Ara Ann
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This may turn into a MIL vent, sorry in advance if it does.
What time does your family have Thanksgiving dinner?
It''s usually not a conflict, but it is this year for us!
I came from a large family, with in-laws, etc. and my mother made her annual huge Thanksgiving dinner and we ate early in order to accommodate the other families as well, so everyone could see their extended families too. I personally prefer to have an early meal too, just because if I eat a large meal later in the day, I don''t sleep well, etc. And typically DH has to work the next day, so early is better all the way around.
So. Last year I had T-day dinner at our house, my MIL had surgery on her foot and couldn''t have dinner at her house. I had it early, since our guests had a long drive and didn''t want to be out too late, etc. When planning a party, I try to accommodate my guests as well and try to be flexible, like my mom taught me.
This year it''s at my MIL''s again and she''s having dinner at 5. Not too much of a biggie, but our oldest son''s GF/fiance''s mother is also having T-day dinner at her house and the kids want to visit both homes and his GF is supposed to help her mother with their dinner as well.
So I called my MIL to ask if she could have her dinner start a little earlier so the kids could visit both places....BTW, drive time is about 45 mins. from place to place, her mother lives near our house, my MIL is about 45 mins. away, so it''s a bit of travel time involved too.
Well, my MIL won''t budge on her timing. I told her that''s kind of late for us (DH has to work Friday), and explained about the kids wanting to do both places, etc., but she won''t change it by a minute.
Yes, our son could come with us alone and go to GF''s house later in the evening, which is what will probably end up happening, but I am just irritated that my MIL won''t even try to compromise.
Yes, I get it that she''s the hostess and can set the time of the dinner, but ALL of the others are retirees! The timing doesn''t matter to any of them either way, ya know?
My son''s GF is very important to us and our family...for reasons I won''t get into, she has been very close to us as well (she had family issues and sees us as her family)...she is trying to build a stronger bond with her mother though, which is good, and which is why it''s important for her to be with her mom this holiday too. But she really wants to see both families too! And our son wants to be there for/with her at her mom''s as well.
Honestly, I''d rather have dinner at my house again and not have to deal with this timing stuff.
Arrgh. Vent over.
So, how do you work out ''fair time'' within your families?
And I do plan to have a nice dinner this weekend, with just the 5 of us...but I''m still irritated!
What time does your family have Thanksgiving dinner?
It''s usually not a conflict, but it is this year for us!
I came from a large family, with in-laws, etc. and my mother made her annual huge Thanksgiving dinner and we ate early in order to accommodate the other families as well, so everyone could see their extended families too. I personally prefer to have an early meal too, just because if I eat a large meal later in the day, I don''t sleep well, etc. And typically DH has to work the next day, so early is better all the way around.
So. Last year I had T-day dinner at our house, my MIL had surgery on her foot and couldn''t have dinner at her house. I had it early, since our guests had a long drive and didn''t want to be out too late, etc. When planning a party, I try to accommodate my guests as well and try to be flexible, like my mom taught me.
This year it''s at my MIL''s again and she''s having dinner at 5. Not too much of a biggie, but our oldest son''s GF/fiance''s mother is also having T-day dinner at her house and the kids want to visit both homes and his GF is supposed to help her mother with their dinner as well.
So I called my MIL to ask if she could have her dinner start a little earlier so the kids could visit both places....BTW, drive time is about 45 mins. from place to place, her mother lives near our house, my MIL is about 45 mins. away, so it''s a bit of travel time involved too.
Well, my MIL won''t budge on her timing. I told her that''s kind of late for us (DH has to work Friday), and explained about the kids wanting to do both places, etc., but she won''t change it by a minute.
Yes, our son could come with us alone and go to GF''s house later in the evening, which is what will probably end up happening, but I am just irritated that my MIL won''t even try to compromise.
Yes, I get it that she''s the hostess and can set the time of the dinner, but ALL of the others are retirees! The timing doesn''t matter to any of them either way, ya know?
My son''s GF is very important to us and our family...for reasons I won''t get into, she has been very close to us as well (she had family issues and sees us as her family)...she is trying to build a stronger bond with her mother though, which is good, and which is why it''s important for her to be with her mom this holiday too. But she really wants to see both families too! And our son wants to be there for/with her at her mom''s as well.
Honestly, I''d rather have dinner at my house again and not have to deal with this timing stuff.
Arrgh. Vent over.
So, how do you work out ''fair time'' within your families?
And I do plan to have a nice dinner this weekend, with just the 5 of us...but I''m still irritated!
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