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I''ve been reading this site ever since I was a freshman in college, which was 4 years ago, and have learned alot from everyone so thank you! Now that I''ve finally graduated and landed a well paying job, I think it''s about time to make my first purchase...for my mom

My mom is a single mother, 50 years old, and has never had a diamond in her life
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I realize she''ll probably be thrilled with whatever I get her, but I was wondering if there is a more appropriate choice for someone like her.

My budget is around $3000, and my choices are between a pair of diamond stud earrings or the SKYE 5 diamond band from WF. I found several 0.7 H SI2 H&A from USA Certed Diamonds for around $1500 each and I might take them to someone in NY to set them for cheap.

I asked someone from WF to quote me for the SKYE band and 5 0.31 I VS2 ACA diamonds came out to be around $2500. I think I can find diamonds of similar size and cut but with I and SI2 for much cheaper.

So what do you guys think of the specs for the selection? Should I go up/down on the color and clarity for either the earring or the ring? and more importantly, what''s more appropriate for her??

thanks!!!
 
What a thoughtful daughter you are
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. Personally if it were me I would prefer the ring. I think it would get more attention then
earrings but I dont know if thats what you are after. I can just see someone noticing the ring and your Mom saying my daughter got it for
me. Plus, your Mom gets to look at the ring while she has it on. She cant see the earrings when they are in her ears (even though everyone
else can). Some things to think about. Either would be a lovely gift but I vote for the ring
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Welcome!

I love the Skye band personally too, so another vote for that!
 
lol that is so true!! I definitely want her to be able to show off to her friends...she deserves it after so many years
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Welcome MNIA,

Congratulations on your success and well done for thinking of your Mother.

You know your mother better than we could. What do you think?

I love rings but think it is wonderful if a woman can own a pair of diamond earrings; then enhance the face beautifully. So that would be my vote and the bigger the better.
 
Congratulations and best wishes for your future!

Another vote for the earrings - call me old-fashioned, but I don''t think of a diamond ring as a daughter''s gift.
 
I think for a first diamond piece, I''d go with a ring. She can see it all the time and will be thrilled every time she looks down at her hand.
 
I'd want to be able to see that sparkle -- so I vote for the ring, and I think the Skye is a beauty. However, deBeers has hijacked the five-stone and 3-stone design [for their own evil purposes
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] to represent anniversaries. That wouldn't deter me from wearing either of those styles, especially if it was a gift from my daughter, but ... you know better than we would if it might be an issue for your mother.

I hate the way the diamond/marriage industry appropriates more and more styles..... oh well.

Anyhow, with your generous budget, you could buy both a ring and a set of lovely earrings!

Congratulations on your success so far!
 
I'd absolutely go for the ring. I don't think a five-stone is exclusively an anniversary ring, especially worn by itself on the right hand.

Particulary where this is her first diamond(s), I think it would be much nicer to get something she can see herself and marvel over.

What a wonderful thought, by the way, in getting something for your mom. Very sweet and thoughtful.
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I think H/I color and SI2 would be fine specs for either project. If you do the five-stone, there's not a huge difference between the VS2 and SI2 costwise; I'd focus more on selecting five well-matched stones. Clarity doesn't have to be the same; nor does color. I own a five-stone ring and it has two H stones and three Is. Of them, one is an SI1 and the others are VS2.
 
Another 5 stone ring vote! You are a sweet daughter.
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I vote for SKYE and the stones that WF would put in it would be gorgeous.

What a nice gift for your mom! She'll love anything you pick!
 
I also vote for the ring. Your mother must be so proud of you. You are so thoughtful and sweet.
 
My vote is for a ring too! Since this will be her first diamond piece, I would want her to see that baby all the time
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I also LOVE 5 stone ring and looking forward to my own from WF in the future, so I think SKYE would be absolutely perfect.
 
Another vote for the SKYE, she''ll be able to see it all the time. What a wonderful daughter you are!!! She''ll be thrilled!!!
 
That is very sweet of you. I think she''d enjoy the ring more because she can look at it all day.
 
I would get her the ring. What a lovely gift. She will be so proud of you. My Nan wears a ruby ring that my mother gave to her when she left college (my nan was a single mum too). She still wears it everyday 40 years later.
 
Wow, it''s going to be an amazing gift, whichever you pick. I hope my daughter thinks so highly of me one day!

I personally would prefer diamond studs over a 5 stone, but then I craved diamond studs from the moment I found out such things existed! I can see that a ring would be easier to ''show off'' to people and that''s really nice, given the sentiment behind the gift.

