When to move on and adopt another to love?

[audball]

There is a 20+ page thread that chronicles our breakup over the course of several months. Andrew is amazing. I'm happy in all aspects of my life now. The only thing that saddens me is not having Molly. But I've accepted it. Time to move on. Mimi could be my saving grace. I think I need her to save me as much as she needs me to save her.

Where is the thread, audball? I'd like to go read it. I don't know your story. I think it's a pity you were not able to kill your husband, however. It sounds like a far more civilized solution all around. I suppose there were some legal barriers to that in your state? I am hoping that eventually divorce law will evolve and that nasty men who want to hurt animals can be shot on sight. (Don't tell Dancing Fire I wrote this. He thinks I'm Mother Theresa.)

Deb/AGBF

Here it is:
https://www.pricescope.com/communit...o-do-advice-from-all-people-on-ps-pls.156082/

I was anonymous for awhile. I don't remember at what point that I identified myself. For clarification, we were never married. We had lived together for 5+ years and were approaching our 6th anniversary at the time of the split. So I have never been married, nor divorced. But the good thing that came out of it was meeting Andrew, he is a wonderful man. And as you can see in my avatar...a diamond has been purchased and is at the designer being set as we speak. We plan to be engaged in the next year, hopefully be the end of this year, but next summer at the latest I'd guess.

ETA: I do remember at some point during the 23 page thread that I was asking for advice on the pet situation. I know I was heart wrenched at having to choose and it was a very dark time for me. I felt like a terrible 'mother' having to choose between my 'kids'. It still feels so unfair.

 

[JewelFreak]

I felt like a terrible 'mother' having to choose between my 'kids'. It still feels so unfair.

King Solomon couldn't figure that one out either, Audball. And it is unfair. There's an unfortunately large number of creeps who use anything their ex loves to exert power & cause misery. People do it with 2-legged kids all the time. I often wonder if there's any difference -- pain is pain, whatever its cause.

Anyway, YAHOOOOO!!! You're gonna bring Mimi home!! Your heart needs filling & so does hers. Congratulations -- post pics & stories like crazy, please!

--- Laurie

 

[audball]

I felt like a terrible 'mother' having to choose between my 'kids'. It still feels so unfair.

King Solomon couldn't figure that one out either, Audball. And it is unfair. There's an unfortunately large number of creeps who use anything their ex loves to exert power & cause misery. People do it with 2-legged kids all the time. I often wonder if there's any difference -- pain is pain, whatever its cause.

Anyway, YAHOOOOO!!! You're gonna bring Mimi home!! Your heart needs filling & so does hers. Congratulations -- post pics & stories like crazy, please!

--- Laurie

Thanks! I'm hoping we can save each other.

 

[audball]

Just got an email from the foster mom this morning. She said there is a volunteer that lives in Tampa who will be in Georgia for a wedding this weekend. She said if she can get her to the volunteer in Georgia, that the volunteer is willing to bring her back for us. We'd have her by Monday! OMG! What do you think?!

 

[lulu]

That's terrific! Go for it!

 

[audball]

That's terrific! Go for it!

 

[AGBF]

That's terrific! Go for it!

This does not need thinking, audball! Congratulations, mommy!!!!!

Hugs,
Deb

 

[audball]

That's terrific! Go for it!

This does not need thinking, audball! Congratulations, mommy!!!!!

Hugs,
Deb

I am so happy, nervous, excited, and heart wrenched. I hope she loves me as much as I'll love her. I can take off work Monday and Tuesday to spend some time with her. Andrew has a few finals to finish up next week. But then he works less than I do and at night (I work during the day). I really want her to bond to me more than him. I feel totally selfish for saying so, but he knows my feelings about it and wants her to love me a little bit more too. Sounds like I have lots of shopping to do this weekend!!!

 

[AGBF]

I am so happy, nervous, excited, and heart wrenched. I hope she loves me as much as I'll love her. I can take off work Monday and Tuesday to spend some time with her. Andrew has a few finals to finish up next week. But then he works less than I do and at night (I work during the day). I really want her to bond to me more than him. I feel totally selfish for saying so, but he knows my feelings about it and wants her to love me a little bit more too. Sounds like I have lots of shopping to do this weekend!!!

