Home what do you think about a TV in the bedroom?

[janinegirly]

my DH wants one, i''m not so crazy about it. he says it''s just for occassional use, but i''m still not crazy about it.

what do you guys think?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

For us here are the pros and cons

Pros
We can snuggle in bed and watch movies together.
We can put on digital music when we want to get frisky.
If you''re sick you don''t have to get out of bed to watch Dr. Phil and Oprah.
A second TV in the house solves the problem of one of you wanting to watch Dr. Phil and the other wanting to watch Judge Judy.
You can watch TV while you fold laundry on your bed.

Cons
The temptation to be in bed all the time is huge.
People say it''s bad to do anything other than sleep is bad for you.
The temptation to get caught up in shows and stay up late is big.
It can sometimes be a detriment to getting frisky cause you zone out.
You rent a lot of pay per view movies cause you like to lay in bed together watching movies all the time.

 

[Independent Gal]

Well, we don''t even have ONE TV, so I guess I''m not really the right person to ask. But I think the reasons we don''t have one tv would be even stronger against having one in the bedroom, namely, the temptation to watch it all the damn time instead of doing other, more active and creative things. HH is right that it''s likely to less friskiness (I think there was even a study on this) and is bad for sleep patterns. Bed should be reserved for sleeping and frisk and that''s it.

We have netflix (which we watch on our laptops) for when we need to zone out. you could always have that option available for when you''re sick. Which seems the only time being in bed should be combined with activities other than the above-mentioned.

 

[janinegirly]

i agree (IG), but it''s hard b/c DH wants it and I don''t want to tell him what he can/can''t do. I give him my opinion and he says it won''t be like that so, i suppose it''s his choice. just kind of not feeling great about it.

 

[Aloros]

I vetoed the TV in the bedroom for all the reasons HH listed.

So...the extra telly has ended up in the office. I''m not thrilled about that either, but it hasn''t been put to use yet.

 

[Cleopatra]

lol....when FI and I moved in together, we had 2 of everything (including a tv)....so guess where the second one is.....

It''s really not bad, I actually enjoy it. I''m one to take a nice hot bath, put the PJ''s on and get into bed early and read. FI likes to come in and watch tv in bed....and I don''t mind. pffff...what am I saying?! I totally watch tv in the bedroom too...

 

[aprilcait]

FI and I have a TV in our bedroom and it hasn''t caused any problems.

 

[Jas12]

DH and I went almost a year without a T.V but when our guests started to complain we ended up with one--and what happened? We watched it and still watch it.
Point being, I think a T.V. in the bedroom means less of everything else in the bedroom (sleeping/reading/sex). I would never do it for these reasons. DH and I sometimes bring the laptop into the bedroom to watch a DVD if we really want to snuggle up--but other than that no multimedia.

Maybe make a deal with him--try it out for a few months and if you notice a decrease in ''essential bedroom activity'' make a pact to send it packing.

 

[TravelingGal]

I do not watch TV. Used to love it but the onslaught of bad reality shows in the 90''s turned me off. TGuy loves watching sports, which is fine by me.

Both of us agree no TV in the bedroom. I love it. When we''re in bed, we''re sleeping, having a nice conversation, or inadvertently making TTots.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 11/29/2007 11:01:34 AM
Author: janinegirly
i agree (IG), but it''s hard b/c DH wants it and I don''t want to tell him what he can/can''t do. I give him my opinion and he says it won''t be like that so, i suppose it''s his choice. just kind of not feeling great about it.

why is it HIS choice any more than it is YOUR choice. it''s your bedroom too. we tend to decide things using the "who is it more important to" method ... on a scale of 1-10. If it''s more important for you NOT to have a tv in the bedroom than it is FOR him to have one ... you''d "win".

Full disclosure -- I don''t really want one in our bedroom but we have one.

Honestly it''s been turned on maybe three times in the past two years ... and I''ve been the one to turn it on every time. He goes to sleep earlier than I do but he likes me to be there to snuggle. Sometimes the option of a little tv watching lures me up there so I won''t be bored when he falls asleep in 2 seconds flat. However last night it did not and I fell asleep on the couch watching the CNN You Tube debate. Aiigh.

