VENT...

[meresal]

"Dear FMIL...
I am not calling you to hound you about your address list, so please answer your phone or at least aknowledge that you received my calls, email, and text message!!!!"

I found out, thru my MOH, that a girl I knew all growing up has set her date for the same date as me. We will not have any of the same guests, not a big deal. However, her's will be downtown, as mine is... and she can't find room blocks because apparently there is a huge Jahovis Witness(sp??) convention. We got a really screwey hotel block deal and they only gave us 10 rooms per night, with the ability to get more if we need them. Of course we are going to need them, we have 200 guests from OOT!!! This just gave the hotel a reason not to have to hold rooms until the last minute. ANYWAY... I am trying to call FMIL to tell her that she needs to go ahead and book all the rooms that her family is going to need, or else there may not be enough at our hotel in a few days. But, she's been ignoring all my 4 calls since Monday which was just to say hi and see how her trip was, 1 email to catch her up on the "other wedding from previous thread issue", and 1 text message when she didn't answer my call today, this week, becasue she thinks I want her address list!!! UGGH!!! She even called FI yesterday afternoon to see how he was doing, and he told her that I had been trying to contact her, and her reply "I know, I feel horrible not calling back, I've just been here there and everywhere this week." (At that point she hadn't returned 3 of my calls and an email)

I am sooooo ready for the weekend. On a side note, we found our cake lady, and I'm in love!!!

 

[bee*]

Ugh how annoying! I hate it when people don''t return calls

Well it''s her loss if her guests can''t stay. I hope that she returns you calls soon!

 

[cbs102]

Mer-
I really cannot deal with your FMIL. she is so mean to you sometimes. its like she does things to get under your skin.

 

[AmberGretchen]

I cannot deal with people who are flaky about getting back to you, period. Sorry you are having to deal with this aggravation!

 

[Loves Vintage]

Date: 1/9/2009 2:07:32 PM
Author:meresal
''Dear FMIL...
I am not calling you to hound you about your address list, so please answer your phone or at least aknowledge that you received my calls, email, and text message!!!!''

I found out, thru my MOH, that a girl I knew all growing up has set her date for the same date as me. We will not have any of the same guests, not a big deal. However, her''s will be downtown, as mine is... and she can''t find room blocks because apparently there is a huge Jahovis Witness(sp??) convention. We got a really screwey hotel block deal and they only gave us 10 rooms per night, with the ability to get more if we need them. Of course we are going to need them, we have 200 guests from OOT!!! This just gave the hotel a reason not to have to hold rooms until the last minute. ANYWAY... I am trying to call FMIL to tell her that she needs to go ahead and book all the rooms that her family is going to need, or else there may not be enough at our hotel in a few days. But, she''s been ignoring all my 4 calls since Monday which was just to say hi and see how her trip was, 1 email to catch her up on the ''other wedding from previous thread issue'', and 1 text message when she didn''t answer my call today, this week, becasue she thinks I want her address list!!! UGGH!!! She even called FI yesterday afternoon to see how he was doing, and he told her that I had been trying to contact her, and her reply ''I know, I feel horrible not calling back, I''ve just been here there and everywhere this week.'' (At that point she hadn''t returned 3 of my calls and an email)

I am sooooo ready for the weekend. On a side note, we found our cake lady, and I''m in love!!!

I may have misunderstood your post, but I think you said that your FMIL thinks you''re calling about her address list, which she does not have yet, so she is avoiding your calls; however, you are actually calling her for a different reason -- to address the hotel issue.

If that''s the case, then perhaps you can just send her an e-mail, detailing exactly what she needs to do, and then hopefully she will address it . . . that way at least she will know what you are actually trying to contact her about and she can deal with it instead of avoiding you because she doesn''t have the list yet.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Annoying and so frustrating! Sorry Meresal! I experience similar frustration with regards to obtaining address/guest info from FMIL. It drove me batty. I finally gave up. I did what I could and fi knows this. We have sent STDs to those whose info was provided, other than that, I hope that she gets the remaining info before the invites go out. Is there any way that you can take over control of some of the things that your FMIL is handling for you, e.g, hotel blocking and/or is there anyway that you can make FI responsible for getting the address info from his mom? Might that work for you?

Good point, Loves Vintage!

 

[violet02]

Date: 1/9/2009 3:51:20 PM
Author: Sparkalicious
Annoying and so frustrating! Sorry Meresal! I experience similar frustration with regards to obtaining address/guest info from FMIL. It drove me batty. I finally gave up. I did what I could and fi knows this. We have sent STDs to those whose info was provided, other than that, I hope that she gets the remaining info before the invites go out. Is there any way that you can take over control of some of the things that your FMIL is handling for you, e.g, hotel blocking and/or is there anyway that you can make FI responsible for getting the address info from his mom? Might that work for you?

Good point, Loves Vintage!

I''ve had my DH deal with his mom before when I felt like things were a bit sticky. That straightened things out pretty quickly. Sorry you have to deal with her being a pain!

 

[meresal]

Hey everyone... she finally called back and we got to talk. I would handle the Hotel stuff, except for the fact, that the block was made by the planner for the RD and she likes to run everything by her first. So, I try not to look like I''m going around the planner (That I think is a waste of money, I might add). However, I DID call MY BM''s and tell them to book their rooms asap

. My mom is working on our family, and we will have all of ours taken care of by the end of the week!!

Anyway, things should be better. FMIL said, and sounded like, she got sick when she got back from NYC. She brought up getting addresses to me, and said she is going to work on them again tonight. Honestly, I really don''t care when she gets them to me. I told her that 15 at a time was fine, whatever she can do.

Cbs: Can you believe some of these things? I''m really not sure she does it on purpose, but it''s crazy to think about. I laugh more than I bit** now (well outloud anyway. I tend to "release" online to my PS gals now). It''s better for C and I, that''s for sure.

As far as writing an email, I did that yesterday and told her that whatever she can give me at a time would be fine. She''s doesn''t need to worry about getting all of the addresses to me at once. Then today when she didn''t answer, I sent a text message that said "Big convention weekend of wedding. May want to book hotel rooms soon." I also called the house and left a message with FI''s wounger brother, jsut to make sure there wasn''t anything wrong with my phone. This may seem like overkill, but I''ve been on the other side and the last thing I want to do in "Not communicate" well enough. LOL!! It''s a circus, but he''s totally worth it

 

[missjaxon]

I know how you feel meresal, my future in-laws still have not even given me an estimate of how many guests from their side of the family will be invited to the wedding despite me asking kindly over 2 months ago. All I asked for was a rough estimate so my Mom (who is paying for the wedding) can start putting together some kind of budget and figure out how big of a wedding to plan.