shihtzulover
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I am not sure whether or not my FF and I should have a wedding, or if we should just elope.
I kind of like the elopement idea - simple, and no drama. I can get a dress and we can still have wedding photos, but that's about it. My FF kind of likes the idea because he is shy and doesn't want that much attention on him during an entire wedding ceremony, but he also kind of wants his family to be there.
If we were to have a wedding, it would be small - just family, because neither of us really has friends here. All of our family would have to fly in, with the exception of my parents and a couple of his relatives who live near here (who he is not really close to, but would obviously still invite).
I thought maybe we could each have two people, but it won't work out that way. I would invite my parents, but he doesn't have just two people that he could invite without everyone else getting hurt feelings. His mother unfortunately passed away, and he doesn't know his father. He would choose his grandmother, but then he would have to choose one aunt for his other family member - and that wouldn't work, because the others would be upset that he chose one over all the others.
Of course, if he invites all of his family, then I would invite all of mine (since they would obviously be upset if they found out I was having a wedding and that they weren't invited but my FF's family was, and I would of course want people there for me, too). The problem is that if I invite some of them, I have to invite all of them - or else everyone is going to be furious. My mom has already made it clear that I would have to be nice and invite them all. The problem is that my dad's side of the family does not get along at ALL. Right now they are all having major fights about their inheritance. It's really sad, but true. They cannot be in the same room without literally getting into screaming fights, and there was even one fistfight at one point.
I do not want to deal with this on my wedding day. Eloping is sounding better and better,and my mom really thinks it might be best, considering the issues - but I'm not sure if my FF will truly be fine with that. I think he would if I really wanted to, but I know that his family would really want to attend. On the other hand, I can't find any suitable way to make this work. I can't just not invite my family, and it would create more drama if I only invited some of my family members.
Thoughts?
I kind of like the elopement idea - simple, and no drama. I can get a dress and we can still have wedding photos, but that's about it. My FF kind of likes the idea because he is shy and doesn't want that much attention on him during an entire wedding ceremony, but he also kind of wants his family to be there.
If we were to have a wedding, it would be small - just family, because neither of us really has friends here. All of our family would have to fly in, with the exception of my parents and a couple of his relatives who live near here (who he is not really close to, but would obviously still invite).
I thought maybe we could each have two people, but it won't work out that way. I would invite my parents, but he doesn't have just two people that he could invite without everyone else getting hurt feelings. His mother unfortunately passed away, and he doesn't know his father. He would choose his grandmother, but then he would have to choose one aunt for his other family member - and that wouldn't work, because the others would be upset that he chose one over all the others.
Of course, if he invites all of his family, then I would invite all of mine (since they would obviously be upset if they found out I was having a wedding and that they weren't invited but my FF's family was, and I would of course want people there for me, too). The problem is that if I invite some of them, I have to invite all of them - or else everyone is going to be furious. My mom has already made it clear that I would have to be nice and invite them all. The problem is that my dad's side of the family does not get along at ALL. Right now they are all having major fights about their inheritance. It's really sad, but true. They cannot be in the same room without literally getting into screaming fights, and there was even one fistfight at one point.
I do not want to deal with this on my wedding day. Eloping is sounding better and better,and my mom really thinks it might be best, considering the issues - but I'm not sure if my FF will truly be fine with that. I think he would if I really wanted to, but I know that his family would really want to attend. On the other hand, I can't find any suitable way to make this work. I can't just not invite my family, and it would create more drama if I only invited some of my family members.
Thoughts?