Is there any way you can find out what your mother would like best? Can you sort of engineer a conversation about sparklies and see if you can uncover any preferences without spoiling the surprise?

I''d love to see what you pick out for her, please let us see photos!

Jen
 
I vote for the earrings. I love diamond earrings, they go with everything and get plenty of attention.
 
I vote for a ring so she can see it and enjoy it.
 
Other than my wedding set, I''m not a ring person at all. As a matter of fact, I''d never worn a ring until I received my engagement ring, and I still prefer earrings. Do you know if your mom has a preference for rings or earrings in general? I''d go with whatever you think she''d enjoy wearing more.
 
thanks for all the advice guys~this forum is wonderful!!
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I''m going to take her to the mall sometime soon and see which booth she lingers over longer...maybe then it''ll make the decisions easier

I do agree though the ring has that anniversary/marriage sentiment but I would encourage her to wear it on her right hand, but the earrings would be very versatile. so many decisions...I might just have to get her the other one next year!
 
What a sweet daughter...my daughter is close to your age. My choice as a Mom would be a pendant I could wear close to my heart. Everyone else notices it right away!
 
Date: 1/5/2009 11:39:10 AM
Author: AprilBaby
What a sweet daughter...my daughter is close to your age. My choice as a Mom would be a pendant I could wear close to my heart. Everyone else notices it right away!
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Oh the pendant is a sweet idea too! I was getting ready to vote for a ring, but I think you should consider a pendant if she''s not a ring person.
 
Another vote for the ring... so that she can look at it and enjoy it. Your mom is really fortunate to have such a thoughtful and kind daughter!
 
Date: 1/5/2009 11:39:10 AM
Author: AprilBaby
What a sweet daughter...my daughter is close to your age. My choice as a Mom would be a pendant I could wear close to my heart. Everyone else notices it right away!
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I think this is a fabulous idea. A ~1 ct floating pear pendant would be amazing and would go with everything.
 
Date: 1/5/2009 11:39:10 AM
Author: AprilBaby
What a sweet daughter...my daughter is close to your age. My choice as a Mom would be a pendant I could wear close to my heart. Everyone else notices it right away!
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This is what I did.

I bought my mom a half carat (WF Expert Selection) pendant for her birthday last year. She''s never had a diamond ring or really any diamonds at all and she loves the pendant. My mom isn''t single or I would have considered a RHR.

In order to get my mom''s sensitivity to color/clarity, I took her with me to a jeweller. I was pretending to look at diamonds for my sake, but in reality I wanted to see her reaction to different colors and clarities. She''d never looked at diamonds before, so she really was not sensitive at all.

I went with an I/SI2 (eye-clean) and she loved it. I''m sure your mom will love the ring or the earrings!!! Congrats to both of you!
 
This is a really amazing thread. I can''t believe a young daughter would do that for her mother...and this woman is young. Too young to be buying diamonds for other people, in my opinion. Wow! I want to hear the end of the saga.


Deborah
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Thanks to all the mothers who gave their votes!! I''m sure all your daughters (and sons) will find themselves to this forum one day on their quest for the perfect present for you
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The pendant is also a very viable option, she was drooling over her friends'' journey necklace, but I read somewhere on this forum that your diamonds should be just a little bigger than your friends? Well her friends'' necklace was kind of big lol...but it was only a 3 stone journey, so I will look into finding a 5 stone one

NewEnglandLady-thanks for your advice! I do need to see if she is sensitive to color because the stones for the earrings are H...although her eye sights are going and she needs readers for everything, so maybe the specs don''t even matter
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Did anyone else go through a similar experience? I''d love to hear how you decided on which stones and setting you chose for you mom.
 
HI:

How thoughtful! If your Mom shows no color preference you might consider a stone from GOG or Infinity, lower color set in an antiquish setting. Vintage feel.

cheers--Sharon
 
Definitely a ring! She will want to look at it always! I like canuk-gal''s suggestion - the more "colorful" stones are stunnung when well cut. I also like the idea of a 5 [or 7] -stone ring. . . which brings me to a short story . . .

My grandmother did not have an ering or gold wedding ring because everything was collected to fund the war effort in Italy [don''t get me started on that one and the confiscation of gold here]. In any case, she really, really wanted a diamond for her 50th wedding anniversary in 1975 or so. My grandfather did not pick up on the hints. She went out and bought herself a great diamond anniversary band [7 stone or so, maybe 15 pointers each?] and never took it off [when I wanted to clean it she couldn''t GET it off, LOL!]. She loved to look at it every day. That is why I suggest a ring. Your mom will think of you every time she looks down at her hand.

What a great kid!
 
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