would you buy a big stone if you felt people would think it''s a fake?

[Alexiszoe]

i ask this because i noticed in some threads somer PSers commented that one should wear what they want, while some were hesitant to buy a big stone because in their social setting/area people will perceive it as fake. What do you guys think?

 

[Circe]

Yep. I live to please myself, not other people.

That said, would I want a faceted diamond beyond 5 carats or so as a ring? Given that I like to do stuff with my hands, probably not. As a pendant? Bring it!

 

[Sizzle]

Date: 1/9/2009 9:06:46 AM
Author:Alexiszoe

i ask this because i noticed in some threads somer PSers commented that one should wear what they want, while some were hesitant to buy a big stone because in their social setting/area people will perceive it as fake. What do you guys think?

Definately! I could give two S!s what others think of my jewelry. I love my bling for me personally (which is why I am partial to rings... I want to see the bling!

 

[neatfreak]

If I could afford it and felt comfortable wearing it, I would wear whatever I want. I don''t care if people think my stuff is fake or not, it''s for **my** enjoyment not theirs!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/9/2009 9:49:08 AM
Author: neatfreak
If I could afford it and felt comfortable wearing it, I would wear whatever I want. I don''t care if people think my stuff is fake or not, it''s for **my** enjoyment not theirs!

yup !!

 

[Deelight]

Date: 1/9/2009 9:59:17 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/9/2009 9:49:08 AM

Author: neatfreak

If I could afford it and felt comfortable wearing it, I would wear whatever I want. I don''t care if people think my stuff is fake or not, it''s for **my** enjoyment not theirs!

yup !!

Ditto, I couldn''t care less if people thought it was fake

 

[tlh]

I wish I was as confident as you ladies... I wear whatever I have with pride, but it would probably hurt my feelings a little if people thought it was soo big that it looked fake- or cheap. I''D know the difference... but I''d still think, does it look bad? and be filled w/ self doubt.

I think it depends on the wearer of the item as well. I was cursed with looking young. A curse because I am often asked what highschool I go to or what college am I going to, or thinking about going to... GRRR. Because I look sooo young I am not taken seriously and people at work often comment, I keep forgetting you''re a lot older than you look!

So if I were to wear something very large- people would automatically assume I was rockin'' a CZ or moissanite. But my MIL who is older than me has quite a nice collection of VERY LARGE baubles... and no one would ever think or think to assume they were fake because she''s older and because she''s older it is perceived that she''s EARNED them. and my opinion on that is psstch!

Ugh... I ramble. I am sorry.

 

[bee*]

It wouldn''t bother me at all if someone thinks my ring is fake-I''m sure some people do already as I look young for my age.

 

[got2goldens]

I could care less about them thinking it was fake, I''d be more concerned with getting mugged

I used to work w/ a lady that had a 3.5 carat Marquise. I knew it was real because she told me all the specs, etc. but everytime anyone at work (or on the street) asked her about it, she told them it was fake. She''d been mugged before so I guess that''s why she said that to everyone.
Come to think of it, had she wanted someone to take that baby off her hands, I''m sure mugging/asking if it were fake would have been the furthest things from my mind

I''d have been 1st in line!

Kat

 

[Deelight]

Date: 1/9/2009 10:40:57 AM
Author: tlh
I wish I was as confident as you ladies... I wear whatever I have with pride, but it would probably hurt my feelings a little if people thought it was soo big that it looked fake- or cheap. I''D know the difference... but I''d still think, does it look bad? and be filled w/ self doubt.


I think it depends on the wearer of the item as well. I was cursed with looking young. A curse because I am often asked what highschool I go to or what college am I going to, or thinking about going to... GRRR. Because I look sooo young I am not taken seriously and people at work often comment, I keep forgetting you''re a lot older than you look!


So if I were to wear something very large- people would automatically assume I was rockin'' a CZ or moissanite. But my MIL who is older than me has quite a nice collection of VERY LARGE baubles... and no one would ever think or think to assume they were fake because she''s older and because she''s older it is perceived that she''s EARNED them. and my opinion on that is psstch!

Ugh... I ramble. I am sorry.

I look young for my age too and most of the time I am in jeans and a shirt with my thongs on (flip flops for all the non Aussie people) so I think some people might think my stuff is fake and that is okay I see it in a different way, most of the jewelery people have around here see is MAUL stuff so if they think my stuff is so beautiful and can''t possibly be real because it looks so good then I think that is a compliment .

 

[geckodani]

Interesting. I''m sure some folks around me think that my ring is fake, which I''m okay with. I''ve been saving up for earrings, and I am fairly certain that should I get earrings larger than around .25 ctw - people will assume they are fake. Actually, people will probably assume they are fake regardless, since I''m so young. Unless they know me and my diamond obsession.

I digress.

Yes, I would buy a big diamond, even though those around me might assume it''s fake. It''s for my enjoyment, not theirs.

