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Deelight

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Last night, I had out one of my new bridal mags and was flicking through it with FI to get an idea of what kind of dresses he liked. Turns out he does not like what I like LOL.

He does not like lace, or cap sleeves.

He does like from what I could discern a slight mermaid shape, something with a little cleavage and I would say mid-back backless.

Here is the dress I have fallen in love with, however it is not sold in Australia so I was going to look for a similar style.

POB Natalie


I haven''t tried on any dresses yet chances are I will fall in love with something completely different to what I think I want but usually our tastes are very similar.

Any other ladies run into this?
 
Yes. I keep asking what style he likes, and he keeps saying, "boudoir"
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I once tried on a formal dress that drew all attention to my breasts, which are not my best assets. FI''s eyes lit up like fireworks.
He also seriously thinks that I should look for everyday clothing from the Frederick''s magazine.
 
YES! When I first went dress shopping I fell absolutely in LOVE with Maggie Sottero''s Allison Marie, but I had a feeling that FI wouldn''t like it because of the flowers at the hip. It''s really important to me that FI loves how I look on the big day, so I said my goodbyes to Allison Marie and found another dress that I love even more. A few weeks ago I showed FI a picture of a BM dress with a flower at the waist that I''ve been considering for my girls, and he told me that he hates flowers on dresses
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At least now I know that I made the right wedding dress decision! Silly boys.

If anyone''s interested, here''s a link to "the dress that got away"
http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=allison+marie&keywordType=any&page=0&pageSize=12&style=S5125ST
 
Not in the slightest! I had printed out a bunch of pictures before I went to my dress appointment and he liked most of them, but the one he liked the least is actually the one I ended up getting! I have learned while his tastes and opinions matter, ultimately I need to get what is flatering. I bought a dress once and showed it to him. His face said it all- he thought it was so ugly on the hanger. I put it on and his face lit up and he loved. Makes me think he doesn''t even know what he really likes.
 
Yes actually i just went through this on the weekend. I went and tried ona bunch of dresses and showed him. His response was NOT what i expected at all. I''m kind of set on a bit of a poofy/princess bottom and fitted top. One dress in particular I was very happy with, minus a few things and his reaction was very mediocore ie. oh yeh thats um pretty.

I had thought about the whole thing of he''s the one I''m trying to impress so I should def get his imput thing. But in reality I have my heart set on something and truthfully he really couldn''t care less he''s really not into the whole wedding dress thing anyway.
 

DH dress shopped with me. I spent some time selecting dresses I liked, then he came along with me and picked his favorite. It was my favorite too. If he hadn''t liked any of my choices I''d have gone back to the drawing board.


Best of luck, Deelight. I''m sure you''ll pick the right dress for you!

 
I don''t think I''ll know for another six months. I''m hoping he''ll like me in whatever I wear, but I have a feeling he''ll be more excited about whatever special undies I have gotten for the occassion.
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Date: 1/21/2009 2:17:29 AM
Author: choro72
I once tried on a formal dress that drew all attention to my breasts, which are not my best assets. FI''s eyes lit up like fireworks.
He also seriously thinks that I should look for everyday clothing from the Frederick''s magazine.
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Um do we have the same fiance choro? It drives me crazy that FI''s idea of a good outfit is stripper-wear. I just ignore him now and wear what I want. Honestly, I have no chest, so I''m not going to wear a low cut shirt that shows of my lack of, um, assets. And a push up bra is not the answer to all of my questions!

And Dee, I''m running into a similar problem. FI hates lace and flowers and made sure to tell me so before I even started looking at dresses. He also doesn''t like tulle or dresses with multiple fabrics. I wouldn''t go so far as to only look at dresses he likes, but if it is something he really does not like (lace- he hates it on everyone and everything) I''ll take that into consideration. We have found a few dresses we agree on and he absolutely loves my dream dress, so that''s a start!
 
I think that whatever dress you decide on, your FI will be floored, no matter what he says he likes/doesn''t like.