Our room isn''t really comfie for tv watching anyway because our bed is up against the window & it makes propping pillows etc awkward, and a headboard would cover the window. And the floor slants a bit so our feet are higher than our head. OLD HOUSES!!!!

 

[diamondfan]

I am a tv addict so the answer would be yes without question. However, only you know if that would be a bother to you!

 

[aljdewey]

Date: 11/29/2007 11:22:57 AM
Author: Jas12

Point being, I think a T.V. in the bedroom means less of everything else in the bedroom (sleeping/reading/sex). I would never do it for these reasons. DH and I sometimes bring the laptop into the bedroom to watch a DVD if we really want to snuggle up--but other than that no multimedia.

Absolutely agree, and for those reasons, no TV in our bedroom either.

On VERY rare occasion, hubby brings laptop in to watch a DVD if he really can''t sleep.

We do see the value in having a second TV in the house, so we got a nice one for the guest room....which also contains the treadmill. It''s been much easier to get onto the treadmill with the TV/Netflix subscription.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/29/2007 11:53:18 AM
Author: decodelighted


And the floor slants a bit so our feet are higher than our head. OLD HOUSES!!!!

That explains a lot.

*ducks*

 

[Maisie]

We have two downstairs sitting rooms. Each has a tv in it. We had to get the second one as there are 7 of us living here, and there were far too many arguments about what to watch!

I don''t have one in my bedroom. Not to say I will never get one, just haven''t got one so far.

 

[sap483]

There are only two of us in our house and we have three giant TV''s - FI and I each had one and then we got a third one for our bedroom. To be honest, we really don''t use it that often. FI will lay in bed and watch sportscenter in the mornings on the weekend while I read the paper and drink coffee in bed. That''s really about the extent of it. I was against it at first, for the same reasons that others have stated- and I mean really, do we need three tvs? I have to say though it hasn''t been that bad. It''s definitely not as bad as my parent''s house- there is a TV in every room but the bathrooms, and even those will probably have a TV in them if my dad has his way (while I love my daddy, what a bad role model for FI!).

 

[MoonWater]

I''m totally against a tv in the bedroom....until we have kids. I think once we have a child that''s old enough to understand a lot of adult things but should not be exposed to it is when I will let a tv in the bedroom. It will only be used to watch films I wouldn''t want my kid to accidentally see.

But really, other than the News Hour (and if I''m lucky enough to be home, Law & Order), there isn''t much tv watching going on. We don''t have time for it. We can usually squeeze in about 2 films a month.

 

[sumbride]

We have a tv in our bedroom because we had 4 tvs when we moved in together and I like the ability to watch tv in bed when I''m sick. We don''t use it very much though. I''ll flip it on when I''m cleaning the bedroom/doing laundry, and we do use the music channels as HH mentioned, but we don''t stay up for hours watching tv. Or rather, not in the bedroom... my DH usually falls asleep watching tv downstairs while I go to bed at a more reasonable hour... meaning I''d RATHER he watched tv in the bedroom so at least we would be in the same room.

 

[mrssalvo]

we just moved a tv into our bedroom a couple of months ago after 6 1/2 years of no tv for many of the reasons those who are against have said. however, being preggo and needing to rest more, i was in bed more during the day during my first trimester, i have really loved it. hubby and i sometimes watch together, sometimes it''s off or if he''s working late, I like to lay in bed and watch, our bedtime routine hasn''t changed, i.e. staying up later etc. . So far I haven''t noticed any of the cons, but if i do we''ll take it out.

 

[Linda W]

DH and I have always had a tv in our bedroom. We love to snuggle at night and watch a movie together. He falls asleep early and I watch movies.

Linda

 

[DiamanteBlu]

I have always been against a TV in the bed room [and the living room too] and I still don''t have one in either room [the bedroom TV is in the master sitting room].