That is a happy, anticipatory shopping that I love!!! It reminds me of setting up my daughter's room when I was going to bring her home from Colombia as well as getting ready for those new dogs who didn't come as surprises. (One of my rescues took me by surprise, but shopping later was fun!). Tell us absolutely EVERYTHING about your shopping expeditions...and don't stint on the details!!!

Major hugs,
Deb


PS-She will love you as much as you love her; she's a dog!!! You really have been without one for far too long! You need a fix of dogginess and soon!!!

 

[audball]

I am so happy, nervous, excited, and heart wrenched. I hope she loves me as much as I'll love her. I can take off work Monday and Tuesday to spend some time with her. Andrew has a few finals to finish up next week. But then he works less than I do and at night (I work during the day). I really want her to bond to me more than him. I feel totally selfish for saying so, but he knows my feelings about it and wants her to love me a little bit more too. Sounds like I have lots of shopping to do this weekend!!!

That is a happy, anticipatory shopping that I love!!! It reminds me of setting up my daughter's room when I was going to bring her home from Colombia as well as getting ready for those new dogs who didn't come as surprises. (One of my rescues took me by surprise, but shopping later was fun!). Tell us absolutely EVERYTHING about your shopping expeditions...and don't stint on the details!!!

Major hugs,
Deb


PS-She will love you as much as you love her; she's a dog!!! You really have been without one for far too long! You need a fix of dogginess and soon!!!

Thank you!!

I'll be sure to share all the nitty gritty details of the shopping escapades and share pictures!

 

[asscherisme]

I am sooo excited for you! I know you will bond quickly.

Two years ago, I got a puppy who turned out to be very very sick and was only with us for a short time. My kids and I were DEVASTATED. It was their first experience with a furry pet and I was afraid it would scar them for life! The did NOT want another dog and were afraid to love a pet after.

I decided to get a cat because three of my kids had wanted a cat in the first place but I wanted a dog because I grew up with dogs. My oldest son was so angry with me when I told him. I mean screaming, crying, angry. He thought I was being selfish for briging home another pet to love after they were so hurt with our dogs passing. And he did not like cats on top of that. I was just as hurt a the kids over the dog. In fact more hurt, because I was feeling the loss of the dogs and the pain of my kids.

So.... a month after we lost our beloved puppy, I brought home our first kitten. The sweetest ragdoll ever! And my kids and I fell hard and fast. And my son who was so angry that I was getting another pet and a cat at that? Well within days he was getting my other kids on board to campaign for a second kitten because he was worried the first kitten would be lonely without a companion. A month later I brought home a second kitten!

That was almost 2 years ago and when my house became a home. The cats really complete our home. And the kids and I are smitten with the cats, and they love us too. My oldest son is sooo in love with the cats. He is the biggest cat person you will ever meet! He already talks about how much he wll miss them when he goes off to college in a few years.

So...go for it, say YES! Bring some love into your life. She will be forever greatful and your heart will grow.

I like your logic of getting a dog similiar in age to your cat. The energy of a puppy might be too much for your cat to handle.

 

[AGBF]

So.... a month after we lost our beloved puppy, I brought home our first kitten. The sweetest ragdoll ever! And my kids and I fell hard and fast. And my son who was so angry that I was getting another pet and a cat at that? Well within days he was getting my other kids on board to campaign for a second kitten because he was worried the first kitten would be lonely without a companion. A month later I brought home a second kitten!

asscherisme-

That is a very sweet story. I am sorry about the loss of your puppy. I know that one never gets over the loss of any pet. Getting the cats was a wonderful idea for your family in a sad time, however. And I firmly believe in the idea that one's heart can grow to love as many people-or animals-as one has the joy to have in his life!

Deb

 

[audball]

I am sooo excited for you! I know you will bond quickly.

