Wedding band to match Emilya Halo?

[kay1]

So i have a 2.43ct / I / VS1 Emilya Halo from VC being made. It's the one with the donut and has U-Cut pave.

Being a guy i'm a bit confused as to which band to put with it. Do I get the same U-Cut pave version so it matches, or is this not how it works? Are the two supposed to match perfectly or complement each other?

confused!

 

[hathalove]

I think getting the ER and proposing then buying the wedding band after is a good idea. Gives her a moment to enjoy the ring and maybe try on a few rings to decide what she might really enjoy. Liking matched sets or different rings to stack that compliment I find is a personal thing.

 

[kay1]

Also I forgot to mention the Emilya will have a shank of about 1.9mm. FF wants a thicker wedding ring, but i'm not sure how that will look.

Emilya:
http://www.victorcanera.com/the-emilya-halo-solitaire

Band:
http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/flush-fitting-pave-eternity-band

If i go with U-cut pave on it but make it wider, won't the diamonds need to be bigger, and then it won't match? Or should I add metal to the sides to widen it? Also how wide do I go? 2.2? 2.5?

Opinions/suggestions?

 

[kay1]

I think getting the ER and proposing then buying the wedding band after is a good idea. Gives her a moment to enjoy the ring and maybe try on a few rings to decide what she might really enjoy. Liking matched sets or different rings to stack that compliment I find is a personal thing.

This was the original idea, but VC is saying that to make the band fit perfectly he needs the ER with him when he makes it. Shipping it back is not really feasible for lots of reasons. I know already FF likes a halo, and a diamond band as i've tested her out in debeers

Also she said she would pick my WB and I would pick hers. I've had an internal debate and hinted to her and she seems happy for me to go ahead and get both. She knows i'm up to something and something custom is on it's way, so she's kinda helping tell me what's ok and not - she's a smart cookie

 

[liaerfbv]

This is totally personal preference. Some people want a matching band, others want contrast. There's no right or wrong. What do you think your FF would like?

I prefer a non matching wedding band so I'd get something coordinating but not identical!

 

[motownmama]

I vote for the matching band you posted. Killer!!!!

 

[kay1]

The matching band was my initial reaction.

VC says the halo shank will be 1.9mm, and I know the FF wants a thicker WB. If i make the WB thicker than 1.9 then it'll look odd and unbalanced i think.

Not really sure what to do :/ Just when you think you have it all worked out (ER), there's something else to work out! (WB)

 

[Acinom]

Here is an example of Frankiextahs's set. The WB serms to be a tad wider with slightly bigger stones (not absolutely sure though...)

All the best in deciding
Choosing a band is a very personal thing.

Edit: just found out that Frankie's ring is 1.8 and matching...
Found an example from a PSer with a wider band from LM;

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Make it like Frankie's if it has to be a little larger, but under no circumstances put that notch in it! Make it a regular, straight band. I wouldn't put pave on the doughnut and then you won't have to have a spacer band.

 

[Gypsy]

Make it like Frankie's if it has to be a little larger, but under no circumstances put that notch in it! Make it a regular, straight band. I wouldn't put pave on the doughnut and then you won't have to have a spacer band.

Agree 100%

 

[kay1]

Hmm ok, VC is saying it will look unbalanced if I go wider.

IF i do put the notch into it, then i'm worried she won't be able to wear the WB on it's own, which i know she'll want to do on some occasions because that much bling (emilya) on your finger isn't always practical, eg gloves, on holiday etc.

I had another thought, could I get her a notched band except make it like a spacer. There'd be no pave on the notched out bit of course. Then give her this ring as an eternity (i can make up another occasion!). Then she would have a straight edge to put a WB next to which we could pick together later?

This would mean she could wear the WB on it's own, or wear the eternity + emilya + WB.

I know she ideally wants us to get the bands together and wouldn't mind a plain WB that matched mine (but thinner).

Women out there - what do you think?

