WANTED: Lucky Dust

[MissDimity]

Hi Ladies, so excited ... My man who is now several states away ( I travelled home for Xmas on the 22nd, but he does live with me) has suggested we think about getting married 03/03/2012. He also said that he had put that date down in his phone. He also said what did I think about a 13 month engagement, and then said what would I think about a 14 month engagement. I just responded that I would like a surprise and that it would be up to him to decided that ( even though I was hoping for a 14 month engagement ). This morning he texted to ask for the 2nd what my ring size was ( at 6am in morning).

SO very excited. Hoping he does propose soon.

Please send me some lucky dust

 

[MBKRH]

Wow!!!!! Good luck, and definitely sending some lucky dust your way!


~*~*~*Dust~*~*~*~

 

[rialaine]

Sounds promising!!! ..oo*”"”**oo.oo*”"*oo..DUST..oo*”"”**oo.oo*”"*oo..

 

[StonieGrl]

This will sound negative, but I'm coming from the vantage point of age/relationships under my belt--if your avatar pic is you (young) so adjust your settings for that

I may have misunderstood here: He is asking you if you will date him for another 13/14 months prior to getting engaged? Then you will have a period of engagement after that?

Well that would be pretty cool for the requesting party: RP makes no real commitment, he's asking you to participate in his survey, LOL, yet you are not dating anyone else during that time? Sounds like you're the one committing here. And if he still, in 13-14 months, wants to be engaged to you, he will buy a ring he asked you about the size of, 13-14 months ago?

This is stuffy of me and very old-school but some old-school things are valid because people have not fundamentally changed since the dawn of civilization really: An engagement is a period of time when two people declare their mutual interest in a POSSIBLE marriage, see if the lust and passion and love continues, and the respective families meet to see if compatibility might ensue, and the couple either then confirms the validity/quality of their relationship by getting married OR one or both says "Didn't quite work out, wish you well, just don't want to follow this up with marriage."

An engagement should never be assumed by parties outside the couple to automatically result in a marriage, its impolite to pressure the couple in this way.

Anyhoo, don't waste your youth and youthful beauty in someone's survey. Date him! That's what DATING somone should be. Get engaged to him IF you so desire when he actually ASKS.

 

[MissDimity]

Hi StonieGrl... Firstly I am flattered by you saying that I'm young. I'm not that young ( I don't think) at 28 years and he is 40.

What he meant by having a 13month or 14 month engagement is he was asking me did I prefer for him to propose in January or February (2011). He has suggested a wedding date (03/03/2012) which is 14 months away.

Wedding places book out early so, as soon as we are engaged we'll need to set the wedding date.

I am also familiar already to the dating/ engagement process. I was meant to get married to another in Feb 2010 however called the wedding off 4 days prior to the wedding date ( another saga).

Knowing this StonieGrl, does it change your thoughts on the matter?



**** Thanks wishfuldreamer and Rialaine for the dust*********

 

[StonieGrl]

Miss Dimity, you ARE young with respect to being in the pool of possible marriage prospects. You are smack in the time of your life to enjoy it all to the very MOST.

With your clarification, he is on the up-and-up here and is being considerate. I thought he was asking you to date him exclusively for 13-14 months and he *might* then become engaged to you.

I hear ya on the church/reception hall booking, sigh, that stuff is no friend to engaged couples one bit.

Re your called off wedding, we should start a thread on how many of us have done this (I've done it once myself and also have a broken engagement). It would clarify an untalked about subject, that's for sure.

Sounds like you and he have it all worked out and everybody is being considered and taken care of!

Best wishes to you both and congratulations

 

[mary poppins]

Sounds promising! Sending dust your way for a 14 month engagement. Have you told BF about a preferred style engagement ring or will that be a surprise?

 

[DuckLovingVegan]

*******************DUST*************** I hope it happens soon for you. Please keep us posted.

 

[MissDimity]

Hi Mary poppins,

Previously I have selected my engagement ring ( see previous engagement ring pic below) so I want the next one to be a surprise. My current beau has a picture of my previous engagement ring also, and he has set it to his mobile phone screen saver. He said to me this morning, he gets "goose bumps" everytime he looks at his mobile.

 

[HopeDream]

~~~***Dust!!!!***~~~

I hope he proposes in January! (Valentine's day would also be romantic)

 

[Blackpaw]

******DUST******

very promising update, hope it comes to fruition

 

[MissDimity]

Latest developments:
This morning SO went ring shopping (I believe however he didn't want to admit to me that he did) 1.5 hours away from where we live. Then I get a text on mobile at 10.14am from him saying "I enjoyed that" and not giving anymore details.
I am very curious however want it to be a surprise.

Firstly , does it sound like he might have purchased a ring ?
If he did, how long would it take to size a ring ?
Is he going to propose on New Years Eve?

Can't wait till Friday, he is joining me, flying in to where I live at 9pm on New Years Eve and we are staying in a harbourside hotel in the city centre so we will probably see fireworks from our room. I am secretly hoping he will propose Friday....

Tell me ladies, from the information I have given do you think a proposal this Friday is likely?

 

[PrincessNatalie]

DUST!!!

 

[MissDimity]

He has told me he has bought a ring...


AHH!!! Hoping he doesn't make me wait to long!!!

 

[StonieGrl]

ENJOY!!! Sounds exciting and romantic, the best kind of proposal!