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When you’re feeling sad what helps you feel better?

missy

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The usual suspects.
Being grateful for all the good in your life
Snuggling with your loved ones including furry babies
Listening to music you love
Reading a good book to get you out of your head

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How about you?
 
My daughter gifted me with a custom mix of SEES chocolates for Christmas. No offense to anyone who loves Godiva , but SEES is the best! . I grew up on them .
My aunt always kept a small dish of SEES on her buffet. Eating one reminds me of her and gives me warm fuzzies.
This week, however, I have been eating more than one a day. With the way 2025 is starting out, this box is not going to last long! Back to the stretchy pants for me!
 
Working out treadmill and weights.
Walking
Hiking
Cycling
 
When it comes to emotions, I'm a lean in person. I let the sadness take control, feel it in every cell and organ in my body, cry till I can't see or breathe and that's the point where my survival instinct kicks in, kinda like a fever breaking, and I start coming to terms with whatever caused the sadness.
 
When it comes to emotions, I'm a lean in person. I let the sadness take control, feel it in every cell and organ in my body, cry till I can't see or breathe and that's the point where my survival instinct kicks in, kinda like a fever breaking, and I start coming to terms with whatever caused the sadness.

I agree with this and am similar. I allow myself to feel how I feel. I give myself grace
 
Music
Walk
L- theanine
Chamomile tea
Meditation
Sunshine
Puttering with my plant family
Avoiding chocolate. Makes me depressed and furious altho I adore it.
A d o r e.
 
Music
Walk
L- theanine
Chamomile tea
Meditation
Sunshine
Puttering with my plant family
Avoiding chocolate. Makes me depressed and furious altho I adore it.
A d o r e.

Maybe allow yourself one piece of chocolate a day? That’s what I do
 
Buying jewelry. Going on a weekend get away. Snuggling with the dogs. Having friends over for dinner. Walking in the park with the dogs.
 
Maybe allow yourself one piece of chocolate a day? That’s what I do

I could never eat just one piece of chocolate a day.....

When I'm sad, I try to distract myself so I read, or cook a complicated meal, walk the dog, play a mind games app, or study Italian. If it's a sadness that is heartbreaking, I let it be for a while and eventually something does distract me.
 
Reading regency romance novels.

Georgette Heyer is the best! I keep several and read them in the bath or at bedtime. Friday's Child is the first one I read and my favorite, albeit with strong competition.
 
Looking at beautiful things and works of art
Being grateful that I can see
Being grateful for good health and for all my loved ones who have been in my life.
But the best way to get over being sad is to learn something new.
 
Depends on what is causing the sadness. Usually the reason for the sadness is obvious - in those cases, releasing the sadness in a good cry (or two, or twelve) works. And distraction helps too. But, now and again, I will have a day where I really don't know why I am feeling sad, I just do. In that case, usually discussing possible causes with my DH helps to clear the feeling from my mind. Thankfully, the malaise doesn't last more than a day.
 
Maybe allow yourself one piece of chocolate a day? That’s what I do

Sigh, you'd think?
Gives me insomnia too. Had a piece yesterday and tossed and turned last night.

Mind you, with insomnia issues, hard to tell. More than a piece, most definitely interrupts sleep. It's my only addiction.

Took me years to realize that's why I'd rage afterward. Dark choco can lead to migraines so I stick to milk. White? Bleah.
 
Hugs and kisses from the fur kids.
Remembering the good times.
Food and drink.
Music.
A good upbeat film.
Be grateful and thankful for my lot.

DK :))
 
I like to clean my jewellry so I can reflect on how fortunate I am to own such beautiful pieces while admiring how beautiful they are. It’s a soothing Zen activity for me.
I also like walking the dogs and smiling and saying hullo to everyone I pass. It’s a rare walk when I don’t end up having a bit of a chat with someone. That makes me feel happier.
 
This question made me laugh. I know what I need to do to feel better, but over the last week I have done nothing but wallow in my self-pity, spiraling into sadness, knowing what would help, but doing the exact opposite. My life is really good, I am quite lucky, but I have a couple really hard things happening right now.

