To Pamper or Not to Pamper

[Yippee]

A friend of mine was asking the other day if she should get a manicure the day before she anticipates a proposal (she''s convinced her BF''s going to propose on their 4 year anniversary next month). She is hesitant because she doesnt get pampered very often and figures he might realize that she expects it that day. I suggested that she gets one herself because she''ll know sooner or later anyway.

I never really thought about it before she asked me. But it got me thinking, if I knew my BF was planning on proposing on a certain date, would I go out and get pampered or wait and see? What do you all think?

 

[Dreamgirl]

I''ve heard girls talk about that...but for me, I do my own nails every week anyway (on Friday''s) because I always like to look nice. So when a certain ''special'' occasion arises, I''m good to go baby!

Your friend should just do whatever feels best for herself. There is a possibility that he might catch on if she doesn''t usually do this. Maybe tell her to start now so it doesn''t look so obvious next month...

 

[tlh]

I have always known my now DH very well. I knew when he was gonna propose.
1) He got drunk the night before- because he was going to ask PERM in the morning and wanted to calm his nerves.
2) He was the type to do it at dinner. So when he books a reservation for a fancy restaurant I knew.

What is funny is I got all stressed out about what I was going to wear, I spent a lot of time doing my makeup and my hair... and it was a lot of fuss. Then... I could see there WAS NO BULDGE IN HIS POCKETS. I WAS MIFFED. I was like... what, he is playing with me! I was actually angry through the time the waitress took our order. Then I thought, eh if it DOESNT happen tonight, why ruin a great date because he didn''t propose? Well, the jerk kept the ring in the trunk of the car... and excused himself to go to the bathroom, and he came back w/ a giant box.. and the rest is history.

So in some regards, yeah, when you know it is coming it does alter your behavior a little. If she wants a mani have her get one. So even if he doesn''t propose at least she had some self pampering, which lets face it... when you are really wanting to be engaged, a little pampering doesnt hurt...

 

[Alexiszoe]

I think she should just do whatever she wants - manicure and all, if it makes her feel happy and special for the day itself.

For me, like her I knew that my then boyfriend was going to propose - I can read him like an open book, and he''s not very romantic, so a sudden getaway to Monterey sounds very fishy. But I am generally the lazy sort, so I went about as usual during the trip - no makeup, messy hair, casual clothes, and those were the engagement pictures everyone saw post proposal!

 

[misskitty]

I think she should go ahead and spoil herself a little. One of two things will happen:
(1) He''ll propose, and she''ll be glad that her nails look great because everyone will be staring at her hands.
or
(2) Hey, at least she has great nails and got to treat herself!

 

[Winks_Elf]

I usually don''t have time (or extra money!) to get my nails done, but I know the proposal will be coming sometime between now and March, so I started doing my nails again every week. This way, they look nice when it does happen.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Here was my gut reaction...it completely depends on the woman...

I''ve read more than one posting from different LIW''s who thought the it was **the night** just to find out it wasn''t their time yet...and the result of which was sadness and deep disappointment. I think that overly planning for a big surprise can be fun and exciting, but it can also set you up for a big let down.

If you normally get your nails done, why change the routine? But if you''re going on a hunch and splurging to be prepared, you need to also be prepared for getting no purposal. And, you cannot go forward and take it out on your boyfriend, like "I got my nails done for nothing!!!" because if you''re assuming you know what can happen, right?

 

[CNYHopeful]

I totally agree with Italiahaircolor. It depends upon the woman and the circumstances. Nobody wants to be disappointed, so hopefully you can encourage your friend to be positive regarless what happens, to just enjoy their anniversary together. I''m thinking if the guy suggests she get all dolled up because they''re going to the opera or some fancy restaurant- then it wouldn''t be so odd if she had a manicure for the occasion. On the other hand, if he suggests they go hiking in the woods and she doesn''t get mani''s often, might seem presumptious.

 

[adhesive]

"To Pamper or not to Pamper" - probably the easiest question (for me) to answer. ALWAYS go with "To Pamper"!

I do my nails weekly anyway, like another poster had said. But recently I''ve switched over to softer, more neutral colors - french, pink, clear, etc. as I think they make for better-looking handshots (you know... just in case

)

 

[smithsmith]

Oh god, I have been desperately trying to nurse my nails into decent condition "just in case!" Even though I know it''s not coming for a while. I would say that the best course of action would be for her to do a good job on her nails herself - if she goes to the salon and then it doesn''t happen, the boyfriend might know what was up and feel bad for disappointing her!

 

[chiquitapet]

Date: 1/26/2009 5:29:30 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I''ve heard girls talk about that...but for me, I do my own nails every week anyway (on Friday''s) because I always like to look nice. So when a certain ''special'' occasion arises, I''m good to go baby!

Your friend should just do whatever feels best for herself. There is a possibility that he might catch on if she doesn''t usually do this. Maybe tell her to start now so it doesn''t look so obvious next month...

Ditto!

 

[gryffindor]

I don''t get my nails done very often anymore because the manicures get beat up really fast wearing gloves in a health care setting all day. I''m surprised you all have such observant boyfriends. If I did get my nails done, I''m pretty sure FF wouldn''t notice and if he did, he wouldn''t say or assume anything. He''d just figure I was doing some girly maintenance ritual he didn''t need to know about and would go right back to watching the score of the game.

I think she should go get a manicure! JCarla''s red nail polish looks great in the pictures she posted in her thread. Even if the proposal didn''t happen, your friend would have her pretty nails to stare at all week or until they chip. Now this thread has me motivated. I''m going to do my own nails at home this weekend. When I go visit FF next month, I''ll be sure to walk into the nail place the minute it opens!

 

[Blackpaw]

id say just dont mention it - sadly i think most guys wouldnt notice a manicure, particularly when they''re nervous about something!!

 

[wishinpink]

I would totally get the manicure, and if he asks about why she got one, just say sweetly- I wanted to look pretty for our anniversary!