Woukd you wear a used wedding band?

[Sizzle]

Not like the art deco/ vintage stuff but I'm talking a wedding band purchased from eBay as just a used ring? I know alot of people have eBay fun rings or sometimes buy a ring for the stones, but did anyone us it astheir wedding ring as is? Did you feel cheated?

 

[Gypsy]

My band I got married with was pre-owned through Pearlmans. It's Scott Kay and platinum and exactly what I wanted.

I never think about it being pre-owned. It's mine now.

As for cheated? Nope. It was originally over 2K and I got it for 500 bucks. I feel fortunate actually. I love a deal. Especially since this band is exactly what I wanted.

 

[vintagelover229]

My band I got married with was pre-owned through Pearlmans. It's Scott Kay and platinum and exactly what I wanted.

I never think about it being pre-owned. It's mine now.

As for cheated? Nope. It was originally over 2K and I got it for 500 bucks. I feel fortunate actually. I love a deal. Especially since this band is exactly what I wanted.

Ditto Gypsy. I have a hard time paying full price for ANYTHING let alone something marked up so much that you cant see straight. I love gently used stuff, esp jewelry related items (and some clothing). Theres no "bad mojo" from a ring. It was the relationship, or actually, lack there of most of the time. People make commitments, and people break them. (I realize things aren't that simple, I myself am divorced) a ring represents that commitment. It still represents the same thing the next time around. Just give it a nice cleaning and a nice polish and sometimes a re-size and it's your very own new ring without the price tag, or having to deal with pushy sales staff!

 

[Liane]

I didn't, but that's because I had a very specific and eccentric idea of what I wanted, so I had to go custom because there was no other way I was going to get the band I wanted.

If, hypothetically, the exact ring that I wanted was available used, sure, I'd buy it. No reason not to save a buck (or a thousand).

 

[Maisie]

If I was going to save a whole heap of money I wouldn't say no

 

[Lula]

I'm really torn on this one. On the one hand, as others have said, I love a good deal, and it is a great way to save money! On the other hand, I passed on several vintage bands on ebay and other sites because they were inscribed, and that kinda bugged me. I didn't want to "erase" the band's past by having the inscriptions buffed out, but at the same time, I couldn't imagine myself wearing the ring with the inscription in it. When I decided I wanted a specific Tiffany band for my new wedding band, though, I scoured ebay and other sites for months looking for a "used" one in my size and the style I wanted! But no luck. And if I had been lucky enough to find one, I would have bought it and figured out how to handle the inscription (if any).

What's weird is that I'd have no problem buying a vintage engagement ring and wearing that as-is ... there's something about the band, though, that's different.

 

[stepcutgirl]

If I found the perfect french cut wedding band I'd snap it up in a heartbeat and wear it for my wedding band!

 

[manderz]

Funny, I tend to think of myself as the ebay queen (I've currently got about 4 pieces that were purchased on ebay, all for FANTASTIC deals). I just bought an eternity band from ebay a week ago (3/4 ctw for $84! woot!!), and I'm pretty sure that I will end up wearing it as my wedding band, but I'm still going to wear it on my right hand until that time comes (I won't be getting married for a few more years, until I get my degree). Pretty sure it was meant to be too, it was exactly my size, and the carat weight I was looking for, and even yellow gold, which seems to be hard to find anymore. I have no problem with used jewelry, in fact, I think that I prefer it. I've really enjoyed the hunt for just the right piece, and then the excitement of bidding and waiting for it to arrive.

 

[TravelingGal]

Yes, I would. I'd have it cleaned extra spic and span, remove any engravings and do a good karma jig and chat around it for good measure.

 

[Circe]

If I found a Michael B. Lace ring? In a heartbeat. I love that ring.

 

[lyra]

Reduce, re-use, recycle. Not a problem for me. I would have it professionally polished up maybe. I absolutely do not believe in inanimate objects having any kind of karma whatsoever. My reset stone was from an estate piece on Pearlman's. I've never ever thought of it as anything but mine.

 

[kelpie]

I wear an antique wedding band. I purchased it on ebay. Apparently the stones are new replacements but weren't installed that great (I didn't know that until Ari told me). I had singlestone restore the engraving and secure the stones. It feels fresh and all mine.

 

[Kaleigh]

Sure I would, and have in fact!!!

