wedding theme

[allycat0303]

Hey everyone,

So today my cousin and my sister went shopping for bridesmaid dresses. I had given them a rough idea of what I wanted. I had settled on a simple gold theme. In any case, they got back to me, telling me that gold bridesmaid dresses look hideous on them, and they didn''t want to wear them. In any case, they found dresses in red/pink tones that they liked (I had wanted them to wear mermaid style dresses, which apparently is pretty rare here in Canada. They are also on a tight budget, so that kind of limits choices.)

I''ve been feverishly trying to make inspiration boards so that they could wear the color dresses they wanted. I''ve been working on this for an hour and am pretty fed up. I won''t be going with them to choose dresses because I''m kind of stuck in this room for the unforeseeable future.

These 2 are radically different. Please tell me which one you like best (because at 6 months, I kind of just have to make a decision and be done with it.)

Gold theme:
Pros: More me.
Flowers would be white on top of a gold candlerbera

Cons: my cousin and my sister REALLY don''t want to wear the gold dresses.

Pink/Red (I was able to find the exact centerpiece for that one. However the flowers would be less pink, more red, just some pink accents...probably more like my bouquet)

Pros: They would wear the dress they want
I am totally in love with that bouquet, it''s my dream bouquet.

Cons: I think it''s a bit feminine as a theme, although my fiance doesn''t really care.

Thanks everyone! Just pick one of the two. I''m won''t be offended if you hate them both, just pick the less hated one. At the end of the day, I''m not that attached to either one. I just want the wedding to look decent-ish.

 

[allycat0303]

sorry that didn't work..

 

[allycat0303]

Trying again...

 

[allycat0303]

Red and pink inspiration (i put a different wedding dress because I didn''t want my fiance to know exactly what dress).

 

[allycat0303]

actual reception room (in case this affects the choices..)

 

[allycat0303]

the reception room

 

[vintagelover229]

Ally! first off! Welcome back! It''s so nice to see you posting again! XOXOX!

As to answer your question...I LOVE the gold. I LOVE IT! I think it goes GREAT with the reception hall as well. I know it doesn''t help you much though because your BM don''t like the dress!

Hope it helps some at least!

 

[blondebunny]

first off... yay! atleast you have something to do while resting..!

Ok.. I totally love both.... this is hard.. and your venue is TDF!

Why cant you do both?? Why cant you add the gold in with the red/pink? I think thatd look nice... maybe you could incorpate some sort of sash with the dresses or gold accesories so you can still have the gold....

So my vote... BOTH!

 

[surfgirl]

Chau em, glad to see you''re better..I just saw your accident thread and hope you''re feeling a lot better today.

Why cant you still do gold but with some pink accents in the flowers? That''s basically what your second board is, gold with some pink accents...

 

[Haven]

I''m with Blondebunny and Surf--Why not let them wear the dresses they like, but keep our gold theme in the rest of the decor? Honestly, the bridesmaid dresses really do not matter enough to change your entire color scheme based on them.

 

[Lanie]

Another vote for both. I think more and more weddings are becoming too matchy-matchy personally.

You could do your dream flowers, the dresses they want, use gold to dress up the reception (gold chargers, linens/chair sashes) and it would all blend very well.

And if you REALLY think about it, no one puts together all elements of your wedding except for you and maybe a couple of super observant people. I came to grips with this notion a couple of months ago, and it has really settled me. The average wedding guest is not looking at the cake and saying "Oh dear...that doesn''t really go with the flowers in the girls'' bouquets". I promise. If you are paying for the dresses, chose the ones you want. Otherwise, do the dresses they want, do the flowers you want, and I promise, you''ll find a way to tie in everything together.

Don''t stress over colors!!! It''s not worth it!!!

 

[AmberGretchen]

I love the white and gold a little more, considering your setting. One thought though - do the BM dresses they love come in black or chocolate brown? I really feel like either of those could be compatible with the theme, but hopefully be more flattering for them.

Honestly, I think both themes are gorgeous though, and the wedding will be amazing at that venue and with your lovely bridal self, so I really don''t think you can go too far wrong

 

[Blackpaw]

im so sorry ally but i have no idea!! i think both will look gorgeous truly. But can i say im so happy to see you in BIW and hello

coz im canada too!!

mmm go the pink/red if they hate gold i guess. either is lovely and you can always keep the gold accents etc. just have the dresses as pink/red and add gold jewellery or some such?

 

[Deelight]

Date: 12/29/2008 9:53:39 PM
Author: surfgirl
Chau em, glad to see you''re better..I just saw your accident thread and hope you''re feeling a lot better today.


Why cant you still do gold but with some pink accents in the flowers? That''s basically what your second board is, gold with some pink accents...

Ditto Glad to see you better.

I would also consider going with the first board and adding the centerpieces from the second board but maybe interspersing some little flashes of white in it .