Two years ago, I got a puppy who turned out to be very very sick and was only with us for a short time. My kids and I were DEVASTATED. It was their first experience with a furry pet and I was afraid it would scar them for life! The did NOT want another dog and were afraid to love a pet after.

I decided to get a cat because three of my kids had wanted a cat in the first place but I wanted a dog because I grew up with dogs. My oldest son was so angry with me when I told him. I mean screaming, crying, angry. He thought I was being selfish for briging home another pet to love after they were so hurt with our dogs passing. And he did not like cats on top of that. I was just as hurt a the kids over the dog. In fact more hurt, because I was feeling the loss of the dogs and the pain of my kids.

So.... a month after we lost our beloved puppy, I brought home our first kitten. The sweetest ragdoll ever! And my kids and I fell hard and fast. And my son who was so angry that I was getting another pet and a cat at that? Well within days he was getting my other kids on board to campaign for a second kitten because he was worried the first kitten would be lonely without a companion. A month later I brought home a second kitten!

That was almost 2 years ago and when my house became a home. The cats really complete our home. And the kids and I are smitten with the cats, and they love us too. My oldest son is sooo in love with the cats. He is the biggest cat person you will ever meet! He already talks about how much he wll miss them when he goes off to college in a few years.

So...go for it, say YES! Bring some love into your life. She will be forever greatful and your heart will grow.

I like your logic of getting a dog similiar in age to your cat. The energy of a puppy might be too much for your cat to handle.

Oh asscherisme...that is a sad and happy story! I'm glad your son came around. You are right, some people in my real life think it's crazy to be considering "such an old dog" but she's younger the Darwin (by 6 months-1 year) and they have about the same expectancy left barring anything terrible happening. I think they'll be a good match. My cat doesn't want a play mate, and the foster mom tells me Mimi ignores the two cats in her house. They should co-habitate nicely!

 

[Enerchi]

How exciting! You are only a few days away from being a dog mom again!!! Woo hoo!!! Hope that all falls into place with the volunteer going to the wedding! I'd be so excited I couldn't sleep. What do you have to buy - crate? toys? bowls? food? leash - check check check!! Get out to pet Smart ASAP!!

 

[audball]

How exciting! You are only a few days away from being a dog mom again!!! Woo hoo!!! Hope that all falls into place with the volunteer going to the wedding! I'd be so excited I couldn't sleep. What do you have to buy - crate? toys? bowls? food? leash - check check check!! Get out to pet Smart ASAP!!

I know! It's wonderful!

Me too. I'm excited and nervous and happy.

I need everything. I had bought everything that was Molly's, but it all went with my ex when he took her. I won't be buying a crate, I don't like to leave the dogs crated. Her foster mom doesn't currently crate her and she hasn't had any accidents (even being left 10 hours) and only lays in the sun and plays with her toys. She'll be doing the same at my home

I do need LOTS of toys. TOUGH toys for "the destroyer". I think I'm going to buy a water fountain. I used to have one for Darwin and he LOVED it until it died after a long time. It's been a few years, but it'll probably help keep her beard drier too.

I currently have Darwin on an autofeeder that feeds him 1/4 of his daily food every 6 hours. Mimi currently eats twice/day. I'd like to get her the same autofeeder so they eat together. What do you think?

Other than that, I need a collar, leash, harness, nametag, brush, shampoo, doggie toothbrush/toothpaste, treats, poopy bags/holder, doggie bed or blanket...

 

[Enerchi]

...and an extended line of credit for all that!!!

 

[audball]

...and an extended line of credit for all that!!!

Hahah, yeah. Won't be cheap! But her adoption fee is only $250 and they're getting her to me which will save all the travel money.

 

[JewelFreak]

Hot dog, Audball!!! Best news ever!! I can't WAIT to hear all about her when she arrives. I like what Asscherisme said -- animals make a house a home. Exactly.

--- Laurie

 

[lulu]

anything Kong is pretty tough.