 

[Alistra]

Yes, I would. I don't understand what makes some people think that antique jewelry is ok, but estate jewelry of a more recent vintage has bad mojo or something? It just doesn't make sense to me. Anyway, my current wedding band is new, but my engagement ring is pre-owned. It is a lovely Kwiat that we got for a great price, and I love it! I say "current", since the set I am wearing now is not my original. I still cherish my original wedding band, but I don't wear it very often.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Yeah I would... it's just a ring, what you attach to it is what is important. If you cannot unattach yourself to it having been attached to someone else, that could be a problem, but it's not the ring's problem

 

[Hera]

No, I would not. This is one of the only situations where I am a bit superstitious. Whether it's a self fulfilling prophecy or bad mojo, I would not want to have a wedding ring, where I didn't know the origin of the original owner and might have bad energy. I could possibly do a smudging ceremony to release the bad energy (which I did with the house that we bought that was a foreclosure) or cut a chickens head off (kidding) but I wouldn't want to risk it.

 

[february2003bride]

I'm wearing one right now! I bought a gently used 3mm (but I think it's more 2.5) platinum, heavy comfort fit (without any engravings on the inside) for $175.00 off of eBay. My new setting (currently at the jewelers having my stone set into it) was also gently used off of eBay- a baguette and platinum mounting for a steal of a price as well.

 

[yssie]

I feel like Portree does - I'd have no problem with a used wedding band without an inscription, but I wouldn't want one with. I feel that way about all inscribed pieces that aren't family heirlooms though - there's something about wearing something that is so explicitly marked as a stranger's dear property that I'm just not comfortable with - I'd have no issues if the engraving was buffed out, though.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I absolutely would

 

[JewelFreak]

Why assume the ring is for sale for unhappy reasons? Maybe the owner died. You never know. You do know it was originally bought & given with love & happiness, which overpowers bad any day. I wouldn't erase an inscription -- I'd put in my own & add to the ring's history. A beautiful item is beautiful no matter where it's been & that should give much pleasure.

My wedding ring was my mother's from her marriage before my dad; her husband was killed in WWII when they'd been married only 6 months. She suffered deeply & the ring lived in her drawer from then until I got married & she gave it to me. It represents bright hope, light, laughter & love. I can choose to value that or the grief -- guess which matters to me.

I have several pieces of estate jewelry that I'd never be able to afford new. I hope the first owner of each piece knows, wherever she is, that somebody still feels beautiful wearing it & lucky to have it, just as she did.

--- Laurie

 

[Tuckins1]

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as it was in good condition. I'm not superstitious about things like that.

 

[Sniven]

I actually bought my wife a second wedding band off of ebay when she was pregnant with our daughter. She had gained some weight during the pregnancy and was unable to wear her set, which really upset her. I found her a beautiful 1.25cttw 5 stone marquise band set in 18kt gold for under $200 shipped. She cried so hard at the gesture and loved the ring so much! I scored major brownie points and she often wears it as a RHR.

I had it appraised after the pregnancy and it came back at over 10X what I paid!

I love ebay!!

ps if it was inscribed I would have buffed that sucker out. Heck even now I buy cheap (price wise) engagement rings just to rip out the diamond(s) to reuse in the peice(s) I am working on.

My name is not Earl and I do not fear karma

 

[Loves Vintage]

Ditto to JewelFreak!! I wear an old band (1910-ish?) that is simply gorgeous and that we did not get for a steal. If it had an inscription, I would love it even more, I think. I imagine my ring was worn throughout a long marriage and was sold by heirs. I imagine a loving, happy and enduring marriage. I could imagine many alternative histories, but I choose not to.

I also agree with RedRose. I will take a gently used anything over new.

And, ditto to Lyra! Reduce, Re-Use, Recycle!!

 

[megumic]

we are using my grandparent's wedding bands, which admittedly is not the same as used bands from ebay or a jewelry store. but I don't mind at all. I think I'd want to know if the couple was divorced...if yes, I probably would be opposed to using them.

edit: you could always melt them down and have "new" bands made with the same gold. I quite like that idea.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Yes, I would wear a used band from eBay. A book I read said that you can removed the bad energy by "washing/bathing" jewelry in the light of a full moon!!! lol I haven't tried that.

My wedding band was purchased from an estate jeweler, but it looked brand new. It's an Artcarved brand ring and I feel really lucky to have it b/c the majority of ones I see are mens' rings. I've been hunting on eBay for another one, but as I said, they're mostly for men and way too large!

I'd only feel cheated, if I had settled for a ring - regardless if it was new or used.

 

[Dancing Fire]

hey why not??..look at how many people are marrying a used wife or husband every day...

 

[JewelFreak]

DancingFire, you got it! What a peach you are.

--- Laurie

 

[reader]

Almost all gold has been, or will be reused eventually, like the water we drink and the air we breathe.

 

[Dancing Fire]

DancingFire, you got it! What a peach you are.

--- Laurie

sooo...you bought a used husband??...

 

[Haven]

I'd wear a used wedding band, absolutely.