Ugh its happening again. Im not loving it :/

[Niel]

Its happening again. I dont LOVE my ring. I know its not the setting. I love love the setting. I know its because of the lack of sparkle from my pear. And for a pear I know its sparkly but it doesnt have much FIRE. Jsut white flashes. I listed it on DB under my FI suggestion (for too much probably) just to see if I got any bites, but I am sure I wont (I think i posted it for too much to avoid having to making any decision). but worth the .99$ to easy my mind I guess. I dont know whats wrong with me, it does flash and it is clear as water but for some reason I'm missing sparkle so bad

 

[Enerchi]

oh no!!! What would make it better? A recut - is it the diamond cut? Could it be recut? worth contacting BGD or another vendor for a quote??

 

[Niel]

I am not sure its the cut, i mean it has fire in specific lights, but not enough, you know, i think its because its a pear and those are just light leaky by nature. I think its a good pear for a pear but I just think I thought I would be ok sacraficing light performance for shape and here I am and I dont think I am

 

[Enerchi]

Could it be the bezel setting - not letting enough light into it? I'm sorry you are not happy, nielseel! You were so excited with the reset and looking forward to the 'perfect' ring --- I hope you can find a solution... I'm stumped!

 

[chicam]

If you don't like it, set about changing the shape and getting something for fiery. I had a most brilliant stone that was beautiful in and of itself. However it lacked fire. I couldn't live with it despite its white light beauty.

 

[Niel]

If you don't like it, set about changing the shape and getting something for fiery. I had a most brilliant stone that was beautiful in and of itself. However it lacked fire. I couldn't live with it despite its white light beauty.

I think this is me, its very brilliant, but not firie. I dont know I cant afford much else now unless I sold it and it breaks my hear to sell it because in theory I should love it..... I dont know. And I would have to take a huge loss and then I wouldnt have the money to get anything substancial. I dont know

 

[Enerchi]

Off the wall here - would you consider using the pear/halo combination as a pendant and start again with a different shape for your ering? (I know you LOVED the pear because it was so unique) Maybe a simple but sparkly MRB or AVR or an OEC solitaire?

Just brainstorming ideas...not trying to upset the applecart!

 

[Niel]

Off the wall here - would you consider using the pear/halo combination as a pendant and start again with a different shape for your ering? (I know you LOVED the pear because it was so unique) Maybe a simple but sparkly MRB or AVR or an OEC solitaire?

Just brainstorming ideas...not trying to upset the applecart!

no I would love to do that! but thats an extra 5k I just dont have right now.

 

[Enerchi]

ok... but if you were to 'live with it' until you had that extra $5K, do you think you could enjoy it during that waiting period? That may be an option - know that in time it will be upgraded and enjoy it for what it is, at this moment? I'm just trying to find a bright side here!

 

[Laila619]

I think if you really want lots of sparkle and fire, you will need to get a round for that! Your ring is lovely though, and it's normal to second guess with so many other pretty rings on PS.

 

[bunnycat]

uggh- That sucks. I do know what you mean about pears because I love the shape of them but I worry about the light performance aspect of them. (So hubs has suggested if I ever want a pear shape a colored stone might be a better choice.) Good luck on the sale of it! Its such a pretty ring but if its not working its not working for you.

Do you have any idea what shape you might prefer? I'd suggest round if sparkle and fire are your main preferences. You got it from BGD, right? Is there any possibility of trading it in? Maybe saving the setting for a colored stone pear?

 

[Niel]

uggh- That sucks. I do know what you mean about pears because I love the shape of them but I worry about the light performance aspect of them. (So hubs has suggested if I ever want a pear shape a colored stone might be a better choice.) Good luck on the sale of it! Its such a pretty ring but if its not working its not working for you.

Do you have any idea what shape you might prefer? I'd suggest round if sparkle and fire are your main preferences. You got it from BGD, right? Is there any possibility of trading it in? Maybe saving the setting for a colored stone pear?

I didnt get it at BGD actually. I got the stone separatly and the setting locally, so no trade in option
Id really like a AVC probably. I know I should go round for sparkle and fire but I just cant do it, its too average, I crave something different. I guess thats what lead my hear

 

[Rosebloom]

I'm so sorry to hear this!

Thank you for your honesty. It's helpful for those of us learning about different stones.

 

[Gypsy]

Keep your spotlessly clean.

Buy an ASET. Check out the performance of your stone with it. Find out if the stone is a dud, or if it's you. Proceed according to that information.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Do you have realistic expecations about what diamonds look like in real life -- any cuts, not only pears?

I think a lot of people new to diamonds expect wild fire cracker flashes like in videos under spot lighting. In reality, you don't see that. Unless you are under spot lighting Most of the time, my diamond flashes chunky white lights. That's just how most lighting makes diamonds look in my experience.