That said... I''m still torn on the earrings. Wishy washy I apparantly am.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 1/9/2009 11:04:35 AM
Author: Deelight

Date: 1/9/2009 10:40:57 AM
Author: tlh
I wish I was as confident as you ladies... I wear whatever I have with pride, but it would probably hurt my feelings a little if people thought it was soo big that it looked fake- or cheap. I''D know the difference... but I''d still think, does it look bad? and be filled w/ self doubt.


I think it depends on the wearer of the item as well. I was cursed with looking young. A curse because I am often asked what highschool I go to or what college am I going to, or thinking about going to... GRRR. Because I look sooo young I am not taken seriously and people at work often comment, I keep forgetting you''re a lot older than you look!


So if I were to wear something very large- people would automatically assume I was rockin'' a CZ or moissanite. But my MIL who is older than me has quite a nice collection of VERY LARGE baubles... and no one would ever think or think to assume they were fake because she''s older and because she''s older it is perceived that she''s EARNED them. and my opinion on that is psstch!

Ugh... I ramble. I am sorry.

I look young for my age too and most of the time I am in jeans and a shirt with my thongs on (flip flops for all the non Aussie people) so I think some people might think my stuff is fake and that is okay I see it in a different way, most of the jewelery people have around here see is MAUL stuff so if they think my stuff is so beautiful and can''t possibly be real because it looks so good then I think that is a compliment .

Ditto! Good point.

 

[AmberGretchen]

I think as long as it served the purpose that I require all my jewelry to serve, that is to say, if it gave me pleasure every time I looked at it and admired its beauty, then yes, absolutely, I''d buy any siz stone I wanted (and could afford).

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/9/2009 11:00:07 AM
Author: got2goldens
I could care less about them thinking it was fake, I''d be more concerned with getting mugged

I used to work w/ a lady that had a 3.5 carat Marquise. I knew it was real because she told me all the specs, etc. but everytime anyone at work (or on the street) asked her about it, she told them it was fake. She''d been mugged before so I guess that''s why she said that to everyone.
Come to think of it, had she wanted someone to take that baby off her hands, I''m sure mugging/asking if it were fake would have been the furthest things from my mind

I''d have been 1st in line!

Kat

OMG.. I should start a new thread on this one... my hubby fears that FOR ME. He is like- dont run w/ your jewelry on!

 

[Bliss]

Eh, there''s always someone who will think a great diamond is fake. I wouldn''t care either way! Besides, the only people who exclaim, "Is it real?" are usually those who couldn''t fathom spending a lot of money on jewelry. Among people I work and play with, no one would ever assume big diamonds are fake... no matter how young you look. I mean, there are 15 year old trust fund babies running around with big bling in their ears. There''s an older lady who dresses like a bag lady (just eccentric) who lives in my building but she is dripping with jewels. They''re real. LOL. No one bats an eye in NY.

 

[kimkaler]

While we''re on the "fake" topic. Can anyone out there tell me how a cz sparkles -- white, rainbow or both. I honestly don''t know if I would be able to tell a cz from a diamond unless I had to opporunity to look at it very closely.

 

[Burk]

People have asked me if mine is fake on a few occasions and it really doesn''t bother me. I am young and my ring is fairly large for my location. I love me ring and what it symbolizes and when we upgrade I''ll wear that with pride as well. I really don''t care what others think (including my mother who thinks having such large diamonds is ridiculous!

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[Gypsy]

Well, I don''t buy my jewelry for other people''s enjoyment, I buy it for mine. So yes, I would.

 

[Rhea]

Date: 1/9/2009 9:49:08 AM
Author: neatfreak
If I could afford it and felt comfortable wearing it, I would wear whatever I want. I don't care if people think my stuff is fake or not, it's for **my** enjoyment not theirs!

Exactly!

But if people were constantly asking if it was fake then I'd feel uncomfortable with the attention for social reasons and personal safety reasons and put it up or downgrade. Just thinking it's fake isn't an issue in my book.

 

[icekid]

sure, I buy my jewelry to please ME!

 

[kittybean]

I''ve already had a number of people tell me my current ring is fake, and it doesn''t bother me a bit. Honestly, I''d prefer they think so! So, even if my own mother was convinced a dazzling new 5 ct was fake or even in poor taste, I''d buy it, love it, and rock it anyway!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I certainly would. If I spent time worrying about want other people think of me or my things, I''d never get anything done.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 1/9/2009 3:24:59 PM
Author: kittybean
I''ve already had a number of people tell me my current ring is fake, and it doesn''t bother me a bit. Honestly, I''d prefer they think so! So, even if my own mother was convinced a dazzling new 5 ct was fake or even in poor taste, I''d buy it, love it, and rock it anyway!

Why? Just curious.