Then . . . I had a back spasm - couldn''t move, never mind get up - in bed for days [this has happened a few times]. Boy, was I bored - and each time I would forget about putting a TV in and would curse it the next time. So, even though I have not gotten around to putting a TV in this bedroom, you can be sure that in our next house [hopefully next year] there will be one [a flat panel that will be hidden either in the footboard or somewhere else - I still think TV''s in BR''s and LR''s are unattractive

]

DB

 

[anchor31]

I easily have insomnia problems, and doing other things than sleeping in the bedroom can really make it worse. Also, it''s really important for us to only have one TV in the home so we don''t just end up doing our thing by ourselves all the time and have some "family time" every night. It''s definitely something that we will keep aiming fo whe we have kids.

 

[neatfreak]

We have one in the bedroom, but we hardly ever turn it on. Only if we''re sick or both REALLY want to watch something at the same time (which has happened exactly once since we''ve been together).

 

[ephemery1]

We have one in the bedroom for all the "pro" reasons Hudson Hawk mentioned. Plus it's nice to go to bed at the same time, even if one person isn't tired yet... one can watch TV for a bit, while the other drifts off to sleep. Other than that, I put it on when I'm folding laundry or cleaning up... or when I want to watch Project Runway and DH would rather watch a hockey game... that sort of thing.

We also have one in the bathroom (it was there when we moved in, I swear!) and I LOOOVVVEE taking a long bubble bath with something fun on the TV in the background. My job is intensive and I get crazy under stress, so giving myself that time each evening to veg out and watch something mindless is not just a luxury, it's necessary!

Sometimes I think the "all TV = bad" mindset gets blown out of proportion a bit. I think it's like anything else... in moderation, fine... but if it starts to become detrimental, then do something about it! To each his own....

 

[Miranda]

Ahhhhhhh - I love watching TV in bed. When I am sick that''s all I want to do! Also, when DH is out of town I have a hard time falling asleep. A little evening TV and I''m out like a light. I guess that''s a testament to what''s on the tube (or panel these days)

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[Mara]

both greg and i are not into TV's in bedrooms. first off i think that we all watch too much TV as it stands, so i like that we have to be in fam room to watch it, it's like more of a time committment so sometimes we'd rather be out doing other things. also, i hate the drone of TV as i am trying to go to sleep, it does not put me to sleep and in fact i tend to become distracted if it's on in the room when i am trying to sleep (i want to watch the show!). we only have one TV, in our fam room. i could see if we had a workout room or something it might be fun to have one in there, but other than that, we'd probably never have a 2nd TV unless we had a movie room/playroom or something. greg is against it for other reasons like bedroom should just be for sleep, not conducive to getting frisky etc etc.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 11/29/2007 2:42:47 PM
Author: Mara
both greg and i are not into TV''s in bedrooms. first off i think that we all watch too much TV as it stands, so i like that we have to be in fam room to watch it, it''s like more of a time committment so sometimes we''d rather be out doing other things. also, i hate the drone of TV as i am trying to go to sleep, it does not put me to sleep and in fact i tend to become distracted if it''s on in the room when i am trying to sleep (i want to watch the show!). we only have one TV, in our fam room. i could see if we had a workout room or something it might be fun to have one in there, but other than that, we''d probably never have a 2nd TV unless we had a movie room/playroom or something. greg is against it for other reasons like bedroom should just be for sleep, not conducive to getting frisky etc etc.

It''s not the drone that gets me...I think I''ve gotten used to that. It''s the flickering lights while I am trying to sleep that I find irritating.

 

[KimberlyH]

When I lived alone or with roommates I didn''t have a TV in my bedroom. DH and I do have a TV in our room, we never discussed it, it just sorta happened because we set the bedroom up with his furniture exactly as he had it in the house he lived in before. It doesn''t bother me and it hasn''t caused any problems.

We have a rule that''s a bit harsher than deco and her hubby''s, if one of us says "no" to something then the answer is "no" until we can come to a compromise that we''re both happy with.

 

[Mannequin]

As I posted in the other thread, I will never have a TV in my bedroom. I am the only entertainment in there.

 

[somethingshiny]

TV in the bedroom is only good if you intend on folding laundry in there!!

Really, if you want to snuggle, or wile away the wee hours, I''m sure you can think of something more fun to do.... hang a swing instead

 

[Linda W]

My DH is asleep at 8:30 p.m., so I watch TV in bed until 11:00. I love having a TV in the bedroom.

Linda