 

[Niel]

My ASET seems very reasonable to other pears I have seen, from what i have read on here it has lots of light leaks but you want a good mixture of it thought the tip. Here is an example of it.

Dreamer, I dont know if i have unrealistic expectations or not. There is a seating area at my work that has those lights they use in jewelry stores. I say under it for lunch today to look at my ring. It sparkled, a lot, but thats really just about the only time I see any color in my flashes, besides a perfectly sunny day right next to the window. Other than that its just white flashes.

 

[Niel]

I'm so sorry to hear this!

Thank you for your honesty. It's helpful for those of us learning about different stones.

Yeah its easy to admit it on here, it was harder to admit it to myself. I hate to spend money I am not in love with, and its hard to be in love with something (the shape) that doesnt live up to my ideals

 

[mogster]

It sounds like the only thing you can really change here in the short term is your expectation. I went through a similar thought process as you when I received my ring. I had in my mind that because I spent a great deal of time researching, that I would get an incredibly fiery diamond. I was disappointed to find it wasn't as fiery as a round brilliant, but came to accept that I got the setting and diamond shape I had wanted for years, that it was just the nature of a fancy shape, that my ring was indeed fiery for what it was (a cushion), and that not even a round is fiery all of the time, especially not under fluorescent work lights where I spend most of my day. I would say love it for what it is and then change it when you have the means to (and if that's what you want).

 

[Niel]

It sounds like the only thing you can really change here in the short term is your expectation. I went through a similar thought process as you when I received my ring. I had in my mind that because I spent a great deal of time researching, that I would get an incredibly fiery diamond. I was disappointed to find it wasn't as fiery as a round brilliant, but came to accept that I got the setting and diamond shape I had wanted for years, that it was just the nature of a fancy shape, that my ring was indeed fiery for what it was (a cushion), and that not even a round is fiery all of the time, especially not under fluorescent work lights where I spend most of my day. I would say love it for what it is and then change it when you have the means to (and if that's what you want).

Thats my work. Every stone I ever see in my office( besides under those jewelry store lights) is dull dull dull. My melee looks so blah in there, and I know that sparkles.

 

[LibbyLA]

nielseel,

See how your diamond looks when lit with a Reveal bulb. If it looks great, get a desk lamp for your workspace and put a Reveal bulb in it.

May seem silly, but I know how my "roval" looks when lit by Reveal bulbs. If you can change the lighting in the place where you see your ring the most, maybe you'll like your diamond better. If every diamond you see in your office looks dull, it's probably the office, not all the diamonds. Surely some of them should sparkle.

liz

 

[MissGotRocks]

Do you have realistic expecations about what diamonds look like in real life -- any cuts, not only pears?

I think a lot of people new to diamonds expect wild fire cracker flashes like in videos under spot lighting. In reality, you don't see that. Unless you are under spot lighting Most of the time, my diamond flashes chunky white lights. That's just how most lighting makes diamonds look in my experience.

I do think this is an important point to make. It would be very easy from reading many, many descriptions on these forums to think that diamonds that are 'good' are practically alive with fire and brilliance. In the proper lighting, they are beautiful and fascinating but not always - not all the time - and not in every lighting situation. It is important to keep expectations realistic.

I'm sorry that you feel unhappy with your stone. Perhaps you can find time to go to jewelry stores and look at different shapes and cuts of stones to narrow down what you really like. A round brilliant is the cut that will give you the most brilliance if that's what you're looking for - even if you think it's average. Have you actually seen an AVC in person? It's hard to say for sure that's truly what you prefer without seeing one in real life. Don't despair - there have been many that have been unhappy with rings that have gone on to be able to get what they really want!

 

[monidda]

Oh No!!! I just adore your pear so very sorry to hear you fell out of love with her. I am now wondering about my idea of a bezel set ring

 

[Niel]

I do think this is an important point to make. It would be very easy from reading many, many descriptions on these forums to think that diamonds that are 'good' are practically alive with fire and brilliance. In the proper lighting, they are beautiful and fascinating but not always - not all the time - and not in every lighting situation. It is important to keep expectations realistic.

I'm sorry that you feel unhappy with your stone. Perhaps you can find time to go to jewelry stores and look at different shapes and cuts of stones to narrow down what you really like. A round brilliant is the cut that will give you the most brilliance if that's what you're looking for - even if you think it's average. Have you actually seen an AVC in person? It's hard to say for sure that's truly what you prefer without seeing one in real life. Don't despair - there have been many that have been unhappy with rings that have gone on to be able to get what they really want!