 

[kellybelly]

is the the house from the movie Clue? it looks exactly like it!

the room is amazing and seems to have lots of gold tones in it already. i never thought i''d say it, but i like the reds and pinks. makes it look very romantic and rich. maybe the pink dresses with the gold. something like that.

 

[blackpolkadot]

Date: 12/29/2008 11:05:49 PM
Author: Deelight

Date: 12/29/2008 9:53:39 PM

Author: surfgirl

Chau em, glad to see you''re better..I just saw your accident thread and hope you''re feeling a lot better today.



Why cant you still do gold but with some pink accents in the flowers? That''s basically what your second board is, gold with some pink accents...

Ditto Glad to see you better.


I would also consider going with the first board and adding the centerpieces from the second board but maybe interspersing some little flashes of white in it .

Ditto! I think a mixture of both will be gorgeous!

 

[jstarfireb]

I love the gold theme! Could you come up with a color that coordinates nicely with the gold but isn''t gold itself? Silver or platinum-grey maybe? I don''t like the red/pink at all. I think you could come up with a better compromise.

 

[Gypsy]

Hi Honey! SO GLAD YOU ARE BETTER!

The white and gold is so neutral I don''t see any reason why you can''t do colored wedding dresses, a colored bouquet and everything else white and gold. Best of both worlds. That''s what I''d do.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

how about a colored dress with Bill Levkoff does great seperates.....

 

[newsboysgrl777]

Ally,

Maybe I'm a brat, but i want to vent for one minute. I am SO SICK of your sister taking EVERYTHING away from you!! This is YOUR day and if you want them to wear the UGLIEST dresses on the planet, then they need to SHUT UP, buy the dresses, and WEAR THEM!! My GOSH!! How selfish can she be??!! GRR

This is YOUR WEDDING and they have NO RIGHT to make ANY decisions for you!! Imagine if you did that for your sister?!! She'd have a hissy fit (and so would her fiance, no doubt)!

Okay, rant over. That being said...are you sure it wasn't the GOLD that they weren't happy with and more the SHAPE you've chosen? Mermaid style only looks good on a VERY select few! What was the style/shape they chose in the red and pink? And why did they choose 2 colors? I mean, if they want pink, fine, pink. If they want red, then red, but why both? Is it because one liked one color and the other another color? AND, don't forget that MOST PLACES you can order a dress in ANY color!! Gold, silver, ivory, black, purple, brown, you get where I'm going... (And i think a deep brown or bronze would look stunning, as well!)

I LOVE the gold theme. I LOVE the gold tablecloths in that first picture and i think it will be AMAZING in your venue!! WOW!! I am soo jealous of your place!! It's to die for!! It's like a castle!!!! (And YOU are the princess for the day!) And, I second what Lanie said - who is going to look around and say "um. hello? THAT is so out of place?" I mean, I know you've got the vietnemese over-critical people, but really?? let them be lame and LOOK FOR something out of place!! If there isn't anything out of place, they'll invent something! you know what I mean? besides, as I've said in this thread already, this is YOUR day!! If YOU think it looks gorgeous, who CARES what anyone else thinks?? This is YOUR dream!!! Not to be mean, but when they're old and/or gone, and you're the (only) one living with the memory of that special day, I hope it'll be what YOU want it to be, not what someone else wants.

I'm sorry if i haven't been much help, but i just wanted to validate you for a minute since it seems everyone is always tearing your ideas down.

please let us know what you decide!

-Rachel

ETA: There are already gold tones in the fixtures in the room, and there is a reddish-orange carpet on the floor and what looks like orange on the walls. I'm thinking you could 'use the excuse' that red/pink will clash with that carpet/walls to get out of using THEIR color scheme.

Also, by 'everyone tearing down your ideas' I meant in your fam, not on PS! We're all awesome on here

 

[Gypsy]

Okay so... just wanted to chime in on the sister issue. Newsboy had a good point. And you KNOW how I feel about your sister... leopards and spots. And yes, I do feel that with you in the hospital, after what you went through... not to mention all you went through before you ended up in the hospital they could just suck it up for one night and WEAR A FREAKING GOLD DRESS.

But... on the other hand, they could look like death warmed over in gold and really nice in reds and pinks (I look like death in silver and platinum and I love metallics) and could thinking that they would like to look nice in your pics. Did they tell you why they don''t want gold? Are they just being PITAs or do they just really feel that it''s not flattering on them? I know you like to give people the benefit of the doubt (sometimes to your detriment), so maybe you''d want to find out why they are so resistant.

Also, your sister, when thwarted, isn''t a pretty sight. And since you are ill, I totally get the ''path of least resistance'' thing.