But I, like all of you ladies I''m sure, want a dress that will make him stare!
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FI never mentioned any dresses he did or didn''t like and he really left the decision up to what I liked. However, I do think our tastes are fairly similar and that if I would''ve wanted something very elaborate or poofy, he would''ve objected. As it was we both liked simple and comfortable. He also agreed with me about dress shapes that flattered me more than others (mostly that the top needed to be form fitting and not flowy).
 
Date: 1/21/2009 2:17:29 AM
Author: choro72
I once tried on a formal dress that drew all attention to my breasts, which are not my best assets. FI''s eyes lit up like fireworks.
He also seriously thinks that I should look for everyday clothing from the Frederick''s magazine.
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Too funny---at least once a week my FI asks me to buy something from Fredericks!
 
My fiance doesn''t have much of an opinion on wedding dresses. Right before I bought my dress I asked him out of curiosity if there was any type of wedding dress he liked and he said "White? Silver? I don''t know." And he''s actually got pretty good taste in clothes and he always notices when I have a new clothing item!

I''m not a big believer in asking the groom''s opinion on a wedding dress. I say get whatever you want-he''s bound to love it with you in it on your wedding day!
 
I thought I''d end up with a slinky sheath-type number, but everytime I showed pics to DH he said he hated them.

In the end, he came up with the idea for my dress. We designed it together and he helped choose all the fabrics. He didn''t see the finished thing until the day - and he loved it.

I was so glad that he stepped in as I loved my dress more than anything I had seen before and it was a real one in a lifetime gown - whereas I have a load of slinky sheath-type eavening dresses.
 
I had a thread just last week all about this. I bought a dress that was not what etiher of us had discussed or pictured me wearing. I knew though when I put it on it was perfect. So, yes I did buy a dress different than what I thought I wanted once I got to try them on.
 
Date: 1/21/2009 9:15:08 AM
Author: meresal
I don''t think I''ll know for another six months. I''m hoping he''ll like me in whatever I wear, but I have a feeling he''ll be more excited about whatever special undies I have gotten for the occassion.
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lol. I completely agree with Meresal. I don''t think he really cares what I have as a dress.
 
When I asked my FI what kind of dress he would like, he said "whatever makes your boobs look good." In all honesty, I think he''d prefer me naked to a fancy gown any day. In fact, he actually thought I was supposed to change OUT of the dress for the reception! Needless to say, whatever I show up in will be fine with him in the end. I''ll just get a boob dress. He''ll be so preoccupied, he won''t even notice the rest of the dress!
 
It never even crossed my mind to ask him! LOL!
 
Yup Im in the same position - he said that he LOVES the look of a strapless dress (they look horrible on me) and I defeinitely didnt buy a strapless... Have the Pronovias Diamante...lol... but he did say he likes cleavage.. which my dress has.. I dont think hell notice if its strapless or not.. just that it looks great on me...


I think most men would be like that!
 
Date: 1/21/2009 1:37:26 PM
Author: AprilD
Yup Im in the same position - he said that he LOVES the look of a strapless dress (they look horrible on me) and I defeinitely didnt buy a strapless... Have the Pronovias Diamante...lol... but he did say he likes cleavage.. which my dress has.. I dont think hell notice if its strapless or not.. just that it looks great on me...


I think most men would be like that!
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I have the diamante as well. Makes the girls look great! I''m sure he wont notice it has straps. ;)
 
No. Our tastes didn''t match, so I decided to please him. He wanted lace and beading. We settled for some beading.
 
Our wedding dress tastes are like oil and water!!! He likes princessy dresses with big trains, beading, strapless necklines, and A-line skirts. He hates my 2 favorite necklines, off-the-shoulder and halter! I, on the other hand, wanted a very simple dress with little to no beading, trumpet shape, a halter neckline (or at least anything BUT strapless!), and a sweep train or no train. For example...

This was the dress I initially bought but returned because I realized he would hate it: Galina VW8893

This was the dress I really wanted to get but was too expensive:
Galina Signature SV9563

This was the dress he fell in love with and wanted me to wear: DB V8820

This was the dress I got as a compromise (will be adding halter straps though): DB T9315

And this is the one that got away (showed up on the website after I had already bought my dress at David's, but it's so perfect): AA 2032

I fear that there's too much of him in my dress and not enough of me. But I think the halter straps I plan to add will help a bit...if only it were a trumpet instead of A-line, and if only it had a smaller train! I'm tempted to just chop the train off, but Groomzilla would kill me!

