Who or what requires the most patience in your life?

[tigian]

Are you more or less patient than when you were younger?

 

[tigian]

I always have to remind myself to be patient with my parents. They drive me crazy sometimes! In general, I''m more patient than I was a couple years ago.

 

[zhuzhu]

I have to be extremely patient with this bitchy co-worker I have. Or else I would have killed her long ago.

 

[TravelingGal]

I had to really think about this for a minute, since patience is not my strong point.

However, I can say that lately, no one has been trying my patience!

I would imagine that as the kid gets older, it will be her.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Right now it''s FI and his driving. I find myself biting my tongue alot because 90% of the few arguments we have revolve around driving.

I''m much more patient now than I was when I was young.

 

[tlh]

ugh, some people drive me batty! I get more and more anal as I get older! haha! Those that require the most patience I think are my friends... I guess I just expect more from them, and when they disappoint me - I find myself getting irritated faster than with others I don''t know....

that and BAD DRIVERS!

 

[lyra]

Youngest daughter (19 next month). We clash because we are alike in many ways I think, and I forget that and tend to just react before trying to find some common ground. We both tend to flare and calm down quickly, but sometimes we require a referee.

 

[April20]

I don''t have as much patience as I should.

It mostly gets tried by people I have to interact with in a professional setting. Either them or my MIL.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/19/2009 3:21:33 PM
Author:tigian
Who or what requires the most patience in your life?

My career, for sure.

After that, my grandfather. He is often impossibly rude and inconsiderate, and it takes a lot for me remember to treat him with respect.

Are you more or less patient than when you were younger?

Much much more. I credit my dog for a lot of it, actually. I got so frustrated with him in our first days as puppy parents, but learning how best to interact and communicate with him has been the most rewarding experience of my life so far, as far as developing patience and appreciation for relationships that require it.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Marriage. Hands down, the most laborious job I have ever had. Who knew?

cheers--Sharon

 

[gwendolyn]

My job requires the most patience. I work in a moderate/severe special needs high school and there are often very challenging situations that could very quickly and easily frustrate me if I didn''t have much patience. I''ve always been a reasonably patient person, but I think I''ve become more patient as I''ve gotten older.

 

[HollyS]

There are two questions here:

1) The most patient I need to be is when I deal with the public (on the job). Oh, goodness. The things I could tell you.

2) Am I more patient now than I was? Um, that would be no. But I've become an expert at hiding my impatience. Like with my MIL.

 

[princesss]

Hmmm...I''d say the girls I hang out with here require the most of my (limited) patience.

And as I''m quite young, I don''t feel ready to comment on whether I''m more or less patient than I was (seriously, who *wasn''t* impatient as a teenager?). I can say I hope I become more patient as I get older, because being impatient sucks.

 

[Rhea]

My manager at work. He flip-flops on decisions, only wants the positive part of the job, and makes different decisions for different employees.

I am more patient now than when I was younger, but I''m still not a patient person.

 

[CurlySue]

The neighbors'' yappy dog. I am a dog-owner and generally a dog-lover... but I have never in my life met a creature who makes so much noise. All. The. Time. Drives me bonkers.

But other than that, I''d say I''ve become much more patient over time.

 

[meresal]

Date: 5/19/2009 3:30:29 PM
Author: tlh

ugh, some people drive me batty! I get more and more anal as I get older! haha! Those that require the most patience I think are my friends... I guess I just expect more from them, and when they disappoint me - I find myself getting irritated faster than with others I don't know....

that and BAD DRIVERS!

Ditto.
I stopped "living for the weekend" around 23, yet every time I talk to them, it's non stop partying and drinking every weekend, and then hangover updates on facebook each Monday morning. I just don't get it. Luckily only one of my girlfriends is a "recreational" dater, or I don't think I could handle it. Even when they came to visit for my bridal shower I almost took 1 of their heads off, for getting drunk in front of my future family. (She felt the overwhelming need to sit down on the cement pier in a sundress, and she was wearing Flats!!

