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Gypsy

Gypsy

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It's interesting... we were engaged for 9 years. And I was a commitment phobe (not that I'm reformed mind you, I've only adapted for this one exception). And we had co-mingled funds and assets (does second hand furniture count as an asset, I wonder), and lived together and had cats together and I remember thinking ... what would some words and a piece of paper change? I stated that very opinion on this board.

Looking back it started during the wedding ceremony... certain words have a special weight and we wrote our own vows full of words that had weight and meaning to us. I cried. Copiously. My heart bloomed inside me with joy to finally be able to claim everything it was so full of in front of everything and everyone.

Today my HUSBAND had his second surgery in two days. I came into his room and the nurse was checking his muscle strength and nerve sensation in his feet. And he smiled grogily and said...."my WIFE" by way of greeting and introduction.

That word, a four letter word, held so much richness. Eleven years of history and memories and conversations, and two years to this day (it is our 2 year anniversary) that word makes my heart light with joy.


Some words and a piece of paper all add up to two words. Husband and wife. And yes, they change everything. In ways I can't explain but can only feel. Thankfully.
 
Thanks so much for sharing your experience Gypsy. It was so interesting, heartfelt and moving. It's obvious how much you value your relationship and the journey on which it has taken you. I really appreciate your perspective. I hope your husband gets well soon!
 
Thank you Snicklefitz... it's funny being on a board for 5 years. You watch those around you change, and you see yourself change. I know we have many brides to be on these boards and I guess I just wanted to share what my marriage has meant to me-- especially as one who ran away from the altar a few times. John is doing well. Drowsy but physically on the road to recovery. So I'm feeling very relieved and feel like shouting it out to the world.
 
Gypsy~

This is such a beautiful and touching post and I too want to thank you for sharing it with us. I wish your husband a speedy recovery!
 
Awesome Gypsy:

May John have a speedy recovery; and may you have many decades of joyfulness between you ahead of you.


Perry
 
The love you have for each other is so beautiful. Praying for your hubby; hugs to you Gypsy.
 
This is wonderful, Gypsy!

Happy anniversary and a speedy recovery to your husband!
 
Gypsy...a speedy recovery to your husband :!:
 
That's sweet. Where's my hanky?
 
What a testimate to the lovely and rich relationship that you two share. Happy 2nd anniversary. Praying that John has a speedy recovery. And big hugs to you lady. xxoo Lisa
 
Thank you everyone. It was an oddly special anniversary because it reminded me of our vows. We didn't say the phrase 'for better or worse' but we promised each other that in other ways. And well... this morning he had a weird infection/swelling and heat in his arm and a fever and we didn't know if they'd be able to operate to finish the surgery it was a little worse, then walking into his room after the surgery and talking to the surgeon who said the surgery went well, it was better.

My mother almost died and was in the hospital for months from a very similar surgery a few years ago, so this past week I've been a basket-case. Every time I thought of everything that could go wrong I cracked a little. Cracks were healed over when he said the word "Wife"... it's funny how one word can hold so much meaning.

((HUGS)) to everyone and my thanks for the friendship and the support.
 
This is a wonderful and moving post. I wish you and your husband well!
 
Gypsy -- That was beautiful, sweetie. I'm so glad you got to experience that! All the best to you and John. (((hugs!)))
 
gypsy-that was so touching. thanks for sharing and wishing your husband a speedy recovery.
 
Awwwww, the most awesome thread starter ever!!
 
Gypsy, I wish John the absolute best care and speediest recovery. Happy Anniversary to you both.

Thank you for reading this and hopefully accepting it. I wish you both nothing but happiness and the best in life. Much love!
 
That was really lovely Gypsy. I hope I'm lucky enough to have what you two have someday.

Best wishes to John for a speedy recovery.
 
What a sweet post, Gypsy! I hope John recovers quickly and feels better soon.
 
Before I say anything more, Happy Anniversary! I hope that your husband is okay or will be soon!

I had childish fantasies of what getting married would be like but in some ways it all seemed mundane in the moment... there were tears and excited jumping on my part and solumn adoration in his face - but the change started about an hour later... a tiny seed that seemed unrelated and yet inspired by the already established love. In fact I was so awed by this new and barely breathing feeling that in some ways I wanted to be alone to contemplate the enormity of it all... but over the next few hours, few days, the next year, that feeling grew until I felt absolutely enveloped by it. After that things slowed down but have never stopped. I had expected something to explode inside of me in the moment but I kept analyzing *when* exactly it was supposed to happen... applying for the license? saying "I do"? submitting the license for recording? It was such a *process* that there never seemed to be any moment I could identify until that moment at a restaurant much later when I felt that first stirring of something that still grows to this day.

ETA - sorry, I added my own experience and it looks like maybe that was out of line - sorry!
 
Gypsy, I wish your husband a speedy recovery. I also found this post very touching as I've been with my DH for 11 years and married for 3 this month--I admit I sort of cringed at the word "wife" right after we were married, I don't even know why, but now I consider it a term of endearment. Happy 2 year anniversary!
 
What a beautiful post Gypsy! I'm so happy for you both, and I hope your husband has a speedy and complete recovery.

I also married a commitment phobe, so I know exactly what those two little words mean. For anyone who believes that a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper? So NOT true! but I guess you have to experience that to *know* it.
 
Gypsy - Your post was so very sweet and emotion filled. I really hope that your DH has a speedy recovery and that you are able to enjoy your 2nd anniversary (and all the years to come) as husband and wife with all the joy and love you so eloquently described.
 
That is so beautiful, Gypsy. Thoughts and prayers to you and your husband for a speedy recovery. Maybe your love for each other will prove to be powerful and healing. Thanks for sharing. :love: It's not always the grandiose roses and helicopter moments, but the small miracles in life that reveal this kind of...stunning love and beauty!
 
Oh Gypsy, thanks for sharing such a touching moment with us. I know what you mean about that realization that "husband and wife" or "Mr and Mrs" doesn't refer to your parents or the neighbors any more, but its actually YOU.

Happy Anniversary. I wish your husband a speedy recovery.
 
Happy anniversary!

Gypsy,
your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing your experience.

I wish you and your husband many happy healthy years together.
 
Beautiful post, Gypsy. Happy anniversary, and I hope John recovers as quickly as possible.
 
Your emotions were expressed so intensely...it choked me up with emotion. May you and John have a long and wonderful long life together!
 
Who knew wife wasn't a four letter word? :naughty:

I wish your DH a quick full recovery and had to say; I also really enjoyed reading your post.

Thanks for sharing and many congratulations on your 2nd anniversary. Know it is not where you are but who you are with.
 
Hope everything is okay with John. He truly is a great guy and you guys work so well together! Wife is a very powerful word.
 
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