 

[TC1987]

I would want the matching contoured VC wedding band that fits flush up against the ring. Either that or a plain (no pave) contoured band that fits flush up against the ring. I don't like those straight band / spacer arrangements at all. If she wants a wear-alone wedding band, then I guess it will either have to be a 3rd ring, or you get one straight (not contoured) wedding band.

 

[Acinom]

This is a very personal decision. If it was for me I would want:
1. The Emilya without pave on the donut
2. A straight platinum band as wedding band (without the notch!) for holidays/ informal days/sports (I would include 2 surprise birthstone on the inside of the shank of this one): same width and height as the Emilya shank not the thin spacer band!!!
3. A straight matching eternity, same width as the Emilya (for example for some anniversary )

All can be worn together (the platinum band would then work as a spacer) or it's possible to pick and mix.
That said: I love a gap between rings, it's not for everyone.

Being located in the UK I would ask VC to make everything at the same time if possible. You could decide to give your GF the eternity at a later date. Beforehand I would show her some pics or go shopping together in the UK to ensure that you know what style she prefers: notched or straight, flush or gap etc

 

[liaerfbv]

I think the moral of this story is it may be better to let her decide. As you can see, everyone here would want something different! I wouldn't want to spend the money on something I wasn't 100% she would love. I know VC needs the e-ring to make a perfect match, but I'd rather wait and ship the ring back to make sure it's something she absolutely wants and will love.

 

[kay1]

I think the moral of this story is it may be better to let her decide. As you can see, everyone here would want something different! I wouldn't want to spend the money on something I wasn't 100% she would love. I know VC needs the e-ring to make a perfect match, but I'd rather wait and ship the ring back to make sure it's something she absolutely wants and will love.

That was my original plan, but i'm in the UK. So shipping it back would incur customs/duty again. It's really complicated to claim back the duty/tax and not always guaranteed. Then there's insurance both directions etc, and her not having the ring on during that time (which is the time she'll want it most to show people!).

So here's my thoughts:

- Keep the Emilya halo with donut
- Get a matching eternity band (with pave) that has a notched edge on one side and a straight edge on the other (Make up an event to give this to her)
- Let us go together and choose wedding bands later. I strongly suspect she'll want a plain one to match mine.

I'm thinking this way she has the option to use the eternity band or not. She could wear ER + eternity, or ER + eternity + WB or even ER + WB.

Essentially it would be a paved spacer:

A cross between this:
http://www.victorcanera.com/platinum-spacer

and this:
http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/flush-fitting-pave-eternity-band

I guess i'd rather have the Eternity in case she doesn't like the gap. The only question is, will it look ok!

 

[WillyDiamond]

I think the moral of this story is it may be better to let her decide. As you can see, everyone here would want something different! I wouldn't want to spend the money on something I wasn't 100% she would love. I know VC needs the e-ring to make a perfect match, but I'd rather wait and ship the ring back to make sure it's something she absolutely wants and will love.

Agree........Give her the ER, let her enjoy that, and then before the wedding buy the wedding band, she might change her mind between now and then

 

[hathalove]

Sticking with my initial post which is wait. That being said, it sounds like you know you want to buy her the eternity right away. Nothing wrong with that plus it's a gift to her. I personally would not like a notch in my eternity ring. That would drive me crazy. I don't have a preference for flush or gap. But I don't like when the bands look the same and as a result look like one thicker band with no distinction. Again that's personal... So it they are flush I like them to be different. Matching is sexy to me when there is a gap. Again personal.

Just curious. VC is so talented making these things can't he take measurements of the ER and then make the wedding band after if she wants it. Plus a fraction off probably isn't noticeable. Or is this because of that darn notch?

 

[kay1]

I think the moral of this story is it may be better to let her decide. As you can see, everyone here would want something different! I wouldn't want to spend the money on something I wasn't 100% she would love. I know VC needs the e-ring to make a perfect match, but I'd rather wait and ship the ring back to make sure it's something she absolutely wants and will love.