I also really wish I could show him the dress before the wedding because I want him to know what he's getting, but he's a traditional type and won't have any of it. Very frustrating!
 
D and I do have the same taste in wedding dresses. I showed him pics of about twenty wedding dresses and put my own dress somewhere in there and that was the one that he picked as his favourite. He doesn''t know that''s the one that I picked though.
 
My fiance's taste was pretty much "whatever doesn't cost 5 grand". A good friend of his spend about that much on her dress and he was afraid I'd do the same!
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I got a Maggie for $600 and he was cool with that!

Honestly, I think he'd prefer somewhat form fitting, but he doesn't really care. I asked him about a few details (dress, hair), and he said whatever made me feel good would be fine. Love that man!
 
I actually never consulted FI for his opinion until AFTER I bought my dress. I did think of him when I was shopping in terms of what clothes he likes and I think he will be happy with my choice. However, now we play this "game" when we look at bridal magazines I ask him which dresses he likes and he tries to guess what I have chosen. I am not sure if I would have done anything differently if I had done this earlier because I think if you look and feel beautiful, FI will be happy no matter what the dress looks like.
 
Date: 1/21/2009 9:15:08 AM
Author: meresal
I don''t think I''ll know for another six months. I''m hoping he''ll like me in whatever I wear, but I have a feeling he''ll be more excited about whatever special undies I have gotten for the occassion.
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HAHAHA I just about spat at my screen, I have been told by FI if the dress is too sexy ceremony won''t be happening LOL but the honeymoon will start earlier
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I usually wouldn''t think of asking him if I didn''t think that what I was drawn to is a) completely different to anything I normally would think of wearing b) I know for a fact he doesn''t like lace normally I wouldn''t even think of lace but now all of a sudden all I can think of is lace.

I really want something that I will feel beautiful in and that I look amazing in for him. I have seen some designs that don''t have lace as well so I am sure I will be fine, at least I am not the only one.

jstarfireb The dress you picked is beautiful :).
 
I told DH way in advance that I wanted a tea-length dress. When they ordered my dress and I had my first fitting, the dress was still floor-length with a train. It was REALLY hard to cut it once I was standing there in a long, traditional gown. I mentioned off hand that I didn''t want to alter it anymore, and DH insisted that I did. It was a good call, and I guess I have to say that we did have the same gown taste.
 
Date: 1/21/2009 8:08:32 PM
Author: Deelight
jstarfireb The dress you picked is beautiful :).
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Thanks, Deelight! I should be having my first fitting in the next few weeks or so, since the wedding is just short of 4 months away. I''m looking forward to discussing strap options with the seamstress so I can really make the dress my own.
 
UGH. I was just telling one of my friends about this.

The part of my body which I HATE the most is my butt. Really, I practically have a complex about it. I have out of proportion hips with the rest of my body. So my guy is OBSESSED with mermaid dresses. He wanted me to wear one from the get go. He kept telling me how amazing it would be.

I wanted an a-line, hide my hips and butt.

But I caved, and when I went shopping concentrated only on mermaid dresses. And I seriously have all these issues about how I am going to be standing at the alter, and freaking out because people will be looking at my behind.

BLAH. Oh well, hopefully he''ll like the dress.
 
I originally thought I might want an empire waisted flowy dress like the ones Pronovias had a year ago. Really cute. Or the Reem Acra dresses that were like that. I would hold up magazines with photos of ''similar'' styles to my DH and say ''Do you think that looks pretty?''. I did this quite a bit. He definitely did not. He didn''t like ball gown type dresses either and let me know that for sure when I held up pictures of those. He also wanted me to wear my hair and I wanted it down originally. It worked out pretty well though since he loved my dress and I wore my hair up. :) AND the dress was a suprise. I wound up getting a mermaid one. I just wanted to get an idea of what he didn''t like.
 
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