 

[allycat0303]

Hey everyone,

I had actually pretty much thought of doing gold and red, but then thought the plates (yes the plates) were white and so was my dress so that would be too many colors). Ally=not original and can deal only with tone on tone. Everyone should see my house. It''s all taupe and grey/blue with dark brown. ALL OF IT. Every room.

My sister and my cousin (and my cousin is the sweetest, most gentle girl) said they look like death in the color gold.But they LOVE the mermaid shape. They both have killer bodies (i.e, they are ordering size 0 and having it made SMALLER). As for the inspiration board red and pink dresses, I know they probably don''t want to have the same color dresses, and since it is pink and red as a theme, they could have 2 different dresses. They would actually be able to reuse these dresses (seriously, my cousin has grad before my wedding and would wear it, and my sister would be wearing it to attend some sort of night party) They already asked me if it was ok, and I was so THRILLED. I feel so freakin guilty about making them spend money on this as it is.

Gypsy, newpaperboy: Yes, I know she can be pretty demanding. But she really does look incredible in red and pink. And I don''t want to add to her stress. Right now she is having a lot of down, moments where she feels she is going to die alone. So I know that all this wedding stuff, when you are in a process of getting divorced must be really poopy. I know I would hate it. I realized through all of this, that I am a pretty patient person. But it helps that I am not too fixated on a particular wedding idea.

I''m going to work on an inspiration board now.

 

[allycat0303]

Can''t believe how much time i wasted doing that. Ok. Here it is. FINAL. As in I am sending it off to fiance who will start placing the orders for cakes, flowers and dresses. See I can plan a wedding from anywhere

Flowers in the centerpieces will be more red (if you gals can''t tell, I''m pretty visual person) Notice how I super-imposed a cake platter onto the cake to see if it would look alright?

Let me know what you think. Thanks!

 

[bee*]

That last board is beautiful! Everything looks fab!

So glad you are better!!

 

[Tuckins1]

Both of the color schemes are lovely... But I actually like the red/pink theme better! But, it''s your wedding, and if you want to gold, go for the gold!!! My bridesmaids bit#%ed because they didn''t want to wear pink (it was a very soft pink, not bubble gum or neon)... I was so pissed because I wanted pink. (It''s my favorite!!) I ended up going with light blue, but I still was a little bitter about them telling me what''s what with MY WEDDING! You should be able to have what YOU want.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Hey AllyCat, I really like the final one you posted. I know it''s FINAL anyway

but just thought I''d chime in and say I think it''s great. The pink would totally clash at the reception site with the peachy/orangy colors, but the gold is going to look fantastic!!! And I think the red will blend nicely there. Good compromise, and it brings more color into the picture. You''ve got a great theme!

If you don''t mind me asking, where is this venue?? It is exactly what I would want - so open and vibrant. But nothing around where I live looks like this.

 

[newsboysgrl777]

Date: 12/30/2008 5:58:18 AM
Author: allycat0303
Hey everyone,

I had actually pretty much thought of doing gold and red, but then thought the plates (yes the plates) were white and so was my dress so that would be too many colors). Ally=not original and can deal only with tone on tone. Everyone should see my house. It's all taupe and grey/blue with dark brown. ALL OF IT. Every room.

My sister and my cousin (and my cousin is the sweetest, most gentle girl) said they look like death in the color gold.But they LOVE the mermaid shape. They both have killer bodies (i.e, they are ordering size 0 and having it made SMALLER). As for the inspiration board red and pink dresses, I know they probably don't want to have the same color dresses, and since it is pink and red as a theme, they could have 2 different dresses. They would actually be able to reuse these dresses (seriously, my cousin has grad before my wedding and would wear it, and my sister would be wearing it to attend some sort of night party) They already asked me if it was ok, and I was so THRILLED. I feel so freakin guilty about making them spend money on this as it is.

Gypsy, newpaperboy: Yes, I know she can be pretty demanding. But she really does look incredible in red and pink. And I don't want to add to her stress. Right now she is having a lot of down, moments where she feels she is going to die alone. So I know that all this wedding stuff, when you are in a process of getting divorced must be really poopy. I know I would hate it. I realized through all of this, that I am a pretty patient person. But it helps that I am not too fixated on a particular wedding idea.

I'm going to work on an inspiration board now.

Ok, wow. i'm obviously behind on things...I didn't realize they were even married yet, let alone now divorcing.

so sorry!! (Not that you and everyone else didn't actually anticipate it

)

Luvthemstrawberries - I don't know where her reception site is exactly, but I know she's in Canada, so it's not a US location. It is GORGEOUS though. I agree!!

 

[CrownJewel]

hi ally! i hope your recovery is super speedy.

i like the final version that you posted. love the mix of the two.

 

[jcrow]

i agree with the mix of the two. i think that doing a larger, more rounded palette of colors tends to make the it richer than a simple two color palette. it gives your more options as well.

we did crimson, gold, dark brown, white and champagne and it came together nicely.