Agree........Give her the ER, let her enjoy that, and then before the wedding buy the wedding band, she might change her mind between now and then

Yes this makes sense on the face of it, but to send the ER back to have the band made from VC would probably cost me about $5,000-$6,000 because of tax, duty, insurance and shipping :/ So that clearly isn't an option.

My options currently are:

1) Buy the Emilya halo with flush stems, and then deal with it later (the donut version looks better in my opinion tho).

2) Buy the Emilya halo with donut and:

a) then deal with the WB etc later (downside here is that any WB or even spacer I get won't be from VC and won't ever totally match).

b) buy a custom spacer (downside is I know she won't like the pave-less spacer)

c) buy a custom eternity band as a WB with a curve (I know she doesn't like a 1.8m thin WB).

d) buy a custom eternity band as a WB without curve (what if she doesn't like the gap?)

e) buy a custom eternity band that's the same size and width as the straight band but has a notch cut out like the spacer, thus allowing us to buy any WB later and flush fit it next to this eternity.

f) give up and go for a beer (joke)

 

[kay1]

Sticking with my initial post which is wait. That being said, it sounds like you know you want to buy her the eternity right away. ....

Just curious. VC is so talented making these things can't he take measurements of the ER and then make the wedding band after if she wants it. Plus a fraction off probably isn't noticeable. Or is this because of that darn notch?

I'd prefer to wait buy shipping the ring back isn't an option. So i guess i'm trying to cover my bets a bit.

I asked VC exactly the same thing but he said it's not that simple, and he has to constantly put the two together to make sure they fit flush. I guess any gap would cause the rings to move about.

 

[liaerfbv]

That was my original plan, but i'm in the UK. So shipping it back would incur customs/duty again. It's really complicated to claim back the duty/tax and not always guaranteed. Then there's insurance both directions etc, and her not having the ring on during that time (which is the time she'll want it most to show people!).

So here's my thoughts:

- Keep the Emilya halo with donut
- Get a matching eternity band (with pave) that has a notched edge on one side and a straight edge on the other (Make up an event to give this to her)
- Let us go together and choose wedding bands later. I strongly suspect she'll want a plain one to match mine.

I'm thinking this way she has the option to use the eternity band or not. She could wear ER + eternity, or ER + eternity + WB or even ER + WB.

Essentially it would be a paved spacer:

A cross between this:
http://www.victorcanera.com/platinum-spacer

and this:
http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/flush-fitting-pave-eternity-band

I guess i'd rather have the Eternity in case she doesn't like the gap. The only question is, will it look ok!

I see I see! Yes, I agree, it's easier to do it now. In that case, I would get a plain band and the straight pave band. I don't like the idea of a notched pave band and I wouldn't wear that on its own.

 

[kay1]

I see I see! Yes, I agree, it's easier to do it now. In that case, I would get a plain band and the straight pave band. I don't like the idea of a notched pave band and I wouldn't wear that on its own.

The idea was the notched eternity would just be an 'extra' and the notch would be used to straighten the edge, allowing us to buy the bands later since she wants it to match with mine, it won't ever match the halo and eternity. I think she's thinking plain for the WB.

It's about $2000 for the eternity, and i don't mind paying that extra if it doesn't ruin the look of the main ER. If i did it this way though, as you say, she'd only ever be able to wear the eternity with the ER. But could still wear her seperate WB on it's own

 

[hathalove]

I see I see! Yes, I agree, it's easier to do it now. In that case, I would get a plain band and the straight pave band. I don't like the idea of a notched pave band and I wouldn't wear that on its own.

The idea was the notched eternity would just be an 'extra' and the notch would be used to straighten the edge, allowing us to buy the bands later since she wants it to match with mine, it won't ever match the halo and eternity. I think she's thinking plain for the WB.