Then once returning home she proceeded to pass out in a guest room bed, as I was giving my grandmother's the tour of my apartment. Ex. "and here's the spare... Ohh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were, uhh sleeping in here." We had been back for all of about 5 minutes.) It's funny realizing your more mature than ALL of your friends.

and a HUGE ditto to the highlighted part. FI gets really nervous driving with me, because I am constantly commenting on other drivers.

I credit the patience I have learned to my FI. He has taught me to breath and think before reacting. That and PS. It's funny how surrounding youself with so many different opinions, allows you to see things from other point of view much easier and quicker.

 

[asscherisme]

Raising kids. No question.



I do think I''m a much more patient person that I use to be. Thank goodness for that!!!!!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I've always been extremely impatient! The one who tries my nerves the most is my best friend. She drives me so insane, I haven't called her back since the last time she called. She is ten times more labor intensive than my kids! I'm not sure when I can deal with another phone call from her. I may wait a few more months.

ETA - I know I've grown more impatient with time simply because I refuse to put up with peoples' BS! I've walked off, on more than one occasion, when trying to get help from a sales clerk and having them completely clueless as to how to help me. And, I AM a nice customer, but I do expect an employee to know what they h*ll they're doing and not waste my time!

 

[asscherisme]

Off topic,

MC, that sounds so unpleasant with your "best" friend. I had someone for years who called me her best friend and over time, she started sucking more and more of my energy until I had to cut her loose. It was a really hard decision on my part. But now that I walked away from her, I realize how much energy she really sucked up. When it gets to where the friend is more of a drain on your life than positive, sometimes the freindship requires a fresh look. Not saying that sometimes friends require a lot of energy during stressful times, hardships, health crisis etc. I''m talking about ALL the time and over the long term. In my case, she was a user and a taker and was only interested in her her her.

back on topic....

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 5/19/2009 5:04:26 PM
Author: asscherisme
Off topic,

MC, that sounds so unpleasant with your 'best' friend. I had someone for years who called me her best friend and over time, she started sucking more and more of my energy until I had to cut her loose. It was a really hard decision on my part. But now that I walked away from her, I realize how much energy she really sucked up. When it gets to where the friend is more of a drain on your life than positive, sometimes the freindship requires a fresh look. Not saying that sometimes friends require a lot of energy during stressful times, hardships, health crisis etc. I'm talking about ALL the time and over the long term. In my case, she was a user and a taker and was only interested in her her her.

back on topic....

Yep, kind of the "psychic vampire" type personality. It takes a lot of strength to break free from people like that because I would speculate that often there is a desire to "fix" things for the needy friend. That's been my problem.

It is an amazing moving on from people like that, though, isn't it? Suddenly a lightness in your life!

(ETA - unfortunetly I've had to move on from a few relatives because they're nature was so draining, I would leave one of the person's home *dizzy and foggy brained*!)

 

[asscherisme]

Date: 5/19/2009 5:10:23 PM
Author: MC

Date: 5/19/2009 5:04:26 PM
Author: asscherisme
Off topic,

MC, that sounds so unpleasant with your 'best' friend. I had someone for years who called me her best friend and over time, she started sucking more and more of my energy until I had to cut her loose. It was a really hard decision on my part. But now that I walked away from her, I realize how much energy she really sucked up. When it gets to where the friend is more of a drain on your life than positive, sometimes the freindship requires a fresh look. Not saying that sometimes friends require a lot of energy during stressful times, hardships, health crisis etc. I'm talking about ALL the time and over the long term. In my case, she was a user and a taker and was only interested in her her her.

back on topic....

Yep, kind of the 'psychic vampire' type personality. It takes a lot of strength to break free from people like that because I would speculate that often there is a desire to 'fix' things for the needy friend. That's been my problem.

It is an amazing moving on from people like that, though, isn't it? Suddenly a lightness in your life!

(ETA - unfortunetly I've had to move on from a few relatives because they're nature was so draining, I would leave one of the person's home *dizzy and foggy brained*!)