 

[audball]

Bummer news

Boo This weekend isn't happening. The wedding the Tampa based volunteer is attending is on the far east coast of Georgia and the foster Mom is in central Alabama closer to the west side of the state. The drive to get her to the possible transport is almost as long as her just bringing her down here herself. So that plan is out They're working on another, but it'll be a bit longer before we have our Mimi.

 

[AGBF]

Bummer news

Boo This weekend isn't happening. The wedding the Tampa based volunteer is attending is on the far east coast of Georgia and the foster Mom is in central Alabama closer to the west side of the state. The drive to get her to the possible transport is almost as long as her just bringing her down here herself. So that plan is out They're working on another, but it'll be a bit longer before we have our Mimi.

I just saw this. I am so sorry! What a letdown! I feel letdown, too, audball. Keep us updated on your plans!

Hugs,
Deb

 

[audball]

I just saw this. I am so sorry! What a letdown! I feel letdown, too, audball. Keep us updated on your plans!

Hugs,
Deb

I will. There are 4 ladies in the rescue from Alabama to Florida that are trying to bring within a few hours of here. Maybe next weekend, looks like the target.

 

[JewelFreak]

Awww, rats! Hope they can figure it out quickly. Wish I were closer, I'd be delighted to help. Unfortunately No. Carolina isn't exactly on the travel route. Are there shows somebody might be going to, who could tag Mimi along? I'm as impatient as if she were coming to me! Dust for speed, Audball.

--- Laurie

 

[audball]

Awww, rats! Hope they can figure it out quickly. Wish I were closer, I'd be delighted to help. Unfortunately No. Carolina isn't exactly on the travel route. Are there shows somebody might be going to, who could tag Mimi along? I'm as impatient as if she were coming to me! Dust for speed, Audball.

--- Laurie

Me too. Thanks for offering! But you are right, NC isn't exactly on the parade route!

 

[asscherisme]

Awww, too bad you will not get her as soon. But it sounds like you are super excited and she is worth waiting for! She is a lucky dog coming home to you. More time for you to shop and prepare for her.

 

[Enerchi]

do they ever fly rescue dogs to their new home? I know we adopted a former racing grey hound from Florida to Ontario, and they flew them to a border city where the Canadian rescuers brought them over then got them to their new homes. Just wondering if this rescue group ever does that for distance homes?

 

[audball]

do they ever fly rescue dogs to their new home? I know we adopted a former racing grey hound from Florida to Ontario, and they flew them to a border city where the Canadian rescuers brought them over then got them to their new homes. Just wondering if this rescue group ever does that for distance homes?

No. The rescue doesn't pay for any transport at all. If it can be arranged, it's out of the kindness of individual volunteers that work within the rescue. One of the things the rescue application asks is how far you're willing to travel to pick up your new pet. I can manage a range of 3-4 hours with my older car, but not any further. This dog matches everything that I've been looking for (for almost a year!) but she's outside of my range. The foster mom and 3 of her friends are trying to arrange getting her here.

 

[audball]

do they ever fly rescue dogs to their new home? I know we adopted a former racing grey hound from Florida to Ontario, and they flew them to a border city where the Canadian rescuers brought them over then got them to their new homes. Just wondering if this rescue group ever does that for distance homes?

No. The rescue doesn't pay for any transport at all. If it can be arranged, it's out of the kindness of individual volunteers that work within the rescue. One of the things the rescue application asks is how far you're willing to travel to pick up your new pet. I can manage a range of 3-4 hours with my older car, but not any further. This dog matches everything that I've been looking for (for almost a year!) but she's outside of my range. The foster mom and 3 of her friends are trying to arrange getting her here.

Very true! Thank you!

 

[audball]

Mimi's foster Mom just emailed me. Mimi was just dropped off for a "spa day". She's getting a fresh groom and I'll have pictures to share later!

 

[missy]

Mimi's foster Mom just emailed me. Mimi was just dropped off for a "spa day". She's getting a fresh groom and I'll have pictures to share later!

So happy for you audball! I know you and Mimi will share a wonderful life together and she is one lucky girl!!! So very happy for you! Wishing you all the best!