What do you call your In Laws?

[trillionaire]

Valid whether you are married or engaged or a LIW, :

What did/do you call your in-laws before you got married?

What did you/do you call them after you get married?

 

[sammyj]

Well, I used to call my boyfriend's parents Mr. ___ and Mrs. ___. But a couple of years ago at his extended family Christmas party, a relative overhead me call his dad Mr. ___ and she laughed out loud. Now I call them by their first names!

ETA: Two of my BF's sisters-in-law call his parents Mom and Dad. This is something we both don't really like and I don't think I could ever refer to them as Mom and Dad.

 

[ams0124]

Right now (and most likely even after we get married) I call FF''s dad by his first name....I can''t imagine calling him "dad" or Mr____. First name works just fine

 

[neatfreak]

First names.

 

[princesss]

I call BF''s parents by their first names. Always have. I can''t really imagine ever calling them anything else.

I do have an odd desire to call his grandmother "Grammie", though. Not sure why. I just settle for not calling her anything. I''ve known her for almost 4 years, and actually have never addressed her with a name. Hmm. Odd.

 

[CheshireSmile]

Mr. and Mrs.

I''m hoping when we get married it''ll be first names, I don''t think I could ever refer to them as mom and dad though - it would just be too weird for me.

 

[ams0124]

Date: 12/2/2008 3:41:50 PM
Author: princesss
I call BF''s parents by their first names. Always have. I can''t really imagine ever calling them anything else.

I do have an odd desire to call his grandmother ''Grammie'', though. Not sure why. I just settle for not calling her anything. I''ve known her for almost 4 years, and actually have never addressed her with a name. Hmm. Odd.

I''m the same way...I don''t think I''ve ever addressed FF grandma with a name...I''m really trying to think of what I call her...I know it''s not grandma and I know it''s not by her name....Weird!!

 

[Bia]

First names. I do call his two close aunts "Aunt ___." Not sure why, it just sort of came about. I also call his grandfather "papito," which is what all the grandkids call him...and everyone really.

I wouldn''t feel comfortable calling his parents Mom and Dad...just because I have my own parents and those names are only ever theirs.

 

[sunnyd]

By their first names now. I''ll call them Mom and Dad after we''re married...after asking them first. My parents do that too.

 

[gwendolyn]

I don''t know why, but I feel disrespectful when I refer to J''s parents by their first names. Calling them ''Mr. and Mrs.'' (even though they aren''t married technically anymore) is too formal and they hate it, though. Where I grew up, the compromise was to refer to older people as Miss First Name and Mr. First Name. That''s seen as very strange here in England, though (and probably many other places as well), so I don''t do with them anymore either. I don''t think I''d call them ''mom and dad,'' although J''s mom refers to herself as my "UK mom," so she''d probably be fine with it if I did call her that.

Basically, I try to refrain from calling them anything at all because none of it feels quite right.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Well, his father passed away in 2003. So anyway, I used to call him by his name. I call FF's Mom by her name. Or the usual "your Mom" when talking to FF lol That wont change after marriage.

 

[musey]

By their first names, always have. My father-in-law particularly wants me to call him "dad," but it's too weird for me.

I have always called all parents by Mr. or Ms. _________ until I'm corrected, though I've never known a parent who preferred that to their first name.

My dad calls his mother-in-law by her first name and his father-in-law "Daddy." I always thought that was weird

haha!

 

[elle_chris]

first name. I also have a problem not knowing what to call his grandmother. he says "babcha" which means granma in polish. I''ve taken to doing thes same and she always smiles when i say it. I think that''s a good sign?

 

[fieryred33143]

I call his mom by her first name and his dad by a nickname the family has for him.

 

[meresal]

Mr./Mrs. while we were dating

First names since we got engaged.

 

[tabu]

I call my FF''s mom, dad and step-dad by their first names. Only when I was younger, like high school age, did I say Mr. or Mrs so and so.

 

[miss_flo]

They asked to be called by their first names, so that''s what we do I''ll likely maintain that after we''re married. Even though I''m in my mid-20''s, I still feel weird about calling parents by their first names...anyone else? hehe

Jokingly, I''ll call his dad "Captain" because it''s his title/rank

 

[jillyb]

First name. Sometimes I call her crazy, too. Often, really.

 

[AllieGator]

His mom and step-dad I call by their first names, his dad and step-mom by Mr.____ and Mrs.____. I just call them by what they introduced themselves as.

 

[sugary]

MY FI has known my parents for years. He was my brother''s roommate in college and has been calling them Mr & Mrs. This is definitely something to discuss as I have never given any thought to it. He calls my grandma Mimi because she insisted on it. (She used to be grammie Michele, but I could never say that when I was little so it came out as Mimi and stuck! ) Oh, and she likes it that way!

I don''t know if I could call his parents mom and dad, because I really don''t know them that well.

