes, most people will never do something like this. Talk about sh*tting on your own wedding!!!!
Sugary --- Trust me, I'm beginning to think she is not pulling this one off on everyone. How can you tell your FI's boss to pay for his meal? LOL
April20--- Way out of control this is!!!
TheBigT --- You bet I'm getting a receipt. BTW the food better be good. If not I want a refund!
ItalianHC --- I wish I could skip it but I said yes b/f this whole thing went down.
BlackPD --- LOL . My heart did stop too along with the rest of my body!
EBree - I'm still shocked. Rude it is.
Black Paw --- WTF it is !


EM1- That part I'm not sure about. They are not getting one from me, that's for sure!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

So she wants you to pay to come, and then work while you are at the wedding?? Unbelievable in so many ways!

 

[kittybean]

Ew. That story just makes me feel sick.

I probably would have kept it cool while speaking to her, but then I would absolutely not attend the wedding . . . and forget about sending a gift!

 

[Deelight]

Firstly that is really tacky I know weddings are expensive and all but WTF!!!!!!

This may not come out the right way but it is safe to assume (though not expected) people will bring a gift to a wedding, and if it is customary in NY for people to give money as a gift wouldn''t she be recouping some of the cost as is? I don''t condone what she did (read first statement) but is she possibly trying to make a profit out of her wedding?

I feel like I have now heard almost everything LOL

 

[lesco]

I hear you gals but I shall worry no moe. FI has vetoed my attendance to the pre-paid wedding. He is livid!!!
On the other hand, I should give this girl the link to smurfys lovely STD's so she can put the price per person in the front of the ticket and charge accordingly!!!LOL

 

[Smurfysmiles]

hahaha how crazy would it be if she actually did send out tickets with the price on them!

 

[CNOS128]

On the bright side, $150 per person for a NYC wedding isn''t that bad. Mine''s a pretty low-key place and it''s more than that when you figure in the tax, etc.

And the Pierre starts at something like $500. Can you imagine?

There was one episode of one of those wedding shows where the couple rented an ATM for their reception (I think because it was a cash bar) - maybe you''ll see one of those!

 

[lesco]

Date: 12/15/2008 9:44:37 PM
Author: TheBigT
On the bright side, $150 per person for a NYC wedding isn''t that bad. Mine''s a pretty low-key place and it''s more than that when you figure in the tax, etc.

And the Pierre starts at something like $500. Can you imagine?

There was one episode of one of those wedding shows where the couple rented an ATM for their reception (I think because it was a cash bar) - maybe you''ll see one of those!

The "admission fee" is of $150 plus tax and gratuity so it comes up to $190 or so for one of those dinner cruise deals. That''s what she is doing.

I hear you about prices. The best quote I''ve gotten so far, for a somewhat decent meal + appetizers and open Bar is $165pp plus 8.38% tax and 20% gratuity. It comes up to $211.83pp. Crazy, crazy, crazzzyyyy. I''m starting to think I suck at negotiating!

I''ve seen the episode with the ATM, I guess they were trying to hint something. LOL.

 

[emilina22]

that seriously unbelievable...wow...

thats sure one way that someone can cut down a guest list....i guess....