Yes, psychic vampire. And it took me years to break free of her. I would decide to do it and then give in and call her back and each time, I would get more frustrated. Once I made the break and made it for good, it was such a huge relief! Around the time, I had met another new friend who was such a breath of fresh air in comparison. Walking away from my old friend freed up mental energy to make some new friends. I also reconnected with a friend from high school. Its long distance but the occasional phone calls and emails have been so supportive for both of us. I think when you walk away from toxic type people, it opens you up to more postive energy.

edited to add, I had to do the same with 2 relatives. Caused lots of guilt for years until I realized that the energy I was putting into feeling guilty was far more energy that I'm sure they ever spent worrying about me. And why was I going to subject myself to being insulted and put down.

I remember hearing Oprah say years ago (and whether you like Oprah or don't this still applies) "When people show you who they are, believe them." Think about it, its true!!!!

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 5/19/2009 3:52:10 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
Things I have to be most patient with in my life? Ex''s from both sides.. and people calling in to work. I bit my tongue A LOT. All in all however, I am a pretty patient person. I just have low tolerance for people who are poisonous, nosey or those with low intelligence or lack of common sense. I am far more patient now than I was several years ago.

I hear you; me too!

 

[Lilac]

My in-laws. I think I''m getting more patient as I get older, but it definitely takes effort.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 5/19/2009 5:15:27 PM
Author: asscherisme

Yes, psychic vampire. And it took me years to break free of her. I would decide to do it and then give in and call her back and each time, I would get more frustrated. Once I made the break and made it for good, it was such a huge relief! Around the time, I had met another new friend who was such a breath of fresh air in comparison. Walking away from my old friend freed up mental energy to make some new friends. I also reconnected with a friend from high school. Its long distance but the occasional phone calls and emails have been so supportive for both of us. I think when you walk away from toxic type people, it opens you up to more postive energy.

edited to add, I had to do the same with 2 relatives. Caused lots of guilt for years until I realized that the energy I was putting into feeling guilty was far more energy that I''m sure they ever spent worrying about me. And why was I going to subject myself to being insulted and put down.

I remember hearing Oprah say years ago (and whether you like Oprah or don''t this still applies) ''When people show you who they are, believe them.'' Think about it, its true!!!!

That''s exactly what happened with me. Suddenly there was motivation to seek out new friends because there wasn''t the desire to huddle and attempt to regenerate after each phone call!

I''m glad you moved on too.

I''ll keep Oprah''s comment in mind. It''s difficult at times though, because it can take months and/or even a year before truely knowing a person and by then after all the invested time, you discover they''re not the type of friend you want! Luckily, I''ve met some new friends who are more balanced in our support systems.

 

[AmberGretchen]

Definitely my mom. I love her to death, but sometimes she does drive me nuts

ETA: I am INFINITELY more patient now than I was when I was younger, though that's not saying much - impatience definitely runs in my family...

 

[bee*]

My mam requires patience from me as she can drive me up the wall sometimes. I''m a bit more patient now than when I was younger, but I don''t think by much!

 

[Tuckins1]

Less patient when I was younger. I have learned to control my sassiness.... My students cause me the most grief now. And co-workers.

 

[Selkie]

Date: 5/19/2009 3:52:10 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
Things I have to be most patient with in my life? Ex''s from both sides.. and people calling in to work. I bit my tongue A LOT. All in all however, I am a pretty patient person. I just have low tolerance for people who are poisonous, nosey or those with low intelligence or lack of common sense. I am far more patient now than I was several years ago.

Do you get a lot of "Why the heck are you calling 911 for THIS?" calls?

 

[Selkie]

I feel like I''ve gotten MUCH less patient over the past few years, or just have developed lower thresholds for a lot of situations. Driving, in particular, or dealing with one of my friends who just has a multitude of irritating habits and quirks. I also find myself snapping at DH more often, which makes me sad. My "bad driver" triggers are cell-phone yappers, left-lane slow drivers, and traffic weavers. That pretty much covers every type of driver, of course.

 

[Kelli]

I have almost none, so lots of people. I need to work on that for real.