When someone pays you a compliment on your jewelry...

[Mayk]

what's your reaction?

I was boarding a plane today and as I walked up to the boarding line a woman standing in front of me had on a BEAUTIFUL VERY BIG Radiant... I said to her (without thinking I blurted out) "Wow.. that is a beautiful ring..." she barely looked at me.. and said nothing she just glanced and turned her head... I always feel great when people notice my ring... I don't usually say something to others but this thing was really pretty... bright and I was in a daze from looking at it..

As luck would have it she was sitting several rows in front of me by the time I got off the plane and headed to the ladies room she was coming out.. she probably thought I was stalking her.. actually, I was just looking for Elvis.. I was in Memphis afterall!!!

Was I rude?

 

[texaskj]

Heavens no, you weren't rude. Could she not say a simple thank you?

 

[aviastar]

I don't think you were rude at all! If I see a piece of jewelry or a pair of shoes or a nice outfit that really strikes me, I will often say something because it would make my day if someone said something to me.

Even if she thought it was a bit forward, the proper response to a compliment is "Thank you!" You weren't rude, imo, but she was!

 

[junebug17]

I don't think you were rude at all Mayk - I for one love it when someone compliments my jewelry - heck, I love it when I get any compliment at all, about anything! I don't know - maybe some people get a little embarrassed, or taken by surprise and don't know what to say, or they're a little paranoid, or maybe they're just grouchy!

 

[Skippy123]

Heavens no, you weren't rude. Could she not say a simple thank you?

ditto. I think she was rude! People are weird and don't know how to react to a compliment.

 

[armywife13]

Heavens no, you weren't rude. Could she not say a simple thank you?

ditto. I think she was rude! People are weird and don't know how to react to a compliment.

Another ditto. She could have smiled and said "thank you". I think it was extremely rude of her to ignore you.

 

[Gypsy]

She was rude. I compliment people all the time and they always say thank you. And do the same when someone compliments me.

 

[Dancing Fire]

what's your reaction?

I was boarding a plane today and as I walked up to the boarding line a woman standing in front of me had on a BEAUTIFUL VERY BIG Radiant... I said to her (without thinking I blurted out) "Wow.. that is a beautiful ring..." she barely looked at me.. and said nothing she just glanced and turned her head... I always feel great when people notice my ring... I don't usually say something to others but this thing was really pretty... bright and I was in a daze from looking at it..

As luck would have it she was sitting several rows in front of me by the time I got off the plane and headed to the ladies room she was coming out.. she probably thought I was stalking her.. actually, I was just looking for Elvis.. I was in Memphis afterall!!!

Was I rude?

you should have asked her...is it real?

 

[february2003bride]

She was rude. I compliment people all the time and they always say thank you. And do the same when someone compliments me.

Ditto.

 

[iheartscience]

She was rude. I compliment people all the time and they always say thank you. And do the same when someone compliments me.

Ditto.

Yup, what a rude woman. I always say thank you!

 

[decodelighted]

One example doesn't a trend make. Maybe she just found out her husband is cheating on her & her ring feels like a lie. Maybe it's a fake she's embarrassed of? Maybe she's a socially stunted jerk? Who knows?! I wouldn't worry about it though. Unless it happens again. And then maybe you'd wanna analyze your tone & level of excitement & volume? Imagine not everyone wants attention called out to valuables in a public place. HA!

 

[Haven]

One example doesn't a trend make. Maybe she just found out her husband is cheating on her & her ring feels like a lie. Maybe it's a fake she's embarrassed of? Maybe she's a socially stunted jerk? Who knows?! I wouldn't worry about it though. Unless it happens again. And then maybe you'd wanna analyze your tone & level of excitement & volume? Imagine not everyone wants attention called out to valuables in a public place. HA!

This is what I was thinking.

I do think she was rude to just ignore you, but maybe it made her uncomfortable. Don't let it stop you from saying nice things to people in the future!

The only time I've ever been embarrassed when a stranger said something about my ring was when a young guy on a public bus started yelling about how huge it is and expensive it must be. I definitely felt like I became a target when he drew all that attention to me. I responded that it was fake in an equally loud voice.

 

[Enerchi]

I never thought of it from deco's and Havens perspective. Maybe that is true...but my first thought was how nice of you to give her a compliment and rude of her to not even acknowledge it. I love receiving them and always make a point of giving them to others as well. Oh well...