Im not unhappy with the ring exactly. Its so beautiful. I just feel like it has no fire in my everyday life. Maybe thats my problem and exceptions

 

[MissGotRocks]

It truly does look like a beautiful ring - I'm guessing that it's doing exactly what pears do and that's not a bad thing. Just different maybe than what you had in mind. The melee must sparkle in the right light though giving you more than you would have with just a solitaire pear. What does the ring look like outdoors or in the car or in the bathroom? How about the grocery store?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I do want to agree with the others who have said that even ideal cut round brilliants aren't shooting off fire all the time! They just look white in fluorescent lighting, too! My diamond looks best in WalMart, but that is not where I spend most of my time! Do clean it daily so it can be at it's best. I think you'd take way too much of a loss to sell it. I'd keep it and get another diamond ring for a future anniversary. This one can be a secondary ring or right hand ring then. Or if you have a trade-in policy on the stone, later on trade in the diamond for a round and get a colored stone cut for this setting, as someone else mentioned. It is a very pretty ring!

 

[rainydaze]

Aw nielseel, I'm sorry to hear this! The setting is gorgeous, and I adore it in the pear shape! I'm sorry it wasn't enough to bring on the love!

My ering story is very similar to yours, down to my even considering a Ritani halo. Even as a little kid I loved diamonds and loved window shopping for needles in the haystack that were 'prettier' than all the rest (which meant to me more fire and brilliance). DH and I didn't know differently from a surprise proposal so I had no part in choosing a diamond other than hinting I liked princesses and platinum. I loved his proposal but the diamond (a princess!) always left something to be desired with performance. I tried resetting to try and spruce it up and love it - just like you - but alas it didn't truly work. DH was sweet enough to let me start over, which I did with an OEC. Boy, what a difference! Crazy gorgeous fire just about everywhere, brilliance and scint galore! And the OEC facets give me that something unique that, like you, I wanted (and hence the princess cut which was less popular at the time I got it). And while this is not obvious to anyone, I also know it is unique for having been cut by hand and eye alone being that it was cut in the early 1900s.

DH and I had to suck up some money lost, but that stung more going in that coming out... I haven't looked back since the day I got my new ring. I love it, and I am so happy with it. It brings me joy every time I look at it. The process wasn't exactly on DH's to ten list of fun things in life, but he is happy I'm happy. It's all good now!

I hope you are able to find a solution that works for you and DH, and I hope it involves a ring that takes your breath away! I'm crossing my fingers for you it works out somehow, some way!

 

[04diamond<3]

My ASET seems very reasonable to other pears I have seen, from what i have read on here it has lots of light leaks but you want a good mixture of it thought the tip. Here is an example of it.

Dreamer, I dont know if i have unrealistic expectations or not. There is a seating area at my work that has those lights they use in jewelry stores. I say under it for lunch today to look at my ring. It sparkled, a lot, but thats really just about the only time I see any color in my flashes, besides a perfectly sunny day right next to the window. Other than that its just white flashes.

Does whiteflash have a buy back or trade in policy? I would check there, otherwise I'd do what you're doing. It made me sad to see your ring on DB! It's SOOO stunning and you were so happy about it. But if you're not happy you're not happy and there's no sense in "waiting it out". The only thing I'd say, is don't expect to get what you paid for it! You'll get less. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!! And PS - my round sparkled in cubicle lighting so maybe that's the kind of cut you should get.

 

[Niel]

Oh I fully expect to take a loss but no one will buy it for what i post. I could put "300" and someone will be like "how about 150??"
I just wanted a starting point to go down from, but like i said. Im realistic in my expectations, but you can never go UP.
Also I think i posted it high because a part of me really does not want to get rid of it, I just wish I could wave a magic wand and it be sparklier

I WAS really happy with it wasnt I? Gah I dont know. I contacted DBL and see if they would take it on trade. I have always loved this ring
http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/Jewelry/Rings-Antique-Vintage/The-Lynda-Engraved-Halo-Bezel/20399168_cFXTdV#!i=1614345685&k=Wbv2k5h

But I doubt that would have any more fire, they dont even post a vid.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

It would be impossible to know anything about the jbeg ring without seeing it, or an ASET, possibly. But the halo doesn't have diamonds in it, so I do not think you're going to get a super sparkly ring with that one.

 

[04diamond<3]

Oh I fully expect to take a loss but no one will buy it for what i post. I could put "300" and someone will be like "how about 150??"
I just wanted a starting point to go down from, but like i said. Im realistic in my expectations, but you can never go UP.
Also I think i posted it high because a part of me really does not want to get rid of it, I just wish I could wave a magic wand and it be sparklier

I WAS really happy with it wasnt I? Gah I dont know. I contacted DBL and see if they would take it on trade. I have always loved this ring
http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/Jewelry/Rings-Antique-Vintage/The-Lynda-Engraved-Halo-Bezel/20399168_cFXTdV#!i=1614345685&k=Wbv2k5h

But I doubt that would have any more fire, they dont even post a vid.

Yeah, I understand. That is a pretty ring, but personally I think yours is a lot nicer. Do you think you'd be thrilled with it? I'm not sure if it could be any sparkly than your pear in your office. Maybe you could see the ring in person? Or ask them to send you pics in different lighting.