 

[AprilBaby]

I don''t give a bean about what anyone thinks as long as I know its real, so YES!

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 1/9/2009 10:40:57 AM
Author: tlh
I wish I was as confident as you ladies... I wear whatever I have with pride, but it would probably hurt my feelings a little if people thought it was soo big that it looked fake- or cheap. I''D know the difference... but I''d still think, does it look bad? and be filled w/ self doubt.


I think it depends on the wearer of the item as well. I was cursed with looking young. A curse because I am often asked what highschool I go to or what college am I going to, or thinking about going to... GRRR. Because I look sooo young I am not taken seriously and people at work often comment, I keep forgetting you''re a lot older than you look!


So if I were to wear something very large- people would automatically assume I was rockin'' a CZ or moissanite. But my MIL who is older than me has quite a nice collection of VERY LARGE baubles... and no one would ever think or think to assume they were fake because she''s older and because she''s older it is perceived that she''s EARNED them. and my opinion on that is psstch!

Ugh... I ramble. I am sorry.

OHHH boy I can totally relate to this. I''m 26.. and I just recently took a jewelry class with my mother and the teacher honest to god thought I was 16 years old. Maybe cause I was with my mom?? I dunno

And I get the HS / college comments also..
It''s really frustrating sometimes, but I know some day I will appreciate it!

But as for the original question: I would buy what I was comfortable wearing. I honestly don''t think I would be comfortable wearing more than 2cts (at least right now in my life).

I think if a person starts to question whether others are going to really think it''s real, then maybe subconsciously they really aren''t totally comfortable with wearing a stone of that size... or maybe are even doing it for the other reasons (showing off, instead of for their own enjoyment).

No offense to anyone.. I''m just thinking out loud I guess.

 

[Haven]

Date: 1/9/2009 3:25:06 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I certainly would. If I spent time worrying about want other people think of me or my things, I''d never get anything done.

Ditto.

People have asked me if my ring is fake, and depending on the person, I''ve said yes. It didn''t bother me.

 

[tlh]

(not to threadjack!) namaste, I just flew back from vegas and the flight attendant asked if I was old enough to be sitting in the emergency exit row.

I also think you make a good point... the little voice in our heads sometimes trys to tell us other things... like will this look big enough to make others envious... just as an example... mmmm I love BIG JUICY PEARS... now that is something I think cannot really get too big! wink wink!

 

[musey]

Sure, of course. I'm sure some people think my current ring is fake, and it's not even all THAT large. People will think what they think.

That said, my idea of "big" is heavily influenced by my social circle and the average ring I see in my area - so when I say I'd purchase a "big" stone that probably tops out for me around 3.5-4cts (not because of other peoples' perceptions of it, but my own view of what is comfortable and appropriate for myself). Where someone else's idea of "big" while answering this question could be 7+cts.

 

[Bia]

I wouldn''t care. If I could afford it, I''d buy it, believe me!

I already had some old bitty at Lord & Taylors ask me if my ring was fake--technically she asked if it was real (let me just say, it sparkles like crazy in that store!). She meant it as a compliment initially and asked in the nicest way possible--I thought it was hilarious. My diamond is a good size but its by no means huge...Therefore, I deduced that she probably thought it was a nice ring, and therefore had to be fake because it was very sparkly (we all know that fake rings sparkle) and I maybe looked too young, and too broke, to be wearing a real diamond (I was doing last minute x-mas shopping in sweats and looked like I had just literally rolled out of bed, which I had

). So there you go...and its fine. That kind of stuff doesn''t bother me a bit.

 

[LGK]

Lol, people *do* think my 3 1/2ct OEC ring is fake often. Firstly, since I do dress fairly Gothy and look rather young for my age, I know it looks a bit odd on me. Also, Seattle is hardly home of the major fancy jewelry! I very rarely see larger stones- like 2 ct & up- on anyone under 60ish. And often those people are travelers.

My jewelry is certainly out of place in my social circle & family too: my stepmother-in-law wears a gold band and no e-ring, by choice only. Same with my mother-in-law. My mom wears a very small sapphire e-ring. My sister-in-law wears a .25ish ct OEC. My sister formerly, ditto. All by choice, not necessity. They all think I''m a wingnut for liking diamonds! My sister cracks me up though- she is so proud of my sparkly stuff... she introduces my ring to new people sometimes, like "So&So, this is my sister. Sister, this is So&So. So&So, have you noticed her ring yet?!" Followed by seizing my hand and sticking it under So&So''s nose. Luckily they are usually friends of hers who are used to her!

So yeah- on a near daily basis I get asked "Is that real? Is that a diamond?" It kind of annoyed me at first but I certainly got a lot of practice getting over that! Generally people don''t mean it snarkily (though that happens too

). Usually it just means "wow, I''m interested in your jewelry and don''t think before I speak".

So, I couldn''t care less if others think my ring is fake.