Hope you found Elvis!

 

[armywife13]

I never thought of it from deco's and Havens perspective. Maybe that is true...but my first thought was how nice of you to give her a compliment and rude of her to not even acknowledge it. I love receiving them and always make a point of giving them to others as well. Oh well...

Hope you found Elvis!

I'm with you, Enerchi. I didn't think of it from that perspective either. It would definitely explain the encounter. I hope that is the reason behind it, I would hate to think someone would purposefully be rude when someone pays them a compliment.

 

[canuk-gal]

....it doesn't always unfold or translate as imagined...

..she didn't feel your excitement and you didn't appreciate her reaction. It is what it is.

cheers--Sharon

 

[Laila619]

I've noticed some people get really uncomfortable being complimented on their ring, for some reason I don't quite understand. Eh, what can you do? I personally would have been thrilled if someone said something to me!

 

[marcy]

I don't think it is rude to compliment someone on their jewelry, shoes, purses etc. However, if they don't appreciate the compliment I would not worry about it because I have no way of knowing why they didn't respond positively.

 

[Autumnovember]

You? Rude? No.

Her, rude? Yeah.

She could have politely said thank you!

My response is always the same - A BIG smile and a "thank you so much!"

 

[snoopkat]

No I don't think you were rude at all. Regardless of what may be happening in her private life, it takes very little effort to smile and say thank you even if she wasn't 100% sincere about it.

I love getting compliments on my ring and other jewellery even if people didn't always necessarily know what gemstones they're looking at.

 

[Mayk]

No I don't think you were rude at all. Regardless of what may be happening in her private life, it takes very little effort to smile and say thank you even if she wasn't 100% sincere about it.

I love getting compliments on my ring and other jewellery even if people didn't always necessarily know what gemstones they're looking at.

Thanks for the support...I laughed to myself because it was rather large I probably did say "wow" a little louder than the "that's a beautiful ring". It was really pretty. Actually I noticed in the Memphis airport a lot of large bling.... At least yesterday but I think I was on alert after that....

 

[makemepretty]

I've had a few compliments on how big and pretty my ring is so I usually say "Thank you! Been married over 20 years!" That way they can figure out that it's most likely an upgrade and if you make it this long...you deserve that bling! Ha ha.

 

[Meezermom]

She was rude, and probably a little bit paranoid as well (maybe thinking she was about to "lose" her ring). I love it when I get complimented on my jewelry - it kind of makes my day.

 

[Tanzigrrl]

I LOVE getting compliments on my jewelry. Even if someone made a big deal of it in public, I'd be taken a little off-guard at first but would very quickly bounce back and say "thank you." Maybe even see if I could give the 'PS handshake' to see if he/she is one of us.

 

[ame]

Heavens no, you weren't rude. Could she not say a simple thank you?

ditto. I think she was rude! People are weird and don't know how to react to a compliment.

Another ditto. She could have smiled and said "thank you". I think it was extremely rude of her to ignore you.

Another....that's obnoxious.

I personally do get a decent amount of complements, and I always say thanks! The only place I get negative comments on them is from some random jerks at work, and a random frienemy, usually something to the effect of "you must be paid well to wear such a rock like that" or "don't you know the economy sucks and its' insensitive to flaunt the fact that you have a job".

 

[luv2sparkle]

I think she was rude. But give her the benefit of the doubt because maybe she was going through something truly awful and she was a walking zombie. It happens.

 

[StacylikesSparkles]

I say thank you to start. They usually compliment the twisty band that I have so I tell them that FI went custom and if they ask about the diamond at all, I just tell them it is an asscher and a step-cut.

She was totally rude, as a simple thank you would have sufficed.

 

[Snicklefritz]

Not rude at all! Many people would feel over the moon after a compliment like that to their jewelry. No matter how she reacted, your intention was to be complimenting and kind, which in my book counts for something.

Sometimes there are elements at play in transactions like these that get lost in translation. Like deco said, there could have been any number of reasons why she did not give you the reaction you anticipated. It's just one of those "swing and a miss" situations in life. I've had plenty of them

 

[partgypsy]

Well I wouldn't like someone to compliment my jewelry when I am walking home alone on a dark street, but otherwise I am flattered. I would just shrug it off. There are many times I want to comment on someone's jewelry, but as someone said don't want to come off as a stalker so say nothing instead.