The things I know I enjoy, things I know help me feel better:

Working out
Hiking
Walking
Running
Yoga
Volunteering, helping others
Stepping away from Social Media
Taking classes/ learning something
Reaching out to friends

It's not always easy to motivate that direction. But I'm trying.
 
Looking at beautiful things and works of art
Being grateful that I can see
Being grateful for good health and for all my loved ones who have been in my life.
But the best way to get over being sad is to learn something new.

There are many times I have been saved by beauty, even the smallest flower. All your ideas are wonderful.
 
What a great thread. I feel better when I work with my hands. About a year ago when I was going through a bad patch, in desperation I signed up for a pottery class. Not only is working with the clay therapeutic, so is being surrounded by creative people of all ages. For those three hours, there is no place for sadness, something to build on to get out of the hole.
 
Missy,
You are my role model. I want to be you when I grow up. Then I can ditch the stretchy pants. :>).

LOL well thank you but I hope not @jeaniefish I am an anxious mass of nerves which is why I workout daily. It's the only thing that helps calm my anxiety. If I was more laid back I probably wouldn't do 10 miles daily on the treadmill :lol:
 
Sigh, you'd think?
Gives me insomnia too. Had a piece yesterday and tossed and turned last night.

Mind you, with insomnia issues, hard to tell. More than a piece, most definitely interrupts sleep. It's my only addiction.

Took me years to realize that's why I'd rage afterward. Dark choco can lead to migraines so I stick to milk. White? Bleah.

Have you ever tried THC? I take half a gummy before bed and it really helps my sleep. If you're interested let me know and I will share the details
 
Depends on what is causing the sadness. Usually the reason for the sadness is obvious - in those cases, releasing the sadness in a good cry (or two, or twelve) works. And distraction helps too. But, now and again, I will have a day where I really don't know why I am feeling sad, I just do. In that case, usually discussing possible causes with my DH helps to clear the feeling from my mind. Thankfully, the malaise doesn't last more than a day.

This is so true. Most of the time I know what is causing my sadness (this time Tommy's death and Bobby's impending death) but sometimes I just do not know. I am type A and always wished I was more laid back but have come to accept who I am because it is in my DNA. Yes we can control some things but we cannot control everything. Anyway I agree talking about it with our partner helps and my dh is great with communication. When I feel sad he says let's talk about it and he helps me figure it out. You and I are very lucky we have spouses who are such good communicators and listeners
 
What a great thread. I feel better when I work with my hands. About a year ago when I was going through a bad patch, in desperation I signed up for a pottery class. Not only is working with the clay therapeutic, so is being surrounded by creative people of all ages. For those three hours, there is no place for sadness, something to build on to get out of the hole.

Dear Jemi, you have been through so many challenges and come out of them stronger. I look up to you as an inspiration. You are a wonderful and brave woman. Fierce and kind. A winning combination
 
This question made me laugh. I know what I need to do to feel better, but over the last week I have done nothing but wallow in my self-pity, spiraling into sadness, knowing what would help, but doing the exact opposite. My life is really good, I am quite lucky, but I have a couple really hard things happening right now.

The things I know I enjoy, things I know help me feel better:

Working out
Hiking
Walking
Running
Yoga
Volunteering, helping others
Stepping away from Social Media
Taking classes/ learning something
Reaching out to friends

It's not always easy to motivate that direction. But I'm trying.

I think letting ourselves feel the way we feel is critical to moving forward and for that there is no time line. Good for you letting yourself feel sad and giving yourself the grace to do so until you were ready to start moving forward and it is not linear either so it's OK to backslide and just let yourself have the time you need
 
Have you ever tried THC? I take half a gummy before bed and it really helps my sleep. If you're interested let me know and I will share the details

Yes! Hubbie and I both suffer :(
 
Yes! Hubbie and I both suffer :(

Here's what I use...Delta 9 THC 450 mg...I cut it in half

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From exhale well dot com

Hope this helps you and your DH! It's been a game changer for me
 
It depends on what is causing the sadness. If it’s a health type crisis with a family member, which I have been through more than once, then honestly nothing :( I have anxiety and tend to spiral and it’s hard to be distracted. If it’s sadness pertaining something bad at work or the blues then watching stupid funny movies and exercise (my dance class in particular) helps.
 
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