Wedding band

[happydreams]

Hi guys! Since I saw a lot of interesting/good answers on the topic of the "ideal age" to marry, I decided to ask another question.

Who pays for the wedding bands? I have a feeling I''m going to get a lot of "its our budget" type answers, but my BF and I tend to keep our money seperate, and will continue to do so even after we get engaged, with the exception of a joint a/c for shared items. I thought I would pay for the wedding bands, since that way, I can choose whatever I want without being sensitive to his budget. Also, I have a feeling he wouldn''t be up for shelling out more money after paying a hefty sum for an engagement ring. (not that mine will be all that glamourous, but we all can admit that engagement rings are not everyday expenses and are generally expensive. In fact, he recently admitted that due to the recent recession, the ring "will not be that big")

 

[trillionaire]

traditionally, you pay for each other''s rings. If finances are a concern, you can always go with a plain band in silver, gold, platinum, palladium, titanium, tungsten... whatever fits your budget. It really depends on how sentimental you are... you can upgrade!

 

[Tuckins1]

We paid for each others bands... But they ended up being about the same price, so it didn''t really matter anyways!

 

[CNYHopeful]

Since we''ll have a joint account (with exception of small separate side accounts for buying each other presents), we will probably just split the cost. I don''t think there''ll be too much difference in price since I''m planning on a more simple, traditional, plain white gold or platinum wedding band (depending on what we decide on together). Good question, happydreams!

 

[Pandora II]

DH and I bought each other''s bands:

Mine was a custom-made channel-set curved band in platinum to fit my e-ring.
His was a custom-made solid forged mokume gane band in tri-coloured gold.

I originally thought I''d have a plain plat. band, it was DH who insisted it needed to have diamonds and match my e-ring. I love my husband

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We have always had separate finances and accounts and still do. DH pays all the bills/mortgage etc and I send him a direct debit every month. We go 50/50 on everything else. Baby is due in May which may change things somewhat...

 

[happydreams]

Ok, see that is kind of my point. I would want something different than what he would get. (diamonds on MY wedding band vs. his, which would be a plain band). That would make me feel bad - since he already forked over money to pay for a diamond engagement ring, would it be wrong to ask him to spend a few more bucks more? I''d feel a bit selfish. Who knows though. I suppose we''ll discuss it then but just wanted some heads up on what other people do.

 

[Pandora II]

Who says that rings have to match?

You are two different people, you can have different things!

This is a band that you will wear for life - make sure that you have the one you want, it''s not something most people choose to upgrade later.