 

[meresal]

Date: 12/2/2008 4:29:33 PM
Author: news_girl
They asked to be called by their first names, so that's what we do I'll likely maintain that after we're married. Even though I'm in my mid-20's, I still feel weird about calling parents by their first names...anyone else? hehe

Jokingly, I'll call his dad 'Captain' because it's his title/rank

I am religious about calling people Mr and Mrs. It's how my parents raised me. I don't call any of my friend's parents by their first names. FI's parents are the only ones, because they continually insisted after we got engaged.

 

[princesss]

Date: 12/2/2008 5:12:23 PM
Author: meresal

Date: 12/2/2008 4:29:33 PM

Author: news_girl

They asked to be called by their first names, so that''s what we do I''ll likely maintain that after we''re married. Even though I''m in my mid-20''s, I still feel weird about calling parents by their first names...anyone else? hehe


Jokingly, I''ll call his dad ''Captain'' because it''s his title/rank

I am religious about calling people Mr and Mrs. It''s how my parents raised me. I don''t call any of my friend''s parents by their first names. FI''s parents are the only ones, because they continually insisted after we got engaged.

I almost never call adults (haha, I''m 22) by their first name, but BF''s parents were SUPER clear about what I''m supposed to call them. It even extended to BF''s dad saying (when talking about my dad not telling BF to call him by his first name when they met) "What, he didn''t tell you to call him FirstName? What kind of stick is up his ***?"

So yeah. Trying to call him Mr. LastName never exactly worked out.

 

[merrymunky]

I have always called his parents by their first names. It''s how they introduced themselves to me and how I feel comfortable. The call us sprog and sprogette affectionately on occasion.

 

[Pandora II]

I''ve always used their first names.

In a way it was easy as they are both remarried and DH and his brother call their parents new spouses by their first names.

Also I was in my mid-30s when I met them.

I could never call in-laws mum or dad or anything of that sort. Seems very weird to me. T

hat said, I''ve always called my parents by their first names and rarely mummy or daddy. Probably because I''m the eldest and my parents always told me to ''Go and ask x'' or ''Give it to x'' rather than ''Go and ask daddy''. My younger siblings all use mummy and daddy.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

I call his mom by her first name and his dad by a family nickname. But he calls my mom "Suegra" and my dad "Suegro" which are the Spanish words for mother-in-law and father-in-law. He is really cute because he doesn''t speak Spanish so it sounds totally adorable.

As for grandparents, all of mine have passed away and I believe his as well. But FI''s kids think that my parents names are "Abuela" and "Abuelo" which are the Spanish words for Grandma and Grandpa! That''s what all the other kiddos call my folks and they do, too. My parents love it and always respond!

 

[cocoa]

I''ve never "get" to call adult by their first name only.
In my culture, that would be considered rude.
I call my BF uncle and auntie - i don''t remember attaching their names in the rank
After we marry, the expectation would be calling them "mom and dad" when talking to them
it sounds a little weird in my mind but not sure it''s an option otherwise

 

[Salix]

Cocoa, you must be oriental!

I am Chinese, and in our culture, it is considered rude to address an elder by their first name (This is rapidly changing though). We call any older person around our parent''s age Auntie or Uncle, which is what I call my bf''s parents. After we are married, I will call them mom and dad (awkwardly).

 

[elle_chris]

Date: 12/2/2008 6:27:36 PM
Author: Salix
Cocoa, you must be oriental!

I am Chinese, and in our culture, it is considered rude to address an elder by their first name (This is rapidly changing though). We call any older person around our parent''s age Auntie or Uncle, which is what I call my bf''s parents. After we are married, I will call them mom and dad (awkwardly).

Russians do it too. I always refer to my friends parents as aunt and uncle.

 

[FrekeChild]

Um. FF and his dad have the same name, so mine is Little D and his dad is Big D. I call them D and Old D, but whatever. Really, I don''t talk to him that much, so I don''t have to worry about it. And his mom passed away 3 years ago.

I don''t know what FF will call my dad. I imagine he''ll want to call him his name (another D--but different) which he does already, but I''m not sure what my dad will want FF to call him. He had both of my SILs call him Dad, but I know FF won''t go for that. He calls my mom by her first name, and I imagine that will continue if she''s still around after we get married.

Now I''m really wondering if my dad is going to try to talk FF into calling him dad....

 

[honey22]

I have always called F-MIL by her first name. Since getting engaged, I call her Milzy - short for Mother-in-law-zilla! By Mum is Mobzy - mother-of-bride-zilla. FI and I took Milzy to stay with Mobzy recently on our wedding planning trip, and having the two Mum''s was really confusing, so we started these names as a joke, and they have sort of stuck! They even sign off their emails with these names too.

I call FI''s Aunties - Aunty and Uncle, and Nanna is Nanna. Keep in mind, I was 17 when I met these people, so I guess that I was a kid then, so it didn''t seem right to call them by their first name. Milzy always insisted on first names though. We are all comfortable.