It's about $2000 for the eternity, and i don't mind paying that extra if it doesn't ruin the look of the main ER. If i did it this way though, as you say, she'd only ever be able to wear the eternity with the ER. But could still wear her seperate WB on it's own

If you listen closely to your responses you have your answer! You want to buy her the notched eternity and you want to do an all in one order. Us saying we don't like the notched eternity isn't helping you at this point. You like the idea of them fitted flush. I agree the regular Emilya is more beautiful to my eye than the flush version. Having a plain band is always a good thing. There will probably be times when she prefers to wear that. We cannot tell you if she will like the notch or like the gap on a straight band. Sometimes you just have to go with your gut and hope for the best.

Voting no notch matching eternity band and plain band. But it doesn't matter. Go with your gut. She may not even want an eternity. Maybe she wants to wear the ER with a lovely plain band. This ER will be so amazing!!! Congratulations.

 

[ame]

What I would do is get the matching band made at the same time, so that it actually matches. If she wants a wider band, you can get her another band that matches, another one in the same metal that's plain, or another style band to stack, then she has more than one band for a wider look. Another idea is a wider PLAIN band that you also put on her finger during the ceremony so it's "blessed" at the same time, and she can wear that on the days she doesn't wear her engagement ring and wedding set

 

[kay1]

hathalove: I think you're right I seem to have already decided! I'll email VC and see what he thinks about making something like that.

It's so hard to 'guess' what she might want to do :/

 

[hathalove]

hathalove: I think you're right I seem to have already decided! I'll email VC and see what he thinks about making something like that.

It's so hard to 'guess' what she might want to do :/

Sometimes it just takes "talking it out" to come back around to what you wanted all along. Believe me I have been there with all my crazy threads. Lol.

And... None of the options are ugly or even just ok. They are amazing and honestly if my dh proposed with that amazing ring and then offered an eternity notched or no notch I would be thrilled. And mostly because I am marrying the man of my dreams. That happened to me 14 years ago with a .43 point good cut princess in a plain tension setting. Is it my taste now?..No. But was I thrilled to say yes that many years ago and proud to wear that ring for a good while. Yes.

 

[kay1]

So i went ahead with the straight eternity:

http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/u-cut-shallow-type-single-cut-pave-eternity-band

BUT with a notch cut out on one side like the spacer:

http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/platinum-spacer

I know it would look odd on it's own, but the notch will be hidden under the spacer. Think of it as a 'sparkly spacer' and she can put a WB of her choice next to it

 

[msop04]

I think getting the ER and proposing then buying the wedding band after is a good idea. Gives her a moment to enjoy the ring and maybe try on a few rings to decide what she might really enjoy. Liking matched sets or different rings to stack that compliment I find is a personal thing.

This was the original idea, but VC is saying that to make the band fit perfectly he needs the ER with him when he makes it. Shipping it back is not really feasible for lots of reasons. I know already FF likes a halo, and a diamond band as i've tested her out in debeers

Also she said she would pick my WB and I would pick hers. I've had an internal debate and hinted to her and she seems happy for me to go ahead and get both. She knows i'm up to something and something custom is on it's way, so she's kinda helping tell me what's ok and not - she's a smart cookie

Why not have Victor make a tiny 1-1.5mm platinum spacer with a cut-out for the donut? That way, you can pair anything with it and won't have to worry about sending it back, as you will have a flat, flush surface with the addition of the space.

 

[msop04]

...like this poster did with her VC Emilya:

https://www.pricescope.com/communit...ya-2-7-ct-with-band-and-custom-spacer.177752/

 

[msop04]

So i went ahead with the straight eternity:

http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/u-cut-shallow-type-single-cut-pave-eternity-band

BUT with a notch cut out on one side like the spacer:

http://www.victorcanera.com/jewelry/bands/platinum-spacer

I know it would look odd on it's own, but the notch will be hidden under the spacer. Think of it as a 'sparkly spacer' and she can put a WB of her choice next to it

AHHHHH, kay1!! You beat me to the punch! LOL I think you made a good decision.

 

[m-2-b]

Just wanted to put in my 2 cents--I own one of Victor's spacers for my VC Gabriella solitaire. The spacer does have the tendency to rotate around the donut sometimes and separate. Just be aware that the metal part may be visible